love and travel

Davy24

Hello folks i need some advice please. i broke up with my girlfriend over the weekend and it was a little bit of a shock and as this is not the first time it happened, broke up that is, i'm very hurt and confused. now over the weekend, some of my mates asked my would i like to go with them travelling the world. its sounds great and i'd love to go but am not 100% sure. my job is not what i want, i dont have any ties now and if i get away might get that girl and the pain out of me. thing is its all being booked this friday so have to make up my mind quickly and i need advice, any advice. she was my best friend, or so i though. i'm a bit confused to be honest. went to the states before and came home early cause i got homesick and i dont want that to happen on the far side of the world. thanks for reading all this and any replies will be appreciated!

FX Meister

Go away with your mates. If it's meant to be then she will be there when you get back. Don't put your life on hold for her.

Zulu

Sounds like the perfect oppertunity to go. Go man, you won't regret it.

I did a similar thing. You'll still miss her; it won't cure your pain - but you won't have to bump into accidently; you don't meet up for friendly chats/pints (and end up feeling gutted but convinced it was the right thing to do).

The only thing I would say is, make sure it's off. Met her. Ask. ...unless your convinced.

trajan

I agree. Travel a bit while you still can. There are loads of girls out there and remember you'll be teh exotic foreigner where you're going so it'll be easier to get over her than stewing here in the rain. I would keep in touch with her though, by email if possible, rather than cutting any ties completely. I know it's going to make it harder to forget her but the impression i'm getting is that you regret the breakup alot...

Beruthiel

I doubt you'll ever get such a good chance to travel like this, grab it with both hands or you'll regret it for the rest of your life - you'll come back a different, stronger, more rounded person - go for it!!

Davy24

Trajan, regret it a lot dont see us getting back this time although it happened before think she is sure this time. but it happened suddendly. pissed off with her cause she said she loved me so dont see how she changed overnight. to be honest dont want to get hurt by her again so maybe i should see what the world has to offer

Doodee

Davy24 wrote:

Trajan, regret it a lot dont see us getting back this time although it happened before think she is sure this time. but it happened suddendly. pissed off with her cause she said she loved me so dont see how she changed overnight. to be honest dont want to get hurt by her again so maybe i should see what the world has to offer

Heh, It will happen to you more than once man, relationships are part of the package. However, travel wont, and if you let this one slip then next time you will more than likely do the same.
As my mates keep reminding me, Travel broadens the mind.

Also, dont do this to forget her, do it to have something to remember for yourself. Lifes too short to wait around for people who dont know a good thing when they have it.

Chad ghostal

DoOOOOo it
Dooo it
DoooOO it..
do it.

as everyone has said you will not regret it.

PH01

As my mother use to say, if in doubt, don't.
Now I'm not saying that you shouldn't go away with your mates. You could always postpone the trip for a couple of weeks, then join up later. That is if you're still confused about going.
You've had a shock, and you may not be in the best frame of mind to decide to jack your job and travel the world.

But then again I'm probably not the best person to give advice on a matter like this as I've always been a cautious person. It takes me ages to make a decision on anything.

What's the worst that could happen?

Sleepy

GO FOR IT!

If you can afford it, go. You don't like your job. You're single. You've no ties and you've the opportunity to do something that you may never again get the chance to do. To be honest, my opinion may be tainted because I'm working towards the point where I can get rid of my debts and save enough to go travelling but anyone I know who's gone travelling has come back a happier, more fulfilled person. Well, once they get over the depression of being in Ireland again!

Get off this site, go to trailfinders.ie and get out the credit card. Jump on the plane and never look back (well, you could come back and post from Thailand or wherever to tell us how great we are for advising you to go!)

Danni

Go go go! Sounds like a once in a lifetime opportunity. 3 years ago my boyfriend broke up with me. A few of my friends were going away for the summer & i decided to join them. While there my ex started texting me saying he missed me etc.. and then i began to get homesick and came home after 5 weeks (we were supposed to go for 3 months). I came home, we got back together & broke up 2 weeks later again. Moral of the story, if you go & she starts texting you... don't end your world trip!!

Hope it all works out for you

ixoy

Flee! My sister's only recently back from her worldtrip and the sights she saw and places she visited make me froth with jealousy at times. Go, leave this place. It's a chance not all of us get so in other words: carpe diem it.

FX Meister

If you chat with her though, don't tell her your thinking of going away. I know I don't know the girl but she may string you along to keep you here. Means she leaves her options open

Evil Phil

The Gods have smiled on you Davy24 Suddenly your ties to home have been cut and then your friends want you to go travelling with them. Lady Life has paid you a visit and was in a good mood. Go, throw caution to the wind, quit your job, say goodbye, burn your bridges and leave. If she really loves you she'll be there when you come back if not, well being at home isn't going to change that. Everything happens for a reason. Seriously in 10 years time you'll remember the travelling and this girl will be little more than an afterthought.

For the love of god man Go Travelling!!! I cannot stress this enough, and that goes for the rest of you too.

One question: Where are you and your mates going?

<additional/> This is where I'm going next. Its a year away though

Tiriel

Instead of letting her dictate.. which seems like what is happening.. take control of your life from here on in. Don't wait in hope that she will change her mind again. Nobody should wait around like that. Go for the break. Fate plays a role.. and this is one huge opportunity. It's with your friends.. the best support network everyone has.

GO

fragile

Go for it, it will be an unforgettable experience..... don't expect any miracle broken heart cures from it though, just go any enjoy yourself....

jester77

I was in the exact same position as you about 1 year ago. Was going out with a girl for a number of years, was off a few times. Then she said it was completly over and no way back. So I decided to go travelling. I went to USIT, got all the details sorted, had my flight picked, talked to my bank about withdrawing my SSIA. Bank sent me a fax, all I had to do was sign it. I then was talking to her and told her my plans. She said she didn't want me to go and wanted me back!! So I got back with her. Few months later it was totally off and I haven't spoken to in 6 or 7 months... really regret not travelling now. Would have been in Oz for the start of the rugby world cup

Sleipnir

Go. You'll regret it if you don't.

PullMyFinger!

Im in the same position myself Davy. I think fate plays a strange part in these things and you should go for it.

I wasnt impressed by trailfinders.ie, no package deals that I could see.

Try http://www.ebookers.ie/holidays/around_the_world/around_the_world.html

WhiteWashMan

shag a bird in every port...

Alana

if your really that concerned about your friendship with her, talk to her, it might involve swallowing pride but it might save a friendship...however dont put your life on hold for someone you'r not even involved with anymore id go away, i know how hard it is immediately after a break up, particularly if it was long term and ye were so close...talk to her, but its a great oppurtunity to go traveling with your mates...

StupidLikeAFox

Its friday now, how did it go?

Evil Phil

ColHol * 2. I also want to know what’s happening, I've taken an interest in this one. One more point however, it’s been my experience that staying friends after a break-up usually translates to one person (usually the dumpee) settling for second best: "I can't have them as a partner so I'll have them as a friend instead". This doesn't work and leads to more misery. Its better to try and move on, leaving friendship for a number of months until you're back on your feet.

WhiteWashMan wrote:

shag a bird in every port...

Oh, the ambiguity ...

Alana

yea from personal experience staying friends with your ex's aint a very good idea, it gets messy and kinda turns evil and scary, but that said if you still av feelings for this girl, put aside pride etc and talk to her, and then dcide if u want to move on or...