gf and stuff question

LegacyUser

This has been sent to various people, don't feel any less loved, its a cut and paste job from the other email

6 foot 4
227lbs (16 stone 3lbs)

Hey boards.ie, this may seem utterly childish but I will ask for advice even in its most basic form that others take for granted. As you all most likely know I am trying to regain a semblance of being and feeling like a normal person both mentally and externally. I have enrolled in college, started working, going out with people and a few parties and I plan to have moved out within 2 weeks. They are all major steps for me towards a positive end point.

Another part of the puzzle is forming a romantic relationship and it doesn't have to be serious. There are many reasons as to why I want a romantic relationship I in part want you all to also suggest if it's worth my time trying to form a relationship.

* For an ego/self confidence boost
* I miss having someone to sleep beside at night
* I'd like someone to dote on
* It's a distraction from other things
* It would be lovely to have someone who is entertaining and intelligent.
* Another piece of the puzzle in place

I realize I am 20 and have had relatively little contact with women in the romantic sense; the only positive feedback from any of this contact towards bettering myself has been to be more confident. I am a novice, I have never 'chatted' up or asked a girl out or even made the first move. They have always initiated it. If you respond to this don't take my feelings or that you may think you are belittling me for I appreciate all advice. I

I realize I am not an attractive man and you come to terms with the fact. For those of you who have met me advise me on what I can do to pretty myself up so I can at least work with what I have got :P I also have bad skin(dry, acne) along with blue underneath my eyes and lines on my forehead.

I am not an overly social person and prefer to be alone than with people but I realize that to have a relationship I need to get out there, so what do I do? Where do I go? What do I say? I feel extremely awkward in social situations

How do I approach women be it a complete stranger, acquaintance and strike up a conversation. I am devoid of any ability to connect or relate to people outside of music, movies, politics or insults. If it's a stranger that I just am attracted to physically/characteristics of their personality that I can see, how do I go about striking up a conversation?

If it's an acquaintance how do I make my intentions known or test the water to see if the feeling would be reciprocated.

I have no style; I am a brush down the front and sides guy with the hair along with jeans and sweatshirt for clothing. Change me if need be!

I realize this email/pm is self-indulgent/pity crap (anyone who uses these two words = idiot) but I need to start somewhere. I've given myself 5 months to get a girlfriend and I am doing exercise/losing weight (6 foot 4, 227 lbs)

Thank you people

Gordon

You've sent this to other boardsers via pm?

Tusky

ehhh what ? :eek:

WhiteWashMan

you want to know how to chat someone up?

havent you read all the other threads on this forum?

Lisapeep

What is the background to this email? How has your life been before now? It sounds like you really want a change, but from what?

Anyway, you say that you've enrolled in college. College is a great place to meet people. Look out for social events that are on, go along, even for a little while, and you're sure to meet people with similar interests as you!