Asking a guy to...

LegacyUser

I'm posting anonymously for obvious reasons.
Basically, I've never had the guts to ask a guy to try the "back door" because I'm terrified he'll think I'm disgusting and a slut. I'd love to try it though. Does anyone have any advice? I'm not even talking full on sex, just a bit of experimenting.

The Troll

No, most guys will jump at the chance. Just use plenty of lube first time otherwise, yor muscles will tighten up. Keep it really wet so that he can move freely in and out. If you don't it'll hurt like hell.

Victor

I'm not sure if this thread is suited to PI. There is a Sex & Sexuality board.

WARNING: no off-topic, or un-constructive posts on this thread. Bans will result.

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Just ask him about experimenting with something different. See where it goes.

I would suggest you investigate the matter before going ahead, expecially regarding safe sex.

super_furry

I think most guys would be flattered that you trust them enough and are comfortable enough with them to try it.

whacker4fun

any guy will jump at the chance,its like every males fantasy,weel mine anyway,ive done it before and wat can i say it was:D

Sarah**

just saying it does hurt alot the first time if u dnt have lube so just b prepared! If u suggest it then he will defo be flattered. maybe he wants it too and just hasnt got the courage to suggest it or ask you....

Kersh

He will prob be delighted, its in a lot of guys fantasy lists. Ask him.

WhiteWashMan

just be relaxed, and ask him to go very slowly when entering you.

and if you want to bring it up, why not just ask him what his fantasy is, and hopefully he will ask you what yours is....

elexes

well imo i know 2 or 3 guys that wouldnt want it at all.... then again i know 50 that would jump at the chance . if u want it dont try to be shy about it just ask him would he be intrested in trying it . its a very quick question that has 2 answers and usually follow very quickly . use lots of lube and dont be hammered . if u are u wont know if ur hurt and take ur time . space it over a hour or so .

im sure if u google it ull find lots of crap but some good suggestions to get urself prepaired

annR

Can this be moved to Sex & Sexuality forum? There are some other threads like this popping up in PI and I don't think they're appropriate here.

ratboy

id say give him the old cead mile failte

Sarah**

why not this is a personal issue also?

Khannie

Yup, I agree that it's a PI.

Most lads would be more than happy to experiment like that because of the tightness aspect of anal.

If you do decide to try it, read up a bit on the interweb first.

Good luck.

padser

annR wrote:

Can this be moved to Sex & Sexuality forum? There are some other threads like this popping up in PI and I don't think they're appropriate here.

Im almost certain Sex & Sexaulity is limited to Mods (and i can see why), I def dont have access to it and think i read somewhere only the mods do. Its obviously going to lead to some of these threads ending up here, they are after all personal issues.....even if they are of a sexual nature

Mr.Nice Guy

padser wrote:

Im almost certain Sex & Sexaulity is limited to Mods (and i can see why), I def dont have access to it and think i read somewhere only the mods do. Its obviously going to lead to some of these threads ending up here, they are after all personal issues.....even if they are of a sexual nature

I think you need to aply for access though I'm not sure who you apply to? Lafortezza?

pickarooney

you gots to pay to talk dirty round these parts.

alfa147

This thread is a joke... can noone else see this...

user name fudgecake? helllo... it does'nt sound like a girl either..

some teen having a laugh id say.

Doodee

easy enough way to do it is when your on your belly/doggy and he tries to enter you, just grab it and move it closer to your anus then say "I feel like trying something different".

Tbh, alot of guys who wouldn't do it are either stupidly homophobic or else Prudish and boring.

whacker4fun

i dont care if its a joke or not,its an issue i like,im sure loads of the guys out there like it 2,and females,thats anal sex i mean!

Sarah**

i have to agree with whacker!!

although it was painfull it can be enjoyale after u cross the pain barrier!!

it is defo a PI so talk on!!

alfa147

whacker4fun wrote:

i dont care if its a joke or not,its an issue i like,im sure loads of the guys out there like it 2,and females,thats anal sex i mean!

well it is a joke.. i was just making a note of it...

im all up for girls who do anal..:v:

Lex Luthor

ya, once u get past the pain barrier and take it nice and slow for the first time, its a roller coaster ride (excuse the pun).

bp

a friend of mine decided to give me a full blown chat on this a few weeks ago, he knows that it isnt my thing but decided that as his best mate was my bf i should do anal. anyway long story short he recommends to just start with maybe a finger just so you can loosen the area up and (i'm sorry if this is crude) he also said try using the fluid from your frontal area as the lub (i dont know if that would work better than bought stuff or not).

anyway i havent heard of a guy who doesnt want to try it, i'd say your boyfriend just doesnt want to ask you for it. Mention it some evening and see what his reaction is

good luck

ps he says it is good for all involved once the pain is gone

Nevyn

Fingers first, get him to start with a finger there after he has had them else where.
Work up to it gradually maybe over a few sessions, do use lube does use a condom and remember fingers, toys, penis may go from vagina to anus
but the other way arround may cause infections.
IF your going to switch from back to front do stop and change the condom.
Not all condoms are suitible for anal sex do read the small print and be sure
you have a suitible type.

