lonely

katieo

this is a bit of a long story...ive been goin out wit my bf for nearly a year now n i do love him. i have/had 2 different groups of friends one group love him even though they no we have d odd arguement(cough cough)...and the other group that im in college hate him one of these girls have known him alot loner then me and jus goes on about how he's bad for me??anyway jus before xmas i had a big fight(had previous fights wit them bt nothing like this) with the group who hate him and we're not speaking at the moment. thing is he's now gone back to college(dublin) and im at home in college. all my friends who do like him and are talkin to me are in different colleges or busy wit their bf's so im kinda getting sad and lonely. i jus seem to be walkin around college by myself(never rele got to no any1 new when i started 2 yrs ago) and its making me think about quiting college all together?? im not liking being this down but dont know what to do?? if i sort things out wit the people im in college wit i know that in a week they'll find something else to fight with me about i just dont consider them real friends anymore but dont know what to do to get out of this depression that i seem to be goin through???

Mr Magnolia

Is there any social clubs in the college you could join?

Have your x-mates from college got boyfriends - they could be jealous of you??

Canis Lupus

Sounds like girls to me..... They could argue over anything..... The thought of falling out with a mate because of who they go out with boggles my mind altho I do notice the phrase "odd argument, cough cough". Maybe the boyfriend is a complete tosser and the OP gets bitchy over having her BF criticised.

Who knows.

Anyway to the OP you have no friends then go make some. Join a club in your college is the usual thing to say right around now.

Nalz

Sparks400 wrote:

Is there any social clubs in the college you could join?

Have your x-mates from college got boyfriends - they could be jealous of you??

yeah try to get involved in social clubs... I know it sounds like work in a way and a lot of hassle; not to mention if your anyway shy, but it will be worth it. If you be yourself and give people a chance people will respond to that and before ya know it there wont be enough space on your sim card for phone numbers! goodluck

BigArnie

Sounds to me like the group of girls you fell out with aren't really your friends at all. You say you fell out with them over their concern for your personal well being and concern over the guy you're seeing. But if they really were concerned for you, they wouldn't neglect you like that. Are these girls single? Maybe they just don't want a bloke in the mix of their 'single girls' circle? You say that some of them know him longer than you do. Perhaps they're just jealous? Maybe they fancy him?

My advice - get new friends who'll stand by you regardless of what personal decisions you make.

sweety4uall

is he good for you?could be they just worried.sounds to me like you should confront them,and sort it all out once and for all.what have u got to lose.take care hon.

LegacyUser

lonely?... one solution...

circles.. its all about the circles...

LundiMardi

this happened just before xmas, and now, the 2nd week into January you're feeling lonely and are thinking of dropping out????? wtf????

No offence, but i think you need to do a bit of growing up, talking about dropping out of college because you fell out with your friends seems a tad childish don't ya think? Granted you may feel lonely, but i can guarantee this won't be the first time, what will you do when you have a family to support and fall out with a work mate? will you just leave work? I don't think so..

With regards to your friends, they seem like dicks! Just start chatting to random people, you have class mates yeah? start a conversation about college work or something like that.. if you're in the canteen and you see a class mate eating alone or something, go sit next to them... whatever

AngryBadger

Sounds like you have problems with college and you just want an excuse to leave.

You mention your' bf initially, thus indicating that he is the source of the problem, then you move onto your friends, and you seem to say that you're arguing with some of them, (or all of them?), and that's the problem. Then you make a leap to leaving college in a bid to solve whatever the problem is.

Being charitable I'll suggest that college isn't all you'd hoped it would be, it's really just secondary school, but with a bigger playground, and more syllables. However, dropping out now, over something as frivolous as ....well, whatever you're saying is getting you down, that would be foolish.

Being uncharitable, I'd say you need to get off your tod. Join a society or two. The people you know locally, tey don't all have to be the best friends in the world, friendship works by degrees, if you're lucky you'll have a small handful of truly great friends. But in the mainstay, you will know a lot of people more casually, these are people you may have a coffee, or a drink with, or head out with, but you won't have any special affinity with them. Which is fine. If you have that with te people you know locally, then give them a call, if you're expecting to have "The Ultimate Friendship" with everyone you meet in college, that's not going to happen.