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Tracing a person

  • 13-10-2004 3:38pm
    #1
    gison
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭


    I would like to know if anyone has any idea on how to trace a person that one has lost contact with(20 years). A former girlfriend called me recently but did not leave her number. She is now married but I don`t know what her married name is. All I know that after her marriage she moved to NI. How could I find out her married name and thus her contact details ?.... preferaly without her knowing
    Any ideas anyone?


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  • #2
    humanji
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 19,976 ✭✭✭✭humanji


    Are you actually just stalking her?


  • #3
    meepmeep
    Closed Accounts Posts: 374 ✭✭meepmeep


    gison wrote:
    How could I find out her married name and thus her contact details ?.... preferaly without her knowing

    If you are looking for her, why don't you want her to know? I mean if she knew you wanted to find her then she could just call you and tell you where she is because she has your number?

    Sounds a bit dodgy to me....


  • #4
    narommy
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 469 ✭✭narommy


    If you knew where and when she was married then you could check in the registry office for her married name.

    Then you could check the old papers for wedding photos. sometimes they say where the couple will reside. Follow that up.

    Or you could ring all the numbers in the phone book for her new surname. There is always the option of goooooogling her but that's never worked for me.

    btw, Why you looking for her???????


  • #5
    gison
    Closed Accounts Posts: 2 ✭gison


    ok..when she called me she said she was depressed, saying she was now separated..this at the time left me thinking what should I do now so I kinda fogged her off.(well we hadnt`t seen each other or spoken for over 20 years) .later i thought about it and had felt guilty for maybe not trying to help her out. In all the upheavel I didnt take her number so I was just wondering should I try to contact her again...perhaps at this stage she has found help elsewhere


  • #6
    The Muppet
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 14,006 ✭✭✭✭The Muppet


    Do you know any members of her family or better still maybe some of your old friends may be still in touch with her and be able to help.
    If your intention is to contact her to help I don't see the reason behind the secrecy TBH.


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  • #7
    the_syco
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 37,316 ✭✭✭✭the_syco


    Contact her parents. They most likely still live in the same house they did 20 years ago.


  • #8
    The_Conductor
    Moderators, Society & Culture Moderators Posts: 32,286 Mod ✭✭✭✭The_Conductor


    The General Registry Office (Joyce House) on Lombard Street (Just off Pearse Street) holds copies of all the marriage certificates issued (about 2-3 years out of date). If you go to the reading room upstairs you can browse through ledgers of all marriages (and births/deaths etc) listed in alphabetical order. Marriages are all listed twice, once each under the names of the bride and groom, and their marriage cert will have their address where they resided when they married.

    There are numerous methods of narrowing your search down further when you have their original address.

    Of possible interest- the Department of Social and Family Affairs will forward correspondence onto the last address they have on file for her (but not actually give you the address) if you contact them and have a very good reason for contacting her. (They do this through tracking the address details that they have for her PPN number- and may require further information from you- such as her date of birth and maiden name (which I presume you have anyway).

    Its not difficult to find people- even if they don't want to be found- it can be bloody tedious, but its eminently possible......

    S.


  • #9
    LegacyUser
    Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 166,026 ✭✭✭✭LegacyUser


    can't you just ask the phone company for the numbers of all who called you ? maybe they don't give them out, i dunno, just a thought


  • #10
    Cute_Button
    Closed Accounts Posts: 41 ✭Cute_Button


    Try not to use PIs and that sort of thing- people can be a bit weird if they think you are stalking them or something. Its not nice leaving things up to someone else, but sometimes its better to handle things at an arms length instead of going overboard. The Social Welfare route above sounds like an interesting possibility- that way you can give her your contact information, and put the issue of contact into her hands- which means if something is going to happen its a two way thing.

    Been in a not dissimilar situation myself a while back (it didn't work out longterm, but there were other reasons for that). Often wonder would I have made the amount of effort I did, if I wasn't so stubborn. The hardest thing of all- is going to the ends of the world for someone, and not knowing what their thoughts and feelings actually are. Someone asking for help- regardless of previous chemistry between you- sometimes is just simply someone looking for help.

    Its a difficult one to call- best of luck to you with it.


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