Lonely for female companionship - suggestions

LegacyUser

Heya there,

Apologies that this post may, in some way, overlap with a similar one i notice has just been posted. I hope people understand why I'm posting here and not in the "things to do in.." forum.

My question is: does anyone know of any websites that would give a listing of courses etc. that are runing in Dublin?

Basically, as pathetic as it sounds, i'm lonely for female companionship. As it stands, its been over 3 years since my last relationship, which is long enough for my virginity to have regrown . For once in my life, I've decided to do something about this situation other than just moan. However, as i CAN'T chat women up in pubs and clubs, and there are NO women in work, I feel my only other option would be some sort of night class or anything (suggestions welcome) that doesn't involve drunkinly shouting some chat-up line into a girls ear. I don't want to be sleazy about this - ogling women in some yoga class- so I'm going to pick something that I can be interested in, and if nothing happens on the romance front, at least I'll have learned Swahili or how to reframe a picture. Though, just to clear things up, my goal here is not a shag - I really want something more lasting and special.

I've looked at the sticky in the "things to do in..." forum (event guide, inDublin etc.), but those give listings more about one off events, i.e. gigs, films etc., all of which i can go to with my friends. Any websites or other suggestions would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

Beau!

AngryBadger

I don't think those kind of clubs exist man. Pick an interest and get involved in a group that pursues it, that's the best advice i can offer.

rugbug86

if you're near Drumcondra, rosmini have night classes. other schools do them too, ballymun comp did them aswell. and i think there's a book about adult night-time education in easons. that might help.

chuckles30

have you ever tried any of the internet dating websites - it is very popular and there are lots of people doing it, even though they may not admit it. I met my current bf through it. There are a couple of good Irish sites that I have used, I'm not sure if I'm allowed mention them here but I'll try - I'm sure someone will tell me if I'm not allowed - I don't mean to break any rules. You could try maybefriends.com or anotherfriend.com I've used both and met some lovely people and even made some new friends, even if it didn't develop into a relationship.

Jorja

Hi

As another poster suggested - night courses are a great way to meet people. I have heard of another dating website which has gotten a great amount of feedback called www.woo.ie

Good Luck

chandira

Take up something like salsa/tango etc dancing. You meet lots of people, dance with different partners all the time, it's a good way to get out there, meet lots of girls in a non pick-up environment and it's very sociable.

Victor

Jorja wrote:

Hi As another poster suggested - night courses are a great way to meet people. I have heard of another dating website which has gotten a great amount of feedback called www.woo.ie Good Luck

I hope you aren't advertising.

projectmayhem

Victor wrote:

I hope you aren't advertising.

1 post too, join date of jan 2006

spam alarm is slowly cranking up!

OP: don't just pick some random course/club that'll have women. pick something you're interested in. if you don't meet women through it, you'll meet friends, end up going places/doing things which'll eventually involve bumping into women with similar interests

Chucky the tree

projectmayhem wrote:

1 post too, join date of jan 2006

spam alarm is slowly cranking up!

OP: don't just pick some random course/club that'll have women. pick something you're interested in. if you don't meet women through it, you'll meet friends, end up going places/doing things which'll eventually involve bumping into women with similar interests

Oh Cilla black eat your heart out!

projectmayhem

Chucky the tree wrote:

Oh Cilla black eat your heart out!

well i got you your boyfriend didn't i?

LegacyUser

projectmayhem wrote:

OP: don't just pick some random course/club that'll have women. pick something you're interested in. if you don't meet women through it, you'll meet friends, end up going places/doing things which'll eventually involve bumping into women with similar interests

That was pretty much my intention. I don't wan't to go with the singular goal of trying to "score some hotty". If i meet some one nice, all the better. If i don't, well thats life. I think i'm not alone here in my situation, so who knows?

The whole internet dating thing is a possibility, but i'm a bit wary of the type of people you apparently can meet on-line - bunny boilers and that. I'll admit though that i am being a little fussy. Possibly this is more to do with fear than anything else.

However, i'm still at a loss as to what to do . Ideally I'd like to be able to go into a situation were everyone is relaxed and there is no pressure like i would feel in a club.

Thanks for the replies up to now.

AARRRGH

Why not join a human rights organisation?

1. You're doing something good
2. It's mostly females
2.5 It's mostly nice, caring, females

I know a few people who have met their partner this way

vibrant

chandira wrote:

Take up something like salsa/tango etc dancing. You meet lots of people, dance with different partners all the time, it's a good way to get out there, meet lots of girls in a non pick-up environment and it's very sociable.

Those salsa dance evenings have a bit of a reputation... apparently they're THE place to go if you want sleazy men to hit on you! I've heard one too many "there was a creep in my dance class" stories to be convinced otherwise.

py2006

I know how you feel buddy. Its hard to get chatting to the girls in pubs and clubs. I think its a Dublin thing though. It seems to be easier outside of Dublin.

I am going to be hated for saying this but I think there is a huge stuck-up element amongst Dublin girls. Not all of them of course. Its just an observation I have made over the last few years.

