Wedding Etiquette

joejoem

I just found out about a wedding coming up that I have been invited to. A guy I know is getting married and there will be a few famous people there and I would really like to go (not just because of them, would like to go to the afters). The problem is, he is the only one I know there. I have an invite for me and guest, now can I bring a mate or is that just bad taste? I dont want to bring my ex because, well you know. And I dont really want to ask any potential ex's on a weekend away......

Whats the etiquette here? Can I bring a friend or does plus guest mean bring a girlfriend if you have one?

Beruthiel

joejoem wrote:

does plus guest mean bring a girlfriend if you have one?

that would be normally what it means
unless you're gay, then you could bring your partner

joejoem

Beruthiel wrote:

that would be normally what it means
unless you're gay, then you could bring your partner

Can I pretend?


Your lucky, I was going to post this in PI

whiskeyman

It would help if your "guest" is female.... lets put it that way
For seating arrangement, you'll be sitting with your guest, and it is usually your other half.
Would be interested to know if anyone done different though

BoozyBabe

joejoem wrote:

potential ex's

God, you're a real optimist, aren't you!!! :rolleyes:

Bring me!!!:D

Oh, & as for a useful comment:- don't know myself, but I'd say it means other half, if you had one.
On the other hand though, I have seen girls do it, but I guess that's more acceptable than 2 lads showing up (for some strange reason!)

Beruthiel

joejoem wrote:

Can I pretend?

I donno
can you?

monkeyfudge

Don't you have any friends who are female, but aren't ex-girlfriends?

Eoin

Is this a full invite (service and dinner) or just the afters?

I would be a bit pìssed off if I was paying €whatever per person for the dinner, and someone just brought their mate.

If it is just the afters, then it wouldn't be a huge deal to bring a mate, but I would think it strange to bring someone who didn't know the bride or groom.

joejoem

monkeyfudge wrote:

Don't you have any friends who are female, but aren't ex-girlfriends?

Ha, no. My sister. Oh and one that lives in Wales

Scrap that, I was with her initially, not that I'm a slut, I just dont have any female friends I havent been with. Ive never had a girlfriend who was very supportive of the idea of me having female friends

joejoem

eoin_s wrote:

Is this a full invite (service and dinner) or just the afters?

I would be a bit pìssed off if I was paying €whatever per person for the dinner, and someone just brought their mate.

If it is just the afters, then it wouldn't be a huge deal to bring a mate, but I would think it strange to bring someone who didn't know the bride or groom.

I dont think I will go to the dinner, I was going to go for the bit after the dinner.

Calluna

Hi there

I got married during the summer and while I don't think any of my guests brought a 'friend' who wasn't their boyf/girlf or partner, it wouldn't really have bothered me. I invited people because I wanted them to come and would have hated if someone felt they couldn't come because they would be on their own.

My sister in law brought her sister to a wedding during the summer because it was a really good school friend of hers and she really wanted to go to the wedding but wouldn't have known anyone. No one seemed to mind.

If you know your friend who is getting married well enough you should mention it to them (I know it isn't always possible depending on how friendly) or you'll need to put down on your wedding invite reply the name of the person you are bringing (or add a little note saying you hope they don't mind) and I'm sure it will be fine. Once you're there (unless it's very stuck up altogether) no-one will notice.

The only thing is if it is going to be a very small wedding in a very small venue where they are stuck for space and numbers and might not be as happy, but you should have an idea what your friend is like and make sure your present reflects that two mouths were fed and not one! (Terrible to say, but true...)

Hope it helps

Calluna

OK Apologies,

I didn't cop on that you were a guy...and spent so long writing the last post that there have been loads of other updates! It might not be as acceptable for two guys to go as friends, but I think it depends how confident you are. And if it's not for the dinner, don't worry a bit about it, bring as many as you like!!

Vokes

joejoem wrote:

and there will be a few famous people there...

Who are they? Please bring us back lots of pics

joejoem

BoozyBabe wrote:

God, you're a real optimist, aren't you!!! :rolleyes:

Bring me!!!:D

Oh, & as for a useful comment:- don't know myself, but I'd say it means other half, if you had one.
On the other hand though, I have seen girls do it, but I guess that's more acceptable than 2 lads showing up (for some strange reason!)

Well the only photo I have of you is when you were a youngun....

SofaKing wrote:

Who are they? Please bring us back lots of pics

Will do my best

BoozyBabe

joejoem wrote:

Well the only photo I have of you is when you were a youngun....

What, you mean to say you'd only bring me based on my looks!!!! (What about my wonderful personality?
&, excuse you, I'm STILL a youngun!:D

Guess what people here are saying is go on your own or find yourself a laydee!

joejoem

BoozyBabe wrote:

What, you mean to say you'd only bring me based on my looks!!!! (What about my wonderful personality?
&, excuse you, I'm STILL a youngun!:D

Guess what people here are saying is go on your own or find yourself a laydee!

Well you would have to meet my mammy first!

I'm guessing by the fact that you protested your age that you are over 25 then

BoozyBabe

Nope, not OVER 25.

Mammys love me.

Anyway, I'd better stop before we get told to take it to PM!!

Best of Luck anyways..

joejoem

Get a room guys, Take it to PM!

azezil

Calluna wrote:

It might not be as acceptable for two guys to go as friends, but I think it depends how confident you are.

eh why??