Confused

LegacyUser

I met a guy a few months ago, we became really good freinds. We have tons in common, get on really well and talk all the time, and as far as I can tell we enjoy eachothers company. I ended up really liking him, more than I thought I would. (friend of a friend situation)

I implied to him that I liked him, and he told a friend of mine, that he liked me but didn't want a girlfriend at present. That was fine but then I thouhgt that maybe he was just saying that cuz it was one of my best friends he was talking to and knew it would get backt to me.

We had a fight few weeks ago, and didn't talk for about a week, but sorted things out and we were fine again.

The fight was kind of to do with the fact that another girl who doesn't even really like him was literally f*cking him about, but he liked her so didn't care. During the fight he said "Why do you even care so much? You barely even know me." So I told him outright, that I like him and he's my friend and I don't allow people I care about, my friends to go through that sort of crap.

Since the fight and since we started talking he's been acting really different to me. I haven't mentioned the other girl for fear of starting up something again. But, he's been much more "attentive" or something to me, I can't really place it but it's as if maybe he's starting to like me.

Wel that's what I thought, I spoke to a friend today who kinda knows him too, and she said that he's been telling her she's pretty a lot, she has no interest in him like that, but think's he's a lovely guy, and she wouldn't so anyhting about it anyway for numerous reasons. I've told his friends that I adore him and they've probably told him, but things just seem really weird lately.

Anyone any thoughts? I want to ask him straight out but am too scared of screwing up our friendship.

Chucky the tree

Ask him out. WOuld you really want to keep the friendship going when he starts seeing other people?

Twin Lance

Ah, youre just thinking of that whole "will I? wont I?" situation. You most likely will never know unless you ask him straight out. I understand the state youre in, Ive been through it too many times to know that, lets say he turns you down.At least you'll know that you did your best. I'd much rather say something and lose than not do anything and regret it for ages.To tell the truth,its kinda crappy of him not to express his feelings like you did.These things are always so much better out in the open, you seem to understand that so thats cool.
But ya, go for it.just ask him, and let us know huh?

LegacyUser

he! Thanks!
If I grow the balls to ask I will! As you said things are better in the open, and I've only learnt that recently, so give him time ey!
Another thing that I don't want to ruin aswell is that we're in the same year and going to the same college next year on very similar courses, now I know college is big and we may not see eachother much, but when he said he didn't want a gf at present maybe it was just "I don't want a gf with the leaving cert, but since I know we're going to colllege together I'll keep your number" and then that's confusing me with the rest of it!

LegacyUser

Another thing I was thinking of, was next time I see him, as we're saying goodbye, just kiss him, we always seem to hug goodbye for some reason, so then next time, hug, kiss, get in car, GO, so he can't really do anything about it...
stuff like that sometimes works! I've been victim!