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LegacyUser

Hi all,

I've recently had a lot of family problems. I don't wish to go into any detail about the problems on the board, but what I would like to know is if anyone has any information about psychologists?

I really feel that I need to talk some stuff through with somebody who isn't involved in the situation. There have been 2 incidents within my family in the past 4 months that have really upset me, & I still really resent my family for these things. I feel that if I don't go to talk to a professional, I'll get screwed up. & then on the other hand, I think I might feel stupid telling these stories about my family to someone else. I know people have bigger problems than me, so maybe I'm making something out of nothing...I'm unsure. Could a complete stranger help me get peace of mind?

I just want to know if any of ye have been to see psychologists or counsellors & what your opinions are...will it help me?

WhiteWashMan

check out your local hospital.

they will either have staff councellors, or will have a list of qualified or training councellors.

or call the samaratins.
im sure they have a phone number or two they can give you for someone in your area.

and yes it does help, but only if you are willing to let it help you. no point in going in to talk to someone if you dont actually talk, if you know what i mean.

Oryx

Yes it can help, and I dont think it will screw you up. You sound as if you really need to do this, a trained counsellor wont tell you what to do but will help you sort out whats going on in your head. It wont make your problems go away but will help you handle them.

Been through counselling myself - we all need help sometimes. Dont feel self concious about it. Good luck

UNIFLU

yes it will help, the main thing is finding someone you feel comfortable talking to, no idea where you are based so cannot reccomend for that reason. i really hope all works out for you, is horrible to feel so pent up and frustrated, if i can help in any way please ask.

Eoin.

Sleepy

If you're still in college, you should check out what services they have in place. A friend of mine found it extremely usefull to talk to the counsellor in her college and it's a lot cheaper than going private!

LegacyUser

I figured that going private would be expensive. & although we have good health cover in the family, I don't want my parents to know that I'm going to talk to a counsellor. I think it would make them feel worse about everything that has happened. I really just want a quiet life a this stage!! & I'd rather if they didn't know how messed up I feel.

I'm still a student so I'll see what I can find out through college. The strange thing is...I want to talk to someone, I want to get it all off my chest & just move on, but I think I'll feel guilty even repeating the story to someone else. It's the kinda story that you'd feel embarassed telling, because it makes the family seem really f*cked up. So then I feel like I'm wrong to go talk to a counsellor, that I'm betraying my family, & that I should just get on with it. It's a pickle

Victor

A college counsellor is likely to be cheap or minimal cost.

Your GP would also have a list of counsellors.

Unreggie wrote:

So then I feel like I'm wrong to go talk to a counsellor, that I'm betraying my family, & that I should just get on with it.

The counsellor won't know who your family are, so you aren't betraying them. And every family has it's own strange stuff.

Liquorice

I've been to a psychologist for bereavement counselling a few times, first at ten, then at twelve. The first time I was a bit too young to feel bothered by talking to a stranger about my life, and it wasn't odd because he was a doctor and I was told I needed to talk to the doctor to get better, like I'd tell a GP what was wrong with me(cold, sore back etc.). The second time I knew the guy and knew he could help.

You said that you know people have bigger problems than you...so what? That doesn't make the problems you have any less than they are. If you feel you would like to go to a counsellor, do it, and if you feel uncomfortable or feel it isn't working then try a different counsellor or a different method. You're not betraying anyone by giving yourself the chance to open up and sort out what's happening in your head.

TattyTeddy

Unreggie wrote:

Hi all,

I've recently had a lot of family problems. I don't wish to go into any detail about the problems on the board, but what I would like to know is if anyone has any information about psychologists?

I really feel that I need to talk some stuff through with somebody who isn't involved in the situation. There have been 2 incidents within my family in the past 4 months that have really upset me, & I still really resent my family for these things. I feel that if I don't go to talk to a professional, I'll get screwed up. & then on the other hand, I think I might feel stupid telling these stories about my family to someone else. I know people have bigger problems than me, so maybe I'm making something out of nothing...I'm unsure. Could a complete stranger help me get peace of mind?

I just want to know if any of ye have been to see psychologists or counsellors & what your opinions are...will it help me?

Hi,
You must be going through a very difficult time. If you go to the IACP (Irish Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapists) website, they list all the accredited members, phone nums and addresses. Fee is 40-50e or negotiable depending on circumstances. I hope everthing works out for you.