The best way, from my own experience, is when you meet up with friends in the pub and they bring along some other friends of theirs and you get chatting that way.

I don't have the level of arrogance and self belief some blokes have to just walk up to random girls and start chatting. And you can forget waiting for the girls to come to you.

Unless of course you go to England. My mate said the girls in Liverpool chat the men up! :O

I've had the worst look with women in the last year or so. But it was from making friends with girls and getting along really well with them and mistaking friendliness on their part as some form of romantic interest! SOooooo embarrassing!

Anyway, I am waffling now and gone off the point!

I hope things work out well for ya!

chandira

vibrant wrote:

Those salsa dance evenings have a bit of a reputation... apparently they're THE place to go if you want sleazy men to hit on you! I've heard one too many "there was a creep in my dance class" stories to be convinced otherwise.

There probably are a few creepy guys, but in my experience its folks out for a bit of fun, and you get to meet lots of people. I've never hit on/been hit on by anyone there. Depends where you go too, I'm talking classes more than clubs really.

Saruman

Join movie extras if you can take some time off work and work on a movie.. i met someone doing that on king arthur in 2003... not with her any more... im now married but it sort of opened a floodgate.

Jorja

Sorry OP for interuppting your thread but just wanted to clear something up:

1. I am not advertising
2. My friend joined woo - they liked it
3. Another poster mentioned dating websites - hence my suggestion

Anything else needed

rsynnott

Victor wrote:

I hope you aren't advertising.

If so, it's a one-off, hasn't been spammed here before. It's a new site, though, so seems likely. And it looks to have been spammed elsewhere. Tsk.

*adds to list of spammed sites to keep an eye on on boards*
(So far the list is small:
airtalk.ie
perfumeireland.com
)

ando

Saruman wrote:

Join movie extras if you can take some time off work and work on a movie..

whats that then?

b3t4

I'm surprised that no one has mentioned this but the website http://www.nightcourses.com/ has information on pratically every kind of nightcourse going in Ireland. Have a look for nightcourses that you'd find interesting and maybe that'll lead you to finding a female with similar interests to yourself.

A.

AngryBadger

chandira wrote:

Take up something like salsa/tango etc dancing. You meet lots of people, dance with different partners all the time, it's a good way to get out there, meet lots of girls in a non pick-up environment and it's very sociable.

Salsa is a fantastic may to meet the ladies, believe me And the internet dating thing is pretty handy to......believe me

Plastic Scouser

py2006 wrote:

And you can forget waiting for the girls to come to you.

Unless of course you go to England. My mate said the girls in Liverpool chat the men up! :O

That's true that is! My sister and her friends even go out for the night in Liverpool specifically looking to chat up an Irish bloke!!

I suggest a visit!

BrianD3

This is just my opinion. Don't go to night classes expecting or hoping that there will be unattached women there. IME the vast majority of women that you'll meet at these classes will be mid twenties or older, already "taken", not very interested in making friends, meeting new people or socialising. if a woman goes to say a yoga class it's highly likely that she just wants to.....learn yoga. So they go to the classses and as soon as its finished they're out the door running home to the b/f or hubby.

I found all of this when doing postgraduate study. I did manage to make a couple of male friends though.

Even if you did meet an unattached girl at one of these classes and you asked her out for a coffee after class, she could freak out as they don't expect to be asked out in these situations. Many women don't particularly enjoy the pub scene but it is still the place where 99% of social interaction happens and is the norm in this country. Remember too that a shy woman will have little difficulty meeting men in a pub as long as she looks reasonably OK. The result of this is that you don't get women posting in this forum about how to meet guys at night classes.

mambo

chandira wrote:

There probably are a few creepy guys, but in my experience its folks out for a bit of fun, and you get to meet lots of people. I've never hit on/been hit on by anyone there. Depends where you go too, I'm talking classes more than clubs really.

I'm a (non-creepy?) guy and while I've never hit on anyone at a salsa class/club (I think), I did meet my girlfriend through salsa

Yeah, there's a few weirdos I suppose, but there usually are in any walk of life.

For salsa classes/clubs, see http://www.salsapod.net/ireland/ - try it!

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice and links everyone.

mountainyman

There is nothing sleazy about doing yoga. It is a great way to meet women and it is extremely good for you.

That isn't meet in the 15 year old sense.

No_Regrets

Hey, I think night classes, salsa, etc are all very good ways of meeting women. I have been to these kinda classes myself, never chatted up!, but did always notice that there are more women than men. To be honest, I've always found us women are delighted to have some men there and it's always interesting to meet new people. Besides that, not everyone in bars/clubs are the wrong kinda people, so have the courage to maybe talk to a girl some night who looks like she might be your kinda person. There are plenty of genuine people in every area of life (and every kind of social situation) so just try build up your confidence and go for it - all the best!

Fools Gold

Actually movie extras is a great place to meet people. Im not signed up to them but I do work in the movie industry. Extras spend a lot of the time waiting around and its a great time to sit and talk to people

foggy

There is a club in dublin for single people, I remember seeing a flyer for it, it was in the tourist information centre off grafton st. I can't remember the name of it now though.

An evening course is a good idea.