expectations

pink0304

Me and my boyfriend are coming nearer and nearer to doing it and it will be my first time just wondering what will he expect down there anything I should shouldn’t do etc and yes I know no ones first time is what expected

We've been going out 4 months

ravenhead

pink0304 wrote:

Me and my boyfriend are coming nearer and nearer to doing it and it will be my first time just wondering what will he expect down there anything I should shouldn’t do etc and yes I know no ones first time is what expected

He won't expect anything, just try to relax & enjoy it, you'll never get your first time back so don't ruin it by thinking about what you should & shouldn't be doing, just go with it & ENJOY!:p

Kersh

Agreed ^^^^ dont forget to enjoy it, plenty of kisses....

C_Breeze

he'll expect 'it' to be shaved , seriously.

um7y1h83ge06nx

Hey, don't fret. Make a good night of it. And don't lose your virginity like a girl I know; my bro helped her lose her virginity (he didn't know she was a virgin at the time) on the grass in a local town park!

LegacyUser

C_Breeze wrote:

he'll expect 'it' to be shaved , seriously.

No he wont, and I very much doubt if he hasn't seen/touched "it" already.
No one will expect you to shave, and if you are already shaved then bully for you


Dunno how old you are, but if its possible to go away for a weekend or something then do it, last thing you need is to have to force yourself to be all quiet, or to have to rush things because Mammy/Daddy/Sister is downstairs, or will be back from the shops any minute

pink0304

im 17 & he's 19, so no its not really both in college now so weekends are the only time we can see each other

ravenhead

sillysausage wrote:

No he wont, and I very much doubt if he hasn't seen/touched "it" already.
No one will expect you to shave, and if you are already shaved then bully for you


Dunno how old you are, but if its possible to go away for a weekend or something then do it, last thing you need is to have to force yourself to be all quiet, or to have to rush things because Mammy/Daddy/Sister is downstairs, or will be back from the shops any minute

Totally agree with this! & try not to get down & dirty outside .... really took the good out of my first time ... bit of a wash out if you know what I mean!:rolleyes:

ravenhead

pink0304 wrote:

im 17 & he's 19, so no its not really both in college now so weekends are the only time we can see each other

Bunk off for a day & go see him???

pink0304

Bit of a problem there see i would but im 250 miles awat travellin is a bit of a problem hard enough to get home the weekend

chandira

C_Breeze wrote:

he'll expect 'it' to be shaved , seriously.

Idiot.


To OP, be yourself, enjoy, and if it's great-great. If it's not, it doesn't matter..most people's first time is over pretty quickly anyway

C_Breeze

chandira wrote:

Idiot.


To OP, be yourself, enjoy, and if it's great-great. If it's not, it doesn't matter..most people's first time is over pretty quickly anyway

i know its vulgar ,but i wasnt trying to be cheeky! this is often overlooked.
especially since he probably never seen it before- and since the thread name is "expectations" hes probably expecting something hes seen in a magazine or movie (basically he has high expectation) - and i doubt hed be chuffed to find the rainforest down there .

Its a valid point , im just trying to be helpfull


PS ; you can get banned for callin people names , just lettin u know since youre new and all

chandira

@c.breeze

Maybe I looked before I leaped, my apologies..thought you were being facetious and saying she should be totally shaved..

Taking your post as you intended..would a guy really be that bothered, unless it was extremely overgrown?

C_Breeze

chandira wrote:

@c.breeze

Maybe I looked before I leaped, my apologies..thought you were being facetious and saying she should be totally shaved..

Taking your post as you intended..would a guy really be that bothered, unless it was extremely overgrown?

no prob .
well as long as it isnt infact "overgrown" there should be no worries about it.
something like that , that can be so easily overlooked can really ruin the 1st experience!

not that it happened to me ofcourse :rolleyes:
-i heard stories though

muckwarrior

C_Breeze wrote:

especially since he probably never seen it before

I'm speculating here, but if they've been going out for months and they're close to havin sex I think it's very unlikely that he hasn't seen it before. If so then the OP has to ask why? The lead up to your first time IMO should be gradual, so that when it does happen it's just a small step rather than a giant leap.

