man trouble

deirdre dearg

i met a guy a few weeks ago at a party. we were talking for ages and really hit it off. he got my number and we went to the cinema and we kissed. that was last weekend. he's not a great texter, so i didn't think much of it when i didn't hear from him all week. but on saturday night there was still no sign, so i texted him and he never wrote back. so basically, we kissed once, and i never heard anything else from him. i really like him, and it really seemed mutual last weekend. he was making all the moves. now i don't know what to think. he's not the type of person who i thought would lead me on.
help!

garthv

well like you said,hes not a great texter and maybe hes just shy,talk with him face to face and find out. I know it might seem a bit brash but what have you go to lose.

CathyMoran

Doesn't look like he was interested The thing with knock backs like this is to remember that it was his loss not yours...

Imposter

You've got his number. Ring him. Ask him out.
You will then know where you stand.

If he doesn't answer the phone then give up on him.

DublinWriter

What can I say? Us lads are ars*holes basically!

To be brutally honest, if he hasn't rang within 7 days then I don't imagine he's interested.

Just forget about him.

aliveandkicking

Texting is bad in these situations - ring him.

boomdogman

Deirdre I guess this guy has changed what passes for his mind. Yes you can ring him but take my advice, delete the number and chalk him down to expirience. He is gone and its his loss, not yours. Lucky you that you were not in deeper but it does hurt and you end up asking "is it me". it isn't, thats just some guys. For what its worth there are good guys out there and no I only know that from a rumour, I've only ever met one!

weemcd

aye sounds like a real two faced ****er, i know lads from school who girls initialy think the world of, but once theyve had their fun and mess the girls about the girl's realise what **** they actually are. Dont let this get you down, we arent all like that

tribble

Ring him - but it does seem like he's not interested.
Either that or he's incredibly shy.

weemcd

themaverick wrote:

Man read this and then look at the guys sig. Could you get any more ironic. (for those of you not familiar with BANG BUS its a porn site where guys ride around in a bus,pick up apparently random girls off the street ,bang em hard and put them away yet. They are then usually unceremoniously tossed of the bus and some dollar bills thrown at them. Basically lads having their fun and the discarding em. Good site but jesus its a bit much giving out about guys like that then advertising their site in your sig. Made me laugh

My sig is irony, for I am a true supporter of the womans rights movement. Iv'e been there through the good times, and through the bad. I watch Martha Stuart, bangbus is a painfully atroitious site, I don't condone its misogonisitc view of women...

But it has good porn

/edit
wtf? themaverick's post has been removed? the dude delete it? Actually what is this dude at?:

themaverick wrote:

Get him to lick the gee off you, you wont be long squirting in his face if he knows what he is at. Go on ya good thing

then he slags me for being shovenist

Señor Juárez

weemcd wrote:

then he slags me for being shovenist

Chauvinist.

DoctorEdgeWild

Deirdre, Sounds like he is not interested. I suppose you lose nothing by ringing him and asking him out other than time. Personally, I wouldn't bother. Its a thing that some guys do, and some girls fall for. Guys will seem really into you just because (a) They want some action or (b) They are so emotionally stunted that they can't actually tell you they aren't interested.

Memnoch

who initiated the kiss?

maybe he was just trying to be friendly and you kind of went for a kiss but he didn't want to/couldn't turn you down on the spot so ended up kissing you.

From his reactions it does seem like he may not be interested. That being said, it shouldn't always be up to the guy to ask you. Instead of waiting for him to contact you, why don't you contact him? Its the only way to be sure.

Nasty_Girl

I wouldn't bother with him personally, if he comes back to you then fair enough, you've done your part. Now there's always the possibilty you had his number wrong, he has no credit, his phone got flushed down the toilet, he had a family emergency etc, but you still have to wait and see will he find you through all of that.
Generally from my own experience if I guy isn't textin back, he's ridin someone else.

Quigs Snr

Don't ring him. I can speak from the point of view of 'the enemy' as it were. If we don't call you thats one thing, if you text us and we still don't answer, then thats another. Now he knows you are interested and is not responding. Close the book on that one and forget it.

I would however wager that some night when he has a few drinks down him is feeling horny and is getting no better (to his mind) offers, he might give you a call ! If he does, stay away from him.... Unless, I am that guy in which case, how you doin ?

Wez

Some good points made there. But I think you should ring him! I mean, it's happened with me, (I'm a guy) and if they rang me I'd be cool with it. I mean, things are changing lately. Women want equality and all that, but you still think the man should call and make the date! I say give him a ring and see what happens. What's the worst that could happen?

Ren0

It's like this:

If the guy likes you then he'll be thinking about you alot for the next week and would definitley want to talk to you/see you.

HOWEVER!!! you have to be patient because guys usually leave it a while before making contact so as not to seem desperate, but a week is too long.
You should ring him incase he has a reason for not responding to you. (no credit)

Ask him out and if he says know then it's a case of "What doesn't kill you, only makes you stronger."

Good Luck

deirdre dearg

Memnoch wrote:

who initiated the kiss?

maybe he was just trying to be friendly and you kind of went for a kiss but he didn't want to/couldn't turn you down on the spot so ended up kissing you.

From his reactions it does seem like he may not be interested. That being said, it shouldn't always be up to the guy to ask you. Instead of waiting for him to contact you, why don't you contact him? Its the only way to be sure.

it was him who kissed me, and it wasn't jsut being polite. we went back to my house after the cinema and he stayed for ages and we were chatting and getting on really well, and as he was leaving he kissed me.
well, from what you've all said, i can see that he's not interested and that i'd seem really desperate ringing him. he didn't text back for a reason, and he could have emailed me anyway if there was anything really wrong.
i'm resigned to my fate now. i feel like such ann idiot for actually thinking there was one decent lad in the entire universe. the thing that gets me is that he's avoiding me. it's not hard to send one simple text saying 'sorry, you're a lovely girl, but i don't really want to take things further'. please! calling all males! let the girl know you're not interested asap. sigh. this sucks. now backs to the depths of singledom.
i can't believe i fell for the mind games.

tinkerbell

don't beat yourself up over it girl, tiz his loss!

DoctorEdgeWild

Don't worry about it, don't fall for or play the mind games, happiness is never found with another person, although it can be shared.

Nasty_Girl

we all get messed around from time to time! That's what make's it all the more amazing when we do hit the jackpot! And don't worry because you will!!!!

LegacyUser

Ah singledom, I'm there too atm. But, there's a girl I work with, we're in a shop together. She's been there a while and I'm on my second week. We've kinda half known each other from me going in there often and talking to her. She's always talking to me and I'm always trying to make conversation with her. I'm dying for us to start hanging out so I can be more sure about what signals she's giving off whether relationship or friendship. I'm trying to get her tickets to a concert that's coming up, so if I get them we'd be going to that together. She's really happy and in a good mood all the time, which makes this even harder. Now, the problem is, and sorry to hijack this thread, but if I was to try and find out what her position on this is, what will I do? I would like to go out with her because she's great and funny and everything on my list! But, I don't want to make a move and realise she doesn't feel the sameway making it pretty much impossible to remain friends, which I wouldn't mind being either because she's so nice. Anybody know what to do?