Relationship going cold

fasteddie04

I have been going out with a girl for the past few years, I realy love her i don't doubt that. The thing is that in all this time i feel like i have been waiting for something. Now when i think of it there are a few problems. Where do i go from here!

When we met she was working in a job she liked, i was a student. It was grand meeting at w/e's. When i fin college i moved to her town and got a job there. She lost hers - she was living with parents. She had really strict parents that would freak if she stayed in mine so that rarely happened.

She could not get a job in her profession - this really upset her all the time. She was forced to work jobs that she hated just to earn a living. This went on for 2 years. She decided she had to go to college again to change her career path. We talked and agreed, the college was in the UK we managed fine.

Now she is back and is looking for a job again. She has applied for loads all over the country, the only reply she has got so far is a 4 hour drive away.

All this moving means that she has no friends who live here - between them moving and her moving any time im not with her she is alone.

I fell the relationship has suffered from, lack of seeing each other, lack of intimacy, her not being in a stable job, her parents, friends. All this makes her feel unhapy alot of the time. It makes me unhappy. Walking away from it is not an option - i'm crazy about her.

If i showed her this she would feel so guilty and inadequate - she has said sometimes why don't i have a normal girlfriend. I think i do - but it's tough sometimes.

What do i do?
what if she is forced into taking a job to get a foot in the door?
How can i make it more exciting?
I constantly tell her it's going to be ok but i've been telling here that for 3 years now.

I appreciate good advice

Evil Phil

If you're crazy about her and she's crazy about you then you'll find a solution, probably a compromise that works best for both of you. Tell her exactly what you've told us here and talk it through. Thats the best advice I can give you really.