Men of Munster - Where are ye?

Filly

Wandered over to this thread and as you can see new to the boards so hope I'm posting in the right place but having a Carrie (Sex in the City) moment and just in from a night out with the women - all were bemoaning the fact that there are no men around. Is it just a simple fact of too many women for the number of men that are out there or are we doing something wrong???? (very carrie-ish don't you think). There is a phenomenon of women out there that are now single at the grand age of 35 for various reasons (commitment phobic ex-boyfriends, careers, travelling etc) that have prevented us from meeting ye. We are well balanced (not a bunny boiler between us), independent i.e. we don't need to hunt in packs or go to the toilet in twos, vary from attractive to down right good looking, but its just not happening so where are we going wrong?? Not sure about internet dating, we have all tried it .. are there really that many guys out there that liked moonlit beach walks ..me thinks not…Now it doesn't make sense that there are men out there looking for women and so many women out there looking for men and never getting to meet but I now think its time to bring back the match makers, dance halls even show bands whatever it takes to get us out there face to face. I'm even thinking of giving that priest in Knock a call. What does anyone else think?

Until then waiting for the spark to light the flame.

monkeyfudge

I just had a Carrie moment too...

But it involved having pigs blood poured over my head.

billy the squid

Filly wrote:

Wandered over to this thread and as you can see new to the boards so hope I'm posting in the right place but having a Carrie (Sex in the City) moment and just in from a night out with the women - all were bemoaning the fact that there are no men around. Is it just a simple fact of too many women for the number of men that are out there or are we doing something wrong???? (very carrie-ish don't you think). There is a phenomenon of women out there that are now single at the grand age of 35 for various reasons (commitment phobic ex-boyfriends, careers, travelling etc) that have prevented us from meeting ye. We are well balanced (not a bunny boiler between us), independent i.e. we don't need to hunt in packs or go to the toilet in twos, vary from attractive to down right good looking, but its just not happening so where are we going wrong?? Not sure about internet dating, we have all tried it .. are there really that many guys out there that liked moonlit beach walks ..me thinks not…Now it doesn't make sense that there are men out there looking for women and so many women out there looking for men and never getting to meet but I now think its time to bring back the match makers, dance halls even show bands whatever it takes to get us out there face to face. I'm even thinking of giving that priest in Knock a call. What does anyone else think?

Until then waiting for the spark to light the flame.

quoted to prevent editing in the morning

Atrocity

why would it be edited?

funk-you

Filly wrote:

Wandered over to this thread and as you can see new to the boards so hope I'm posting in the right place but having a Carrie (Sex in the City) moment and just in from a night out with the women - all were bemoaning the fact that there are no men around. Is it just a simple fact of too many women for the number of men that are out there or are we doing something wrong???? (very carrie-ish don't you think). There is a phenomenon of women out there that are now single at the grand age of 35 for various reasons (commitment phobic ex-boyfriends, careers, travelling etc) that have prevented us from meeting ye. We are well balanced (not a bunny boiler between us), independent i.e. we don't need to hunt in packs or go to the toilet in twos, vary from attractive to down right good looking, but its just not happening so where are we going wrong?? Not sure about internet dating, we have all tried it .. are there really that many guys out there that liked moonlit beach walks ..me thinks not…Now it doesn't make sense that there are men out there looking for women and so many women out there looking for men and never getting to meet but I now think its time to bring back the match makers, dance halls even show bands whatever it takes to get us out there face to face. I'm even thinking of giving that priest in Knock a call. What does anyone else think?

Until then waiting for the spark to light the flame.

move to dublin and go to copper face jacks, thats what the rest of the munster women do.

Mr.Nice Guy

Filly wrote:

we don't need to hunt in packs or go to the toilet in twos

That's a relief. I have to say that when I'm discussing my turn-offs in women, going to the toilet in twos is high up on my list.

/sarcasm

Filly wrote:

Until then waiting for the spark to light the flame.

I'll bring the matches...

aidan_dunne

Filly wrote:

.....but having a Carrie (Sex in the City) moment

Filly wrote:

(very carrie-ish don't you think)

And that could very well be you're problem right there. In one post you made two Sex And The City references. If you're anything like that in real-life, no wonder the men might be trying to avoid you and your mates! Let me explain.

I think Sex And The City has a hell of a lot to answer for. In the past, oh, 5 years or so, I've seen a massive change in attitudes in Irish women in general. I can't believe the amount of women out there now who became so obsessed with that show that they thought life actually was supposed to be endless parties, endless shopping and endless pairs of €500 shoes and started trying desperately to live that kind of lifestyle. But, sorry girls, that was just a TV show, not real life and this is Ireland, not Manhatten, and while the Mr. Big's of New York might go for those sorts of girls, in general Irish guys don't. I know I certainly don't. I tend to find them a complete turn-off, to be honest and wouldn't go near one no matter how desperate I'd be. I can't stand self-obsessed, self-absorbed women like that. And, believe me, these days it seems nearly every second woman you come across has turned into a "Carrie" wannabe. And it's not attractive.

