No-one to go out with!

LegacyUser

Hello,

First off, despite the title, this has nothing to do with having a bf/gf.

Now, I'm a guy going to college and I've a few friends who I go out to clubs with a once every week or two. They are the type who go out pretty much only on Saturday nights, and always to the most pop/rnb type clubs, you know the type of ones. It seems to be the same handful of clubs and pubs every time.

I think my friends are great and I'd be lost without them, but the problem is that I'm not really into their kind of music/scene. There are other "alternative" (much as I dislike that word) club nights on every week that I've only been to once or twice (ever) but I really enjoyed them.

There always seems to be gigs, clubs and pubs that I want to go to, but my usual friends never want to go to. I wouldn't feel right taking them to places I want to go to anyway cos they wouldn't like it and then I wouldn't have fun.

I suppose the main problem is that I can't find people into the same kind of music/scene that I am.

So what should I do? Go to these clubs and gigs on my own (and maybe talk to a few people)?
Do people do this, or is that just sad?

LegacyUser

What college are you in? Colleges usually have societies in which you can meet like-minded people to go out with!
Otherwise, "Whelan's" on Camden Street in Dublin is somewhere you should go with your friends - it's a good balance between alternative and pop music in there!

the_syco

Dude, I so know what you mean.

I have 2 sets of mates. The metal'ers who go to the heavy metal gigs(and only to the nightclub when drunk) & the rock'ers, who go clubbing & the odd club in town, but not much else, prefering the pubs and clubs with "attitude".

And then there's me. I've yet to find a club that does Hard-House in Dublin. I'm going to resume the habit of visiting Fibbers/Brussells/Isac Butt's. But none of my mates will go to either.

Go it alone. Have a good night. And if the lads ask what did you do, say you went to X place, had great craic, list a few tunes which you knew were played, and ask how sh|t was their weekend.

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Its my belief that this is a small world. This belief comes from the fact that I've met people in the pub/niteclub/gig I went to alone, that I haven't met in ages. If you meet somebidy, whom you know from college, in the gig; you've expanded your circle of friends. At the end, all you gotta do is ask of similair venue's.
In college, I knew of nowhere to go. From asking people I knew from my college class's, whom I met in the pub, I found sweet places to goto.

Morale of the rant; what's the point in wasting your youth? Once you don't go into the real scumbag area's, where you've been warned not to goto (by stories/mates), then you'll be ok.

littleninja

I find myself going out by myself too, I usually end up meeting up with a few girls I know anyway and we have a laugh

Bottle_of_Smoke

doyles opposite trinity is another good mix between the two types of music

Sleepy

Well, if you're in college, I reckon the music society of the college would be a good place to start. Even if you can't play an instrument, they're always on the lookout for extra hands to act as roadies, crew and sound engineers. You never know you could even find an exploitable talent you didn't know you had and mix business with pleasure

WhiteWashMan

put up a post on the events forum and meet up with some boards people?
surely there are enough people here now that whatever your persuasion is (be it musical, fetish, or just plain 'magic the gathering' heads), there must be someone out there for you.

wouldnt be the first time boards.ie was used as a dating agency

Winnie

well what kind of music are you into what type of gigs are you talking about?

memphis

Yeah, as said joining a few college clubs or societies is the answer. It will allow yo to meet other like minded people, you can then join em for a party, drink, chat, whatever.

And let me just add, having mates isn't just about going to nite clubs. Its about having a companion, someone to talk to, someone to share secrets with, and generally just someone to have a joke and a laugh with.

Hope that helps!