Linoge

pickarooney wrote:

you gots to pay to talk dirty round these parts.

LOL:D

Yeh, its a load of ball ox alright. 50 quid a year just so you can post in 1 extra forum is a bit steep, which is a pity because i'm sure it would be quite popular otherwise. I'm sick of people asking threads like this to be moved to s&s. IMO there is no such forum:mad:

0utshined

bp wrote:

a friend of mine decided to give me a full blown chat on this a few weeks ago, he knows that it isnt my thing but decided that as his best mate was my bf i should do anal.

That is incredibly rude. I hope you told him where to go.

Sarah**

so why dont you create your own S&S in this PI???

Nevyn

Linoge, Sarah** and the rest of ye
off topic and unhelpful posts will result in you being banned from PI.

Do read the charter,
Have a nice day,
Thaedydal

Sarah**

sorry darlin, but explain to us then where we can chat about S&S?
Dont take this post up the wrong way though (excuse the pun) but really i do want to know where we can talk about those things.

SprostonGreen

Sarah** wrote:

sorry darlin, but explain to us then where we can chat about S&S?
Dont take this post up the wrong way though (excuse the pun)

Offically the best pun ever.:D

Sarah**

totally unintended but laughed my asse off when i re read it!! even though i really am sorry and really so want to knwo where we can talk about these topics without paying....

Nevyn

Take it to feedback.

http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=297556

The charter here in PI is very clear you can give on topic advise to a personal issue raised by someone.
All other sex and sexuality threads are for the Sex and Sexualty forum,
if you don't like it go disscuss such issues it on a differnt site.

The next person to post off topic will be BANNED this is the only warning being issued.

Deadwing

bp wrote:

he also said try using the fluid from your frontal area as the lub (i dont know if that would work better than bought stuff or not).

worked for me

LegacyUser

You don't have to ask, just turn your back to him when its time for intercourse and he'll get the message. Thats what my g/f did and it was fine.

Nevyn

Well that is one way of doing it but if she hasn't had anal sex before it could easily lead to a ripped rectum.

Oh come on people if you arent mature enought to sit and talk about certain sexual practices with your partner/s the pros, cons,
if they want to and the best and safest way to go about then really your not mature enough most likely to be having sex at all.

WhiteWashMan

Doodee wrote:

Tbh, alot of guys who wouldn't do it are either stupidly homophobic or else Prudish and boring.

i dont agree. some people may just find it distasteful, or just not something that blows their skirt up.

there are men out there who do not like oral sex, and there are men out there who do not like sex at all.
and then there are those that do the sort of things that extreme fetishist would balk at.

at what point is someone boring or homophobic.

the simple fact is that different people like different things for different reasons.

the reasons i would do or not do anything (out of the normal - subjective yes, but there you go) is becuase its something that my partner might want to try, or has no interest in.

LegacyUser

alfa147 wrote:

This thread is a joke... can noone else see this...

user name fudgecake? helllo... it does'nt sound like a girl either..

some teen having a laugh id say.

I am a girl, and I am being serious. As for my being a teen, I am 20.

ferdi

ask him, he'll be flattered. i found the experience underwhelming tbh

ive tried it a good few times, i enjoyed it the first few times but i have say penis size comes into it,if they r too well endowed no amount of lube will stop pain thats what put me off after a while.

alfa147

fudgecake wrote:

I am a girl, and I am being serious. As for my being a teen, I am 20.

sorry if i don't believe u..:rolleyes:

fair enough anal is anal... ive done it a good few times.. once u get the rythem going its all good... if u get alittle spit and use ur finger more and more and then slide it in..

whacker4fun

anal is pure heaven,its so more intimate that vaginal sex,its like your breakin d rules

megachick

Go for it!! Dont be afraid to try anything or ask for it!!

Seth Brundle

Victor wrote:

Just ask him about experimenting with something different. See where it goes.

Presumably the pun wasn't intended

fudgecake wrote:

I am a girl, and I am being serious. As for my being a teen, I am 20.

whats the worst he can say? Ask him!

bp

0utshined wrote:

That is incredibly rude. I hope you told him where to go.

oh i did!!