Light Sleeper

BoozyBabe

Not wanting to hijack another thread so I posted this to ask my question:

I'm a really light sleeper. Any little noise at all will waken me.
I.E. I can't wear a watch to bed as the ticking keeps me awake, anything with a regulare beat / noise will prevent me from sleeping.
Unless very drunk, anyone moving around in the house at night will wake me up.

A partners loud breathing beside me can keep me awake, but I have been able to associate this with a nice feeling in the past so I can drift off to sleep with this, though it's never a restful sleep, plus, if they move at all in the bed, that's me awake.
You can forget if the partner snores, I'm awake for the night.

In past relationships I resorted to 1st sleeping in a separate bed, & then to sleeping in a separate room altogether to get a good nights sleep.

My problem:- There's nothing I find nicer than falling asleep & waking up in the morning beside the one I love. I someday hope to settle down with my Mr Right & live happily ever after (or something like that), but I want his bed to be my bed & I want to sleep well.

Has anyone else suffered from being very light sleepers & have you overcome it?
Do you think being able to sleep through potential snoring is something that will come with time for me, or am I doomed??

This is a big issue for me, because it used to take away so much from my previous relationships & I want to overcome it for future relationships.

Any advice?

AdviseMan

Hot milk? (I dunno why but for some reason when I typed that I thought, does that sound leud)

Victor

Try the reuseable foam ear plugs you can get from pharmacies for about €1.

BoozyBabe

Victor wrote:

Try the reuseable foam ear plugs you can get from pharmacies for about €1.

Yea, I do resort to ear plugs on occasions where it's essential that I get a goods night sleep, but they tend to give me headaches.

So far I'm not being reassured by this thread. I was hoping people would be saying, yea sure, that was me but after a few years sleeping together I don't even notice he's there etc etc etc..............:(

Guess I'm doomed!!

Tobias Greeshman

I'm a really light sleeper and bearly anything will wake me and find it next to impossible to get back asleep.

In the past I tried Camomile tea and that helped a little bit in relaxing me just before I go asleep. But lately I'm finding having a bottle of beer and cigarette knocks me out pretty quickly.

But when I do sleep with my g/f (at the weekends) on occassion I end up getting no sleep at all with while she's practically unconscious and I'm pretty pissed off for the next day with getting no sleep.

Other than not going to bed until your eyes are nearly shutting in your head. Also try doing a search on boards for "sleeping problems" you should get loads of threads offering remedies.

ARGINITE

This sounds totally stupid but I have a friend who swears by it, listen to music.

yawn

listening to music totally works, i am a lightsleeper but when i listen to my mp3 player i find that it's alot easier to sleep.

Elessar

I'm a light sleeper aswell, but nothing I know of helps, apart from alcohol. I also constantly turn and move about in bed, like every 3 minutes. I can't not keep moving. It's one thing that prevents me from sleeping anywhere other than a flat bed. If I try to sleep in a chair for example, just as I'm about to drift off I jerk awake suddenly.

Anyone else like me? Or am I alone?

White Rabbit

Perhaps it would be best to treat the cause and not the symptoms.

Earplugs, alcohol and drugs are only masking an underlying problem.
Treat that problem and you won't need them.

A trip to psychologist might be in order?

SexeeAussie

Boozybabe, I am EXACTLY the same

So much so, that I cannot even sleep with my 4year old daughter....she snores, she moves and well, she is 'there'.

We play musical beds. She generally falls asleep in my bed with me, then I move, then she finds me, then I move again!

I reckon I get about 5 hours MAX a night.



Don't know what the answer is!

Appolonia

Hi BoozyBabe,

I empathise with you - I'm exactly the same, every tiny noise that other people cant even hear wakes me up.

Having said that, I find that you can get used to noises. For example the apartment above me has a grandfather clock which chimes really loudly every half hour. At the start it woke me every half hour, but now I am so used to it, it doesnt wake me.
Another apartment overlooked a building site, and there were beeping trucks all night. At the start I was in tears with tiredness, but after a couple of months was used to it.

Like you, there is no way I could sleep if a boyfriend was breathing loudly or snoring or moving around in the bed.
So, now with my boyfriend (who luckily sleeps as quiet as a mouse), I have two single mattresses on a double bed base. It means that we still sleep beside each other, but when he shifts around in bed, I dont notice it.

Also have you considered sleeping tablets? They are a drug and can be addictive, but sometimes if you absolutely have to get a night's sleep, they can be good. Maybe herbal ones would be better, if they work for you.

I understand the problem, but with time, you should be able to get used to him there (so long as he's not snoring).

Best of luck,

dundalk cailin

What appolonia suggested bout the single bed mattresses sounds pretty good.
I sleep ok but i sleep talk and wake others i do it every night and generally talk for a while. any suggestions on how that can be combatted? i know its not a problem for me as such but people in the same room or the next room usually wake up to my talking so i must be pretty loud!!

BoozyBabe

Appolonia:
Thanks, that's kind of what I was hoping someone would say:- that with time you get used to noise & learn to sleep through it, as that's what I really want.

I don't like taking medication, but again, there has been the odd time where I've taken a sleeping tablet as I knew I wouldn't sleep otherwise.

I've also done the separate matress thing, well actually 2 beds pushed together. While I'm still in the same room as my (then) partner, there's still a disconnect there. I mean, you can't roll over & give him a cuddle because of the big ridge in the 2 matresses.

Also, my sis & her bf stayed over once, it was a small apartment so they were on an airbed in the living room. When we came in the next morn to get ready for work, they were fast asleep, wrapped up in each other.

It looked so sweet, something I'd love to be able to do, but I can't have anything touching me when I'm sleeping.

I'm going to try really hard to overcome this though as I think there's something very intimate & loving about sharing a bed (just for the purpose of sleeping) with your partner.

ARGINITE

BoozyBabe wrote:

I'm going to try really hard to overcome this though as I think there's something very intimate & loving about sharing a bed (just for the purpose of sleeping) with your partner.

Ya theirs something about sleeping with your better half, I always seemed to sleep better.
The biggest thing that I miss from my last relationship and something you cant have while your single. Note to-self: Get gf