Not The Only Girl Anymore

LegacyUser

Hey, decided to go unregged for this as I know I am being ridiculous...
I started in a new company about 3 months ago, small company, bout 10 staff, I was the only girl.
At first it was a bit of a problem, but as I got to know the lads I started to enjoy being the only girl, and it soon became one of the perks of the job.
No bitchiness or competitivness, no back biting... right down to the fact that physically, no comparrisons.

Now we have taken on a new girl, she starts wednesday, shes small and cute and about my age...

She is probably a lovely person, but for some reason I just want her to go away and leave my job alone! You don't have to tell me I am being totally irrational, I already know, I need you to tell me how to act like a normal person when this girl starts!

bombidol

Standard women = Cats theory applies. Its a territorial thing. you will more than likely get on with her so much that yiz will both ignore the lads and do your own thing.

simu

You are being idiotic tbh. It's not as if men are never back-biting, bitchy and competive! Act normally!

LegacyUser

You are probably right. God I hope she's nice, and down to earth! Please let her be down to earth!!

~Leanne~

Hopefully she aint a stuck up cow! I know how ya feel though, id be the same. Ya never know - ya's might get on great!!!!

OSiriS

You said you enjoyed working in an environment without bitchiness, backbiting and competitiveness. I think the best thing you can do is to try to avoid contributing to any of these yourself and hope she does likewise, otherwise it could snowball even if you are just responding to her behaviour.

g'em

its pretty natural to feel a bit threatened with the arrival of 'competition'- well, that's what she is, isn't it?

best tactic is to be as nice as pie. Treat her well, don't bitch, and get to know her. If you make the effort and still don't like her, fair enough. But hey, she could be a new best-mate!! (you'll have plenty to talk about keeping all those boys in check )

jellie

Try put yourself in the new girls shoes. Imagine how horrible it would be going into a workplace with just 1 girl who gets on well with all the guys, and you know no-one.

Instead of being wary of her, be friendly with her. Look at it as an improvement rather than something bad girls aren't always bitchy!

xzanti

I totally understand, this happened to me as well, I wasnt the only girl but I was the only girl of my age group with 1 older part time woman, not that I enjoyed being the only girl because of attention from the lads or whatever cause I have a bf and Id have no interest in flirting but I had just come from a job where it was mainly girls my age and younger so needless to say it was a bit of a battle of wits and who could be the biggest bitch etc... Not nice...

So when this new girl started I felt threatened both because I didnt feel there was enough work for us both and because I was afraid she'd turn out to be a bitch and make things uncomforable for me.. But luckily for me she was very friendly (maybe a bit mad) but in a nice way, and I have to say looking back now if either of us could be accused of being a bit bitchy it was probably me because I had my guard up and probably wasnt very welcoming to her... She moved on not very long after starting for her own personal reasons but we still email each other all the time and text each other.. so my point is, dont look at her as a threat to you or your comfortable status in the company but try to look at her as a potential new friend... And its not like theres a few girls starting and they might end up forming an alligiance against you, just be nice to her and IF she does turn out to be a bitch then at least you know that its just her and you didnt do anything to make her dislike you...
Good luck anyhoo

chuci

OSiriS wrote:

You said you enjoyed working in an environment without bitchiness, backbiting and competitiveness. I think the best thing you can do is to try to avoid contributing to any of these yourself and hope she does likewise, otherwise it could snowball even if you are just responding to her behaviour.

very true, i totally agree. though it will be hard not to be jealous considering she will prob get all the attention for awhile because ppl will want to make her feel comfortable.soon settle down.well thats what usually happens in my exp.

dahooligan

... I'd say she'll be cool anyways. Don't worry about the attention being taken away from you - if you're comfortable enough in who you are and what you have to offer then there should be no probs.

The Corinthian

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kensutz

You seem to be a bit paranoid that she'll steal your thunder but the day she starts you might as well go up and introduce yourself to her and get to know her. Kill off any fears you have about her straight away then