So girls, stop trying to be like Carrie, stop questioning every little aspect of your life and wondering "where am I going wrong." Stop trying to be like a SATC girl. You can be independent, hard-working and successful whilst still enjoying life but don't kid yourself into thinking this life is like an episode of SATC and one day your Mr. Big is going to come along and sweep you off your feet, into his stretch limo and off into the sunset. It's not going to happen. Ditch all (well, most!) of your expensive shoes, you don't need them (besides, no fella likes being with a girl who's more obsessed and in love with her shoes than him! ). And, dare I say it, maybe even lower your expectations of guys. Yes, shock horror, don't expect or go looking for a Prince Charming because you sure as hell won't get one in this country. Us Irish guys in general aren't like that so except it! Lower your expectations a bit of what you want and you might have a better chance of finding a fairly decent, down-to-earth fella who might like you. And, for God's sake, stop going on about SATC and Carrie this and Carrie that because us guys are sick of listening to it at this stage! That's probably the biggest turn-off of all!

billy the squid

Atrocity wrote:

why would it be edited?

it could be, when sobriety kicks in in the morning

cupthehand

Filly wrote:

Wandered over to this thread and as you can see new to the boards so hope I'm posting in the right place but having a Carrie (Sex in the City) moment and just in from a night out with the women - all were bemoaning the fact that there are no men around. Is it just a simple fact of too many women for the number of men that are out there or are we doing something wrong???? (very carrie-ish don't you think). There is a phenomenon of women out there that are now single at the grand age of 35 for various reasons (commitment phobic ex-boyfriends, careers, travelling etc) that have prevented us from meeting ye. We are well balanced (not a bunny boiler between us), independent i.e. we don't need to hunt in packs or go to the toilet in twos, vary from attractive to down right good looking, but its just not happening so where are we going wrong?? Not sure about internet dating, we have all tried it .. are there really that many guys out there that liked moonlit beach walks ..me thinks not…Now it doesn't make sense that there are men out there looking for women and so many women out there looking for men and never getting to meet but I now think its time to bring back the match makers, dance halls even show bands whatever it takes to get us out there face to face. I'm even thinking of giving that priest in Knock a call. What does anyone else think?

Until then waiting for the spark to light the flame.

Come to Limerick my drunken friend.....(number withheld)

joejoem

funk-you wrote:

move to dublin and go to copper face jacks, thats what the rest of the munster women do.

This joke + joejoem = Round of applause and standing ovation.

Setun

As it's been said already, DON'T live your life like SATC cos it was crap.

As for the Munster fellas, I don't know where they're hiding. Major sausagefest on in Wicklow at the mo so ya should head over here.

joe_chicken

monkeyfudge wrote:

I just had a Carrie moment too...

But it involved having pigs blood poured over my head.

took me a while to get this one...

god i've been watching too much Sex and The City lately and not enough Stephen King

But anyway... back on topic...

My main piece of advice would be not to dwell on it too much, and maybe a little less thinkin of what shoulda/woulda/coulda happened or will happen.

(only a little though...)

BuffyBot

Perhaps they heard you wannabe Carrie's were coming and they fled as their only other option should they be cornered by you all was hara-kiri.

Sleepy

aidan_dunne wrote:

And that could very well be you're problem right there. In one post you made two Sex And The City references. If you're anything like that in real-life, no wonder the men might be trying to avoid you and your mates! Let me explain.

I think Sex And The City has a hell of a lot to answer for. In the past, oh, 5 years or so, I've seen a massive change in attitudes in Irish women in general. I can't believe the amount of women out there now who became so obsessed with that show that they thought life actually was supposed to be endless parties, endless shopping and endless pairs of €500 shoes and started trying desperately to live that kind of lifestyle. But, sorry girls, that was just a TV show, not real life and this is Ireland, not Manhatten, and while the Mr. Big's of New York might go for those sorts of girls, in general Irish guys don't. I know I certainly don't. I tend to find them a complete turn-off, to be honest and wouldn't go near one no matter how desperate I'd be. I can't stand self-obsessed, self-absorbed women like that. And, believe me, these days it seems nearly every second woman you come across has turned into a "Carrie" wannabe. And it's not attractive.

So girls, stop trying to be like Carrie, stop questioning every little aspect of your life and wondering "where am I going wrong." Stop trying to be like a SATC girl. You can be independent, hard-working and successful whilst still enjoying life but don't kid yourself into thinking this life is like an episode of SATC and one day your Mr. Big is going to come along and sweep you off your feet, into his stretch limo and off into the sunset. It's not going to happen. Ditch all (well, most!) of your expensive shoes, you don't need them (besides, no fella likes being with a girl who's more obsessed and in love with her shoes than him! ). And, dare I say it, maybe even lower your expectations of guys. Yes, shock horror, don't expect or go looking for a Prince Charming because you sure as hell won't get one in this country. Us Irish guys in general aren't like that so except it! Lower your expectations a bit of what you want and you might have a better chance of finding a fairly decent, down-to-earth fella who might like you. And, for God's sake, stop going on about SATC and Carrie this and Carrie that because us guys are sick of listening to it at this stage! That's probably the biggest turn-off of all!

There's your answer Filly. Reality may sound harsh but it is actually real Ireland you live in rather than fantasy Manhatten.

That show has *ruined* more Irish women than the Church ever did...

Filly

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Brillant insight Sleepy
Thanks guys.. will take it all on board. Just want to be clear I wasn't having a go at Irish guys cos they are the best and there is plenty of Mr Bigs on this side of the water and not just in Manhattan and I know you're gonna think that Im hung up on SATC but that was my point.. that we are not living that lifestyle that we are all pretty normal and dont have high expectations.. just like having someone around to make a cuppa tea for and share the pack of bikkies instead of eating them all myself .... Get me to a gym I hear you say ..so roll on 2006 and lets hope that there is more like Mr Nice Guy ready to bring the matches!!