Nevyn

I would suggest that you sort out your contraceptive needs and pratice safe sex.

irlrobins

give urself plenty of time. you don't want to be rushed because your parents are only out for 20 mins or something. Give urself a couple of hours so ur relaxed with foreplay and have time to cuddle after instead of jumping out of bed and throwing ur clothes on before you get caught.

And don't forget contraception! :-)

Good luck!

Victor

Clean and tidy would be nice. A moist tangled mess of hair resembling a rainforest spoils the view.

C_Breeze

Victor wrote:

Clean and tidy would be nice. A moist tangled mess of hair resembling a rainforest spoils the view.

whoa , a lil too much there victor!

C_Breeze

C_Breeze wrote:

whoa , a lil too much there victor!

Ha ha it does though
Be confident and relax and have fun!!
use protection and remember when it comes to sex the more you practice the more perfect it gets:D

Jesper

You'll find it kinda sore.
He'll be worried that your hurting and think its his fault/technique.
You'll be wondering why he has a worried look on his face.
Reassure each other before starting!!
It'll be special but physically it won't be what ye expected. Be prepared for that! And practive safe sex. Correct time of month and pill or condom. Maybe even ask him to pull out when cumming even if he is wearing a condom. I'm only suggesting this because you as the girl will worry yourself sick about being pregnant after the first time. This is reassurance for you! Enjoy

Beruthiel

C_Breeze wrote:

he'll expect 'it' to be shaved , seriously.

cop yourself on c breeze, not everyone is as shallow as yourself,
read this forums charter with regards to unhelpful comments.

Sleepy

Could you perhaps find a reason to stay the weekend at your college? Let him tell his parents the same thing about staying the weekend at his college while he's actually visiting you for the weekend? One of my all-time best memories involves using a similar routine to snatch a couple of days away with my girlfriend when I was 18.

It really would be much better for you both if you could have your privacy somewhere for the whole day/night rather than just grabbing half an hour in one of your parents' houses...

C_Breeze

Beruthiel wrote:

cop yourself on c breeze, not everyone is as shallow as yourself,
read this forums charter with regards to unhelpful comments.

thats uncalled for,
read what victor said also.
how is that unhelpfull advise?
topic is called 'excpectations' ...i just stated what a young teeenage boy might EXPECT considering thats all that magazines and films you watch at that age are swarmed with.I doubt she even took offence to it.
Oh and dont call me shallow.

the Guru

C_Breeze wrote:

he'll expect 'it' to be shaved , seriously.

ha ha brilliant ,

but the poor girl is probably going though enough stress with her BF popping her Hymen ,

Check this forum out http://www.virgin-forum.com/ they most likely have all the answers you are looking for ... good luck and please dont let us know how it goes :-)

Steoob

Victor wrote:

Clean and tidy would be nice. A moist tangled mess of hair resembling a rainforest spoils the view.

eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwww..i feel dirty now

pink0304

Thanks

smiles

CONTRACEPTION!!!!! CONDOMS!

If you're dating then this could turn into a regular sexual relationship, please talk to a doctor or a family planning clinic and get your own needs sorted, both in terms of STIs and pregnancy.

illicit007

Hey babe, lots of girls don't actually come until they've been having sex for quite a few years. So my advice would be to get your first time out of the way but enjoy it at the same time if you can, but it only gets better. So get cracking! After a while it will be so good you'll know what all the hype is about.

LegacyUser

C_Breeze wrote:

i know its vulgar ,but i wasnt trying to be cheeky! this is often overlooked.
especially since he probably never seen it before- and since the thread name is "expectations" hes probably expecting something hes seen in a magazine or movie (basically he has high expectation) - and i doubt hed be chuffed to find the rainforest down there .

Its a valid point , im just trying to be helpfull


PS ; you can get banned for callin people names , just lettin u know since youre new and all

i have to agree with breeze very very few fellas prefere girls to have a lot of hair down there, really. I've hearf a few girls say how they don't think fellas care about this, in general they do.

Esel

C_Breeze wrote:

... you can get banned for callin people names , just lettin u know since youre new and all

Pot (Dec 05), kettle (Jan 06), etc.

I thought your post was idiotic. I am reserving judgement on you.

UberNewb

Victor wrote:

Clean and tidy would be nice. A moist tangled mess of hair resembling a rainforest spoils the view.

Oh god! That reminds me of my first time! I was a bit disappointed but hey I got stuck in!