i've one for ye.

uum

A while back i was with this girl in a club, a really nice intelligent but quiet girl.
Only prob she has a boyf who is mates with my mates and she lives far away.

We got separated in the club and she ended up kipping at a mates house down the road. I went home so I didnt really get a chance to talk to her much

Next day i called down the road. one of my friends brought up how drunk he was the night b4 and how he couldnt remember anything and she says, "Same here". That was a kick it the teeth tbh cas i know she wasnt too drunk.

In the mean time she's gone home, my mates are good mates with her boyf who is real and thats it.

I cant ask them for help in contacting her and i dont even know if i should going on what what said next day but another part of me says, Fcuk all that, we were gettin on like a hse on fire and she's a class girl too. Now i reckon i've got her email addy but i cant jus mail her outta the blue. She'll think im crazy.

another point is im due to go to this place far away soon and there's a good chance i'll meet her. That could be awkward if she still has a fella. but I got the opinion she didnt think much of him. Any help?

meepmeep

Sounds to me like shes not interested. All ye did was talk in the club - did she give you any signs that she wanted to be anything more than a friend? Plus she has a boyfriend, so its no go - if she wants you, she'll let you know i'm sure - but don't go chasing her.

Beruthiel

uum wrote:

another point is im due to go to this place far away soon and there's a good chance i'll meet her. That could be awkward if she still has a fella. but I got the opinion she didnt think much of him. Any help?

if she already has a b/f leave her be

pickarooney

How "with her" were you?

It sounds like a completely lost cause but I wouldn't say you should always give up on someone because they have a bf/gf. Where would we all be if we had that attitude?

Beruthiel

pickarooney wrote:

It sounds like a completely lost cause but I wouldn't say you should always give up on someone because they have a bf/gf. Where would we all be if we had that attitude?

so if someone was hitting big time on your gf/bf, you'd have no problem with that?

uberwolf

just leave it. You'd be pissing on too many people's shoes.

pickarooney

Beruthiel wrote:

so if someone was hitting big time on your gf/bf, you'd have no problem with that?

Nope, cause she'd tell him what's what, and if she didn't, well, that's her choice.

uum

pickarooney wrote:

How "with her" were you?

It sounds like a completely lost cause but I wouldn't say you should always give up on someone because they have a bf/gf. Where would we all be if we had that attitude?

Tongue wrestling, hands all over and not once but twice she asked me to go outside only bouncer wouldnt let us out side door.
And I didnt hit on her, she hit on me. That i swear.

uberwolf

thing is in the cold light of day, she either pretended she remebered nothing - for you to get the hint, or didn't remember anything and you should leave it at that

WhiteWashMan

ah, drunken fumbles.

she has a partner.

besides, would you go out with someone who is off with other people when they have a few drinks on them?

typedef her tbh.

tinkerbell

uum wrote:

Next day i called down the road. one of my friends brought up how drunk he was the night b4 and how he couldnt remember anything and she says, "Same here". That was a kick it the teeth tbh cas i know she wasnt too drunk.

It ain't a good sign when she says something like that.

Beruthiel

WhiteWashMan wrote:

besides, would you go out with someone who is off with other people when they have a few drinks on them?

wwm got there before me
if she would do it to her b/f - she's do it to you too...

Nope, cause she'd tell him what's what, and if she didn't, well, that's her choice.

that's a very calm response - it would cause no fights between the two of you? you wouldn't be at all upset if this happened to you?
uum doesn't seem to care that he would cause upset in their relationship,
I personally would never go near someone already taken, it's a minefield and I have no right to cause such upset between two people

skywalker

uum wrote:

Tongue wrestling, hands all over and not once but twice she asked me to go outside only bouncer wouldnt let us out side door.
And I didnt hit on her, she hit on me. That i swear.

definitely sounds like she just regrets it the next day. just hate the bouncer and move on.

uum

Beruthiel wrote:

wwm got there before me
if she would do it to her b/f - she's do it to you too...

Nope, cause she'd tell him what's what, and if she didn't, well, that's her choice.


uum doesn't seem to care that he would cause upset in their relationship,

I left it out of my original statement but i asked her if she had a fella an i distinctly remember her saying she broke up with him. I'd never go near a girl if she had a fella. Honest.

Aswell other things happened that lead me to believe she knew exactly what she was doing such as things said before any drink was taken which meant little on their own but when added up after meant she had an eye on me b4 the club.
I remember one particular comment she passed to another friend while smiling at me. And i swear i didnt even try to chat her up because i thought she had a boy.

pickarooney

Beruthiel wrote:

wwm got there before me
if she would do it to her b/f - she's do it to you too...

