Gave up masturbation for New Years...

LegacyUser

Hello,

I know the title sounds funny but I'm dead serious here!

I decided for New Years that I was going to give up masturbation. Perhaps not completely but at least not as often as I was doing it.

I am a make in my late 20's and havent had a relationship for 2 years.

I have always tended to masturbate alot as I always had a high sex drive. However in the last year or so I noticed that my erections were not as "erect" as the should be and without getting into too much detail the whole process was only lasting a matter of seconds.

I noticed aswell that my penis seemed dead, kinda lifeless and smaller (if thats possible). I am beginning to fear impotence!!

I am starting to get worried that if I got involved with a girl that somehow this would affect matters and she wont stick around.

Please help

Talliesin

See a doctor.

Victor

You are getting older, eventually by the time you hit 70 it might be quite difficult to get it up at all. Its part of the aging process like more wrinkles, less hair, hard toenails .....

Do talk to a doctor, see what he says. Lifestyle might be part of it.

However, I suspect you won't have a huge problem if you have a live female in front of you.

LegacyUser

nogoingsolo wrote:

I am not starting to get worried that if I got involved with a girl that somehow this would affect matters and she wont stick around.

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I meant I AM starting to get worried

gandalf

Well you are denying yourself some protection from prostrate cancer.

http://discoveryhealth.co.uk/men/m_story.asp?storyid=115310&oldstoryid=47805&feature=

LegacyUser

gandalf wrote:

Well you are denying yourself some protection from prostrate cancer.

http://discoveryhealth.co.uk/men/m_story.asp?storyid=115310&oldstoryid=47805&feature=

I'd rather die early of that than loose out on a fullfilling sex life!

Victor

nogoingsolo wrote:

I'd rather die early of that than loose out on a fullfilling sex life!

Thats a bit flippant.

Getting things checked out is the way to go. The alternative is having a bag strapped to leg and urinating through a tube.

LegacyUser

Victor wrote:

Thats a bit flippant.

Getting things checked out is the way to go. The alternative is having a bag strapped to leg and urinating through a tube.

Yea, sorry! That wasn't the best post I ever made! I don't mean that at all and apologies if that upsets anyone who has or knows somebody who may have suffered from it.

seamus

Pam and her five sisters are no subsitute for a female in front of you, no matter how much you try and fool your brain into thinking otherwise by using porn, etc. Try lay off it fully for a while. Your libido is getting bored.

There may also be other factors affecting your ability to get an erection (without actually affecting your sex drive), namely drugs (prescription and otherwise), alcohol and tobacco.

I would also advise a trip to the doc though too, just to make sure there's nothing physically wrong.

When you do get a lady in the sack, you should see a return to former glory - provided that you don't dwell on the issue.

LegacyUser

seamus wrote:

Pam and her five sisters are no subsitute for a female in front of you, no matter how much you try and fool your brain into thinking otherwise by using porn, etc. Try lay off it fully for a while. Your libido is getting bored.

There may also be other factors affecting your ability to get an erection (without actually affecting your sex drive), namely drugs (prescription and otherwise), alcohol and tobacco.

I would also advise a trip to the doc though too, just to make sure there's nothing physically wrong.

When you do get a lady in the sack, you should see a return to former glory - provided that you don't dwell on the issue.

Yea I guess your right! I don't do drugs or smoke and my alcohol intake is minimal compared to most.

I do suffer from depression somewhat thought so maybe thats a factor!

seamus

Yep. A quick google showed me that antidepressants can have exactly the effects that you mention (they tinker with dopamine and other "happiness/excitedness" chemicals).

If you do take antidepressants, maybe mention it the next time you see a doc, there may be alternatives he can recommend.

py2006

Lay off yourself dude

LegacyUser

seamus wrote:

Yep. A quick google showed me that antidepressants can have exactly the effects that you mention (they tinker with dopamine and other "happiness/excitedness" chemicals).

If you do take antidepressants, maybe mention it the next time you see a doc, there may be alternatives he can recommend.

I haven't gone to doctor about depression so I aint on any kinda of prescriptions at all!

rugbug86

i was gonna say:
"jeez, it must be hard for you man" but i thought it might be in bad taste...

as everyone else has said, go to the doc and get it seen to.

Zillah

gandalf wrote:

Well you are denying yourself some protection from prostrate cancer.

http://discoveryhealth.co.uk/men/m_story.asp?storyid=115310&oldstoryid=47805&feature=

Uh huh...

This protective effect also seemed to be greater for men in their 20s. For example, those who ejaculated five times or more at this age were a third less likely to develop prostate cancer in later life, according to the study published in BJU International.

That doesn't make any sense. Do them mean to imply that if you ejaculate 5 times during the year of 20...wtf?

Binomate

I believe it is in vodoo tradition that eating period blood helps this problem. I'm serrious as well. you can check wikipedia or google period blood eating. They put it in each others tea.

