Scarily outburst of anger

LegacyUser

Right, I've been through a bit in my life so far (parents divorcing etc, sister and suicide etc). And I've always thought I handled it fairly well. The only thing that I started doing subconsciously (I think), was started smoking and skipped a bit of school.

But yesterday I had this massive burst of anger. I was near my locker in school, and this guy who's always pissed me off to a certain extent was around being his usual "I'm so great" and so on self. He come's over to me (I had thrown a bit of abuse at him earlier in the day, nothing out of the ordinary. Twas retaliation), and yells into my ear something to do with my sister.
And that's when something just snapped inside of me. I turned around and decked him. Then thought to myself "right, leave it at that" but by then I was on top of him beating his face in. Trust me I'm not proud of it, I've usually a cool temper when it comes to these types of things. I had to be physicall dragged off him by 2 friends of mine. Then I went outside and lit up a cigarette. Just outside the corridor (outside). I didn't even care what happened to me, was just so angry. I did see the guys face, and there was quite a lot of blood. I feel really bad now, and aswell, I got suspended from school (no surprise there).

I'm in the process of setting up an apointment with a psychiatrist, but I was just wondering if anyone here has had anything like that happen to them?
Thanks in advance.

Victor

It's (likely) stress. Built-up adrenilin that had no where to go. It finally found a release.

Can I suggest:

(a) find someone you can talk things over with, school counsellor maybe?
(b) get some exercise
(c) stop smoking

I am MAN

Yeah it's just alot of built up stress and emotions dont let it get you down to much and about that guy good stuff he probably deserved it you'll make him think twice about annoying anyone again.

DapperGent

I snapped once in school myself. It was certainly a build up of stress and anger over time, finally finding a release on some total prick. A complete overreaction at the time though.

I wouldn't focus on thinking that there's something wrong with you, just try to get healthily pissed off when the occasion requires or you feel like it, rather than letting yourself wind up like a spring.

Sleepy

If he was saying stuff about your sister (and I gather from your post that she committed suicide) the guy fully deserved the beating you gave him. I wouldn't worry about anger management or any of that, in fact I think it would be a worse thing to stand and take that sort of sh:t from someone.

Seeking help to deal with your parent's divorce and some grievance counselling regarding your sister are both good ideas. Don't let it get side-tracked into dealing with the fact you gave someone a well-deserved kicking, tackle the root problems that lead to your outburst.

MrNuked

Happened to me loads. Can't even remember what happened afterwards. It was one of the main reasons I changed schools even.
I wouldn't worry about it. If you are getting that angry, it is because you are dealing with ****ing pricks. You'll find that you get treated a lot better by people if they realise this can happen too.
One thing I would REALLY recommend is to avoid drink totally until you stop feeling like that.
Not sure about the giving up smoking advice. Cigarettes temporarily make you feel less stressed.

LegacyUser

Thanks for the advice, I was talkin to a few friends today and apparently everyone's really happy because the idiot got what he deserved and I was the one who did it. That brightened up my day!
Sleepy, my sister didn't commit suicide, she just attempted it, she's bi-polar (manic depressive) ya see.
I also found out that the guy has a broken nose (I think, that may have been an exaggeration), a nice big swollen cheek and two black eyes. It may seem cruel to some people, but thinking back on what he said I think he full deserved it and don't feel a tad sorry for him.
Feel loads better today, so maybe it was stress. Eitherway I've decided to start something like boxing and going to them gym.
Thanks for the help peeps!

ferdi

if he was talking **** about your sister he got what he diserved, dont worry about it.

HarryD

Sleepy wrote:

If he was saying stuff about your sister .....the guy fully deserved the beating you gave him. I wouldn't worry about anger management or any of that, in fact I think it would be a worse thing to stand and take that sort of sh:t from someone.

I have to agree

Memnoch

yes, lets solve all the world's problems by going around and beating everyone up.

don't tell me none of the guys in here advocating the beating up have never looked at a hot chick and said something a bit slimey to their mates about her?

That hot chick is someone's sister too probably, so by your own reasoning, her brother should come and kick the crap out of you?

okay maybe the analogy is a bit off, but the point is you can't resort to violence everytime someone says something nasty/unpleasant to you or about you

Sleepy

Yes Memnoch, the analogy is a bit off. The gobsh:te in question was roaring into RedMist's ear, giving him grief about his sister's suicide attempt. That by my reckoning deserves a slap.

impr0v

I wouldn't worry about giving up the fags for now, sort out the bigger stuff first.

The Clown Man

Memnoch wrote:

yes, lets solve all the world's problems by going around and beating everyone up.

don't tell me none of the guys in here advocating the beating up have never looked at a hot chick and said something a bit slimey to their mates about her?

That hot chick is someone's sister too probably, so by your own reasoning, her brother should come and kick the crap out of you?

okay maybe the analogy is a bit off, but the point is you can't resort to violence everytime someone says something nasty/unpleasant to you or about you

What are the bets he will not say one other word again?

Problem solved.

And a bit of well deserved punishment dealt. Some people need a good kicking and this guy sounds like one of them. It'll be a life lesson for him.

Violence is not the answer to very much but this case is probably an exception. I am not a violent person but I would without hesitation hospitalise anyone who acted like that towards me. Kudos to you Redmist. The guy deserved it.

cajun_tiger

ask what age and sex you are?

Hagar

RedMist wrote:

Eitherway I've decided to start something like boxing and going to them gym.

The gym sounds good but I'm not convinced about the boxing.
I'm not so sure that you should be improving your fighting skills until you are in full control of your temper.
What about yoga? It's very calming.

MrNuked

Hagar wrote:

The gym sounds good but I'm not convinced about the boxing.
I'm not so sure that you should be improving your fighting skills until you are in full control of your temper.

yeah i was thinking the same thing. try not to get a "hard man" image foisted upon you, and certainly don't get in the habit of thinking of violence or intimidation as the best way to solve your problems.
Don't take that the wrong way; there is nothing you said to suggest you would, but it sounds like you are getting a lot of "back slapping" for what you did, and that can make the idea of a repeat performance more appealing than it should be.

LegacyUser

cajun: I'm 16, and a male

Hagar: The only reason I was contemplating taking up boxing or some such thing was simply to get rid of whatever stress I may pick up. Wasn't going to improve my fighting skills - that thought never really crossed my mind. Simpy to take my anger out on a punching bag.

MrNuked: I know what you mean, and I'm not going to start kicking people's sh*t out just for looking at me funny, I'm usually a fairly passive person - and I only resort to violence when someone starts throwing punches at me. Even then I usually go for the pinning down/tackling thing so that the other person has a chance to cool off a bit. But if that fails, then I'll fight back. And as for a repeat performance - even if the guy does want a re-match or something, I'm not interested in fighting him.

And Memnoch, I feel that in this case (along with the majority here) that the guy fully deserved what he got. It's one thing calling someone a **** or whatever but when he insulted my sister and whatnot, the sh*t hit the fan with the force of a freight train. It's just not on like. If you want to go through life being someone who never raises a fist against anyone and who's willing to take whatever sort of abuse is given to you, that's fine by me. Just don't expect everyone to be like you.

Bottle_of_Smoke

Did the guy actually make fun of her suicide attempt or her condition? if so yeah he deserved it

If it was just "i wouldnt mind a piece of your sister" etc i think you owe him an apology

smokey2

been in the same situation so many times it's unreal!

I've similar circumstances!

I never realised talkin to someone could help me so much till I actually went and done it!

You need to sort the root problem like sleepy said and stay away from drink aswell as MrNuked says!