Nope, cause she'd tell him what's what, and if she didn't, well, that's her choice.

that's a very calm response - it would cause no fights between the two of you? you wouldn't be at all upset if this happened to you?
uum doesn't seem to care that he would cause upset in their relationship,
I personally would never go near someone already taken, it's a minefield and I have no right to cause such upset between two people

Honestly, if someone hitting on your bf/gf causes grief in a couple, there's something wrong there. It's an indirect compliment, just take it as such.

To uum: there is obviously something wrong there with this chick and her fella. Whether you were just a temporary distraction or not is hard to say.

Sherifu

uum wrote:

I left it out of my original statement but i asked her if she had a fella an i distinctly remember her saying she broke up with him. I'd never go near a girl if she had a fella. Honest.

So she was liein to ya?
Another reason not to bother with her.

uum wrote:

Aswell other things happened that lead me to believe she knew exactly what she was doing such as things said before any drink was taken which meant little on their own but when added up after meant she had an eye on me b4 the club.
I remember one particular comment she passed to another friend while smiling at me. And i swear i didnt even try to chat her up because i thought she had a boy.

I think you're tryin to see things that aren't there.
Anyway as has been said, if shes a cheater and a liar why would you want to be with her?

WhiteWashMan

pickarooney wrote:

Honestly, if someone hitting on your bf/gf causes grief in a couple, there's something wrong there. It's an indirect compliment, just take it as such.

To uum: there is obviously something wrong there with this chick and her fella. Whether you were just a temporary distraction or not is hard to say.

i think ruthie was talking about the end part of your statement, about the bit where your missus did decide she wanted a bit of fresh meat.

i know it would cause a bit of a row in my relationship. but as for someone chatting her up, fancying her, giving her the eye, or whatever, hell, ahppens all the time bloody time

then again, my missus is luuuuuuvely!

Beruthiel

WhiteWashMan wrote:

i think ruthie was talking about the end part of your statement, about the bit where your missus did decide she wanted a bit of fresh meat.

i know it would cause a bit of a row in my relationship. but as for someone chatting her up, fancying her, giving her the eye, or whatever, hell, ahppens all the time bloody time

thanks wwm
I shall call you my "universal translator" from now on

lustforlife69

hey man - heres the thing... bf/gf doesnt mean someone is married.

i dont know what age you are but the younger you are the less gf/bf means.

from experience, its very easy to get into a comfort zone in a relationship and before you know it, you're best friends but there is no spark. this is when people start looking around out of boredom but are afraid to end things because of the emotional turmoil involved.

and before you know it, you've snogged someone in a nightclub - someone you dont know, someone who may have a big mouth and might cause trouble and therefore you start creating alibi's in case the **** hits the fan...
on the other hand, you are wishing you were single so you could follow up without guilt.

so mate, say nothing to no-one but its worth going along for that trip as long as you respect her boyfriend and say **** all to anyone but her. oh, and dont raise the issue - she will... best of luck.

apart from anything else you are putting your name top of list if she ever decides to dump yer man.

pickarooney

Oh sorry, I misread it. It's so utterly inconceivable that a woman would want anyone else but me that I hadn't even considered that bit might be in question
To clarify, when I said "it's her choice" I meant it's her choice to pack her pags and fúck off

uum

lustforlife69 wrote:

hey man - heres the thing... bf/gf doesnt mean someone is married.

i dont know what age you are but the younger you are the less gf/bf means.

from experience, its very easy to get into a comfort zone in a relationship and before you know it, you're best friends but there is no spark. this is when people start looking around out of boredom but are afraid to end things because of the emotional turmoil involved.

and before you know it, you've snogged someone in a nightclub - someone you dont know, someone who may have a big mouth and might cause trouble and therefore you start creating alibi's in case the **** hits the fan...
on the other hand, you are wishing you were single so you could follow up without guilt.

so mate, say nothing to no-one but its worth going along for that trip as long as you respect her boyfriend and say **** all to anyone but her. oh, and dont raise the issue - she will... best of luck.

apart from anything else you are putting your name top of list if she ever decides to dump yer man.

Thats some good advice. Thanks

The Sweeper

uum wrote:

We got separated in the club and she ended up kipping at a mates house down the road.

A male mate and or a female mate?



....don't look at me like that I'm just curious.

pickarooney

Minesajackdaniels wrote:

A male mate and or a female mate?



....don't look at me like that I'm just curious.

Curious, eh? A/S/L ? *






*Now to sit back and see which of the three flames/bans my arse first...

lustforlife69

let us know how you get on!