Blub2k4

You have simply trained yourself to come when flaccid by overmasturbation, your body knows what is coming ( excuse the pun) and thinks ah might as just get on with it and doesn't even bother to make you fully erect, lay off it a while good idea, but get a woman or you will probably end up with problems with speed there too.

py2006

Binomate wrote:

I believe it is in vodoo tradition that eating period blood helps this problem. I'm serrious as well. you can check wikipedia or google period blood eating. They put it in each others tea.

Sick freak!

LegacyUser

I wouldn't worry about it. I think you should start spanking it again - before you become totally frustrated and uptight and 'de stuff' starts to cum out your ears. When you are all tense and can't sleep - remember - pull 'de baldy lad' and release the tension.

Chucky the tree

seamus wrote:

Pam and her five sisters are no subsitute for a female in front of you, no matter how much you try and fool your brain into thinking otherwise by using porn, etc. Try lay off it fully for a while. Your libido is getting bored. .

Some people even try and put nail varnish on their hand to give it that "lady" effect




eh....so i have heard anyway...

Binomate

py2006 wrote:

Sick freak!

There is more than one vodoo worshiper. That should be freaks. It's plural.

LegacyUser

Well, if you're like me and there's NO CHANCE IN HELL a decent woman would go near you, you may as well have a good time on your own.

Lex Luthor

Blub2k4 wrote:

You have simply trained yourself to come when flaccid by overmasturbation, your body knows what is coming ( excuse the pun) and thinks ah might as just get on with it and doesn't even bother to make you fully erect, lay off it a while good idea, but get a woman or you will probably end up with problems with speed there too.

110% correct.

Give it a rest for a few weeks like Blub says and you'll be back to your good old self. Also, get yourself some new material.;)

turbot

I suspect several things are happeneing in parallel here for you:

1) Your youthful vitality is waning, somewhat, due to age and you haven't paid enough attention to health / nutrition / exercise to generate the kind of energy levels it's possible to maintain as you grow up, provided you are more conscious of what you eat and do.

In particular, there are specific nutrients that your body needs to make you feel horny with qualtiy..... read up on what Patrick Holford has to say about this stuff:

http://www.patrickholford.com/


2) Regular masturbation is deemed to be healthy by most sex therapists, though I think what they have in mind when they say that is masturbation in conjunction with learning in detail about yourself and your sexual preferences, and training yourself to enjoy sex more as you do... and understand whether you have a fetish for girl in gloves... etc.

So if you've trained yourself to cum after 20 seconds... then you need to deal with that. Not masturbating is better than nothing, though probably will only have a limited effect on your neural pathways associated with ejaculation.

What would be smarter would be to masturbate much more elaborately... and learn all kinds of self control and about all kinds of useful sexual fantasies in a way that would enhance your relationships, vs limited the quality of your sex life.

For example, you might want to read:

"The Multi-Orgasmic Man" By Dr Mantak Chia

3) If you admit to being a bit depressed... then masturbating, for you, was probably a "draining" form of escapism.

So I think you need to get your life sorted out.

If you've had decent sexual contact or female companionship for two years, then really need to get your life sorted, because unless you do something positive and drastic, whats to say that you'll have any in the next three years?

David DeAngelo has pretty useful perspetives on this:

http://www.doubleyourdating.com/

Paul McKenna's book is practical, easy yet based upon some of the most powerful strategies for personal change.

"Change your life in 7 days" by Paul McKenna

4) I don't know what kind of exercise you do.... studying Yoga is probably a good idea because thats all about precise muscle control. Girls who've done a lot of yoga are often much better in bed. So you might meet some women and get better at pleasing them in the process.

5) Why don't you immerse yourself in literature that will actually help you to fulfill womens sexual fantasies and rock their worlds? Masturbation is selfish, in a way, because it means that you are not using that same sexual energy to help someone else enjoy themselves (depending on how kinky you are)

And last, but not least, reading Robert Anton Wilson, especially "Sex, Drugs and Magick" or sometimes labelled "Sex and Drugs" may inspire you somewhat to get it together.

turbot

Binomate wrote:

There is more than one vodoo worshiper. That should be freaks. It's plural.

Hey,

If you're a catholic, and you believe in the ritual labelled mass, then every Sunday you engage in acts of canabalism and blood drinking.

Anyway, if a hot little american dancer girl walked up to you and said "Don't you wish your girlfriend was a freak like me?" what would you say?

Binomate

turbot wrote:

Hey,

If you're a catholic, and you believe in the ritual labelled mass, then every Sunday you engage in acts of canabalism and blood drinking.

Anyway, if a hot little american dancer girl walked up to you and said "Don't you wish your girlfriend was a freak like me?" what would you say?

I'd tell her to piss off tbh.

Dragan

nogoingsolo wrote:

I'd rather die early of that than loose out on a fullfilling sex life!

Just so you know, you are a bloke, and blokes were designed to screw. Plain and simple. We are slaves to procreation. As such, lack of any such activity, be in with ladies, others gents or solo, will have some detrimental affects on your health. As previously posted one is possible prostate issues. The second is that you will be releasing less and less testosterone ( testosterone is release after the money shot basically ).

Less testosterone is not really going to help your current situation.