Debs Date a Step Too Far?

LegacyUser

Hi, I'm a regular poster but want to remain anonymous here (think some of ya will know who I am anyhoo unfortunately). I have a sister who is one year younger than me 9i'm second year college) and her debs are coming up next weekend. Anyway one of the girls in her year invited me, by ringing me up telling me i was the last guy she knew and begging me to go with her.

What I want to know is is this against the rules? Should I oblige or is it a completely off limits situation? My sister gave me a really dirty look when i said it so i don't think she really wants me to go so just wondering what the morals etc. are

Cheers

gandalf

Well unless you are expected to "service" the girl afterwards I do not see how this is a moral issue.

However I can understand your sister not being too happy, she probably views this as a special night and may not want you taking some of the limelight from her. If I were you I would check with her thats it is ok to bring her friend. If she says yes then go for it.

dudara

I wouldn't see a problem with it per se, but you need to talk to your sister properly about it

audge

Ah your not to bothered about going in the first place so give it a miss and let your sister enjoy her "special" night minus a watchful sibling

Binomate

siblingproblem wrote:

ringing me up telling me i was the last guy she knew and begging me to go with her.

You were the last person she called and she was refused by everyone else. Who am I meant to feel sorry for? I say take her. The poor girl has nobody else to go with. Or else get your sister to get her someone to go with.

g'em

I agree with audge, its your sisters big night, let her enjoy it. Her friend will find someone else at the last minute no worries.

Presuming you care how your sister feels, isn't it better to stay on good terms with her and go out with your own friends?

rugbug86

ask one of your friends to bring her, that might be easier. i'd have hated to have a bro watching everything i did at my debs! offer to set her up on a blind date and set her up with a mate you think she'd get along with.

dundalk cailin

it'd be different if u were goin out wit the girl i suppose, but at least ur not a sister who's gonna take the limelight away from lil sis with ur dress!

alfa147

go with her ffs..

whats the prob, i went to a mates cousins debs with her... i was in finals in college and she was about 4years younger.. had a great night

Khannie

Am I the only one who thinks the girl wants to box him off?

Idle speculation: The sister knows this, and that's why she threw him the dirty look.

I'd leave it out. If you ask your sister, she's gonna feel obliged to say yes because she wont want to hurt her friend. At the /very/ least I'd ask her why it would upset her (since it clearly would).

Victor

Khannie wrote:

Am I the only one who thinks the girl wants to box him off?

What does that mean?

merlinsmerryman

Yeah a bit odd that one, "you're the last guy I know". I have to agree with Khannie I think she might like you and your sister knows it.

dudara

Do you mean that she has set her sights upon him?

Khannie

Victor wrote:

What does that mean?

Sorry....that's probably a little bit of a Khannie-ism.

To "box something off" is context depenedent and usually means to "sort it". In this case it means snog / otherwise have her wicked way with him.

Fast_Mover

i think u sud take her..the girl really mite not have anyone else to take, it may have been hard/embarssn for her to even ask you in the first place..and for her to get another knock back..nasty!!
must say with regards to ur sis giving u nasty looks coz u got askd to her debs sud she not be giving them to her friend for askin u in first place..or another side to it, wud ur sis not lik to see her friend havn a date even if it is with u as she has no-one else!
Had my debs in sept and if one of my friends had no dates and were desperate i wuda dragged either my bros and their friends out as escorts!!! There was a bro and sis at my debs aswell! He's two years older than her and her best-friend took him...granted they were scoring at the time..:) ..but they all got on lik house on fire..b mature with the situation..this girl may like you as some poeple here suggest but that doesnt mean you have to go and act on it and score with her..that will make matters worse me thinks!! let ur sister have fun and go wild if she so wishes..ur there as someones date and not ur sisters minder..trust her!

have fun if u do go!!
F_m

Chucky the tree

if shes hot go and lamp her out of it. But If shes wrecked, dont bother.


YOur sisters feelings are important in this.

senordingdong

I think it's a bad idea.

If she is telling the truth, and you were her last resort...how do you really feel about being her last resort?
That's worse then being someones second choice.

And if she's not telling the truth, and she likes you and this is her way of initiating something, then I don't think you should do it because it would cause a mess load of crap between you and your sister.

randomname2005

Back in my day (which wasnt too long ago!!) there was an unwritten rule you couldnt refuse to go to someones debs unless there was a partner involved who would understandably get very jealous! I think talking to your sister and if you think her concerns/issues are well founded then say no.
R

Femelade

yeah i think it would be kinda mean if you didnt go wit her, seeing as she has nobody else to take, but like everyone has said about your sister, u really need to talk to her about it first, tell her that if she can get get someone else to go wit her friend then well and good, but otherwise u'll have to go?

skywalker

Khannie wrote:

Sorry....that's probably a little bit of a Khannie-ism.

To "box something off" is context depenedent and usually means to "sort it". In this case it means snog / otherwise have her wicked way with him.

I use that one myself. First time Ive heard it used on here though. & your right, she does want to box him off.

Victor

Khannie wrote:

Sorry....that's probably a little bit of a Khannie-ism.

To "box something off" is context depenedent and usually means to "sort it". In this case it means snog / otherwise have her wicked way with him.

To tick off the boxes?

Just make sure there are no ticks in the box :eek:

Khannie

Victor wrote:

To tick off the boxes?

That's what I thought....but I couldn't be sure. I picked it up years and years ago when I was working as a waiter.

Victor wrote:

Just make sure there are no ticks in the box :eek:

LOL. Took me a second to get that one.

On topic: I think the "last resort" thing is rubbish. I reckon she wants to get into his y-fronts and saying that he's her last resort is an easy way out of just asking him directly. Anyway....talk to your sister my good man. She'll enlighten things more than we ever could.

ratboy

siblingproblem wrote:

Hi, I'm a regular poster but want to remain anonymous here (think some of ya will know who I am anyhoo unfortunately). I have a sister who is one year younger than me 9i'm second year college) and her debs are coming up next weekend. Anyway one of the girls in her year invited me, by ringing me up telling me i was the last guy she knew and begging me to go with her.

What I want to know is is this against the rules? Should I oblige or is it a completely off limits situation? My sister gave me a really dirty look when i said it so i don't think she really wants me to go so just wondering what the morals etc. are

Cheers

why are you not embracing this situation? You get a night out, a chance to score your sisters friend and you can make sure your sister behaves herself.

crazymonkey

I think its a bad idea for u to go, Ur sister will not want u there and its her u should put first not her friend,,