Strange Rethink

LegacyUser

So I asked a girl Ive really liked for ages out the other day, and she seemed really chuffed about it, to the point were we were holding hands and having a bit of a kiss then I got her number and told her Id text her tomorrow about going out and she said that was cool and she was looking forward to it.

Next day arrives, send a text to arrange to meet up for a drink or something to eat and she replies that she doesnt think it would work and can we just be friends.

Seems a bit strange to me and me being me, I have kicked into severe paranoia mode and am wondering to myself if there has been some outside influence to change her mind. Either that or her beer googles wore off!!

Anyway, basically Im wondering if anyone has experienced this kind of thing before and could maybe shed some light on the subject to help me get my head around it.

Chad ghostal

Either forget about it or ask her.. no amount of speculating will bring closure to this imo.

I know it will be awkward, just ask her.

It could be for any number of reasons, your just feckin with your own head if you keep wondering..

LegacyUser

Did that, apparently she was too shocked at the time to think about it properly, sounds like BULL to me though

OfflerCrocGod

Phillbert wrote:

Either that or her beer googles wore off!!

You answered the question yourself.

Third_Echelon

I think the term you are looking for is 'female perogative'... basically women change their mind about stuff as often as they breathe in and out....

Just ask her out plain and simple.... what the fcuk is the story...

ferdi

women know they can screw with men minds real good so they do it frequnetly

ando

just ask her what the story is and get it over with before it gets worse. Something similar happened to me a few yrs ago. If i could go back in time I would of just asked her out straight what her feelings were instead of draggin me through mental hell

Bottle_of_Smoke

good to see one of these threads actually got to the point of asking her out!

jobonar

ask her! its the only way to find out and not doing it could drive you insane wondering what it was!! always better to know than putting yourself through mental hell!

Alanna

Don't ask her again, she probably did have a lovely time with you and liked kissing you a bit but perhaps the spark just wasn't there, she gave it a go and thinks you are a nice guy but just leave it. You can't make her change her mind and she hasn't done anything wrong, she has just tried to be honest with you without hurting your feelings. Put it down to experience and you never know, in the future you may be good friends.

Miguel_Sanchez

Don't keep asking her about it. She'll think you're some many of obsessive weirdo and will just be certain in her decision. Be cool. Chat to her when you see her and don't bring it up all the time.

"But what's wrong with me? What did I do? I'll change? What was it?"

All these questions will make you look like a weirdo.

Just be cool.