Work Nites Out

jonny68

Something i will miss about my job when i leave shortly,have been to a few and even though i might not necessarily talk to everyone in my job normally, usually on a nite out it's always good craic except maybe for 1 tart who thinks she's some sort of beauty queen or something,id like to think there will be a good social scene in whatever new job i start,do people here go on many work outings at all?;)

KdjaCL

Go to one the 1st one after you join, get drunk abuse everyone never go again.


Thats my strategy and im sticking to it.


kdjac

damnyanks

Usuaully when I go its to get to know the people I work with. People act one way in work or you may not get to see them in the right light... after a night out usually you've sussed what kind of person they are. Or at least think you have after towning those 8 tequilas.

RuggieBear

in vino veritas

Local Goddess

The people i work with are all now my best mates.It all started by going to the pub after work.We all went away last month and had a great laugh and we go out every week.Im quite lucky with the people i work with,its deadly!im sure ul have a great time!:D

jman0

That's funny cause i'm the opposite.
I never go out with my workmates, not even once.
It's not that i don't like them or enjoy their company it's just that i generally don't go to the pub anyway and when i do i dunno would i fancy being with the same people i work with, kind of seems sort of incestuous or insecure or something.
They probably think i'm a right bore, or stuck-up.

finlma

I hate going out with work-mates. I try to keep my work life and social life completely seperate. At work nights out you always get stuck talking to twats or talking about the job. No one in work knows much about me and thats the way I like to keep it. I socialise with my real friends.

QualderWahl

finlma wrote:

I hate going out with work-mates. I try to keep my work life and social life completely seperate. At work nights out you always get stuck talking to twats or talking about the job. No one in work knows much about me and thats the way I like to keep it. I socialise with my real friends.

But are work mates and "real" friendships totally incompatible ? I have been working for five years having spent the previous five years in college. I can honestly say that I have met just as many friends through work as I did in college. In fact, I would say that I now have more in common with work friends than many of those in my extended group from college.

I'm just curious if this experience is unique. Do other people strictly separate work and social lives and preclude the possibility of forming friendships in the workplace ? Sorry to sound like an amateur sociologist but my observations would lead me to believe that my experience is fairly typical.

finlma

QualderWahl wrote:

I'm just curious if this experience is unique. Do other people strictly separate work and social lives and preclude the possibility of forming friendships in the workplace ? Sorry to sound like an amateur sociologist but my observations would lead me to believe that my experience is fairly typical.

You probably are more the norm and me in the minority. I find that you are forced to be with the people you work with and a lot of the time they are not the type of people you get on with. I work in IT at the moment so maybe thats it - people tend to be a bit nerdy and talk shop too much.
I have become friends with colleauges before but as a rule I try to avoid it. No one in my current job really knows me or anything about me and thats the way I intend to keep it.

FergusF

I have made good friends through work in the past and sometimes meet up with current workmates but I'd say 80-90% of my socialising is with friends whom I don't work with.

I think it changes over time; in your first job esp if you're in a new town the easiest way to make friends is going out with your workmates. As time goes on you meet friends of their friends, meet random people through going out, hobbies etc. and you expand your circle.

Good to keep a balance I think, it is good for work relationships to go to team nights out, Xmas parties etc with workmates but not good to socialise with them exclusively, it can get a bit much for both social and work life if you see the same people day and night!

petes

finlma wrote:

I hate going out with work-mates. I try to keep my work life and social life completely seperate. At work nights out you always get stuck talking to twats or talking about the job. No one in work knows much about me and thats the way I like to keep it. I socialise with my real friends.

I hate talking about work when out on a work night out. But its inevitable. Especially when there is beer involved. And more often than not if its a meal first before beer you usually get stuck sitting beside the one person you dislike most from work. Roll on the christmas party:D