I need help think ive an eating disorder

juliesanangel

i am going to try and be brief i think i could have an eating disorder and do need some help over the last few months ive had to deal with an awful lot including the death of my brother who i miss so so much i have some serious health problem in which thebody needs weight in order to stay healthy howver i havelost almost a stone in about a month i have to say i get my meals each day but am throwing away most of my food il eat breakfast then for dinner i might eat the veg or meat or potatoes but not all 3 will always throw away 2 same for tea i might just have a sandwich or some thing lite if i can help it thats about 5 ish then i eat nothing til morning i am now at the stage where i am hungry all the itme but dont want to give in to it i know that my weight loss can have drastic consequences on my health but i cant stop myself dont know why i dont know what to do or where to go for help

ykt0di9url7bc3

okay, remember to keep a track of your ideal weight for your height...

at least you are showing up for breakfast, dinner and tea, maybe your hunger will come back, plan a very nice meal for your self, your favourite soup\starter followed up by the meat of your choice and something small and sweet to finish....

celebrate something nice that happens in your life with a meal...

most of my minor pleasures are listed on my favourite list of meals and its a nice thing to enjoy that can rarely miss

WhiteWashMan

it doesnt sound like you are avoiding food, hiding the fact that you arent eating, or throwing up to avoid 'gaining weight'
in fact you are scared of losing too much weight. its a healthy attitude.

you may just be suffering from a lose of appetite, but that very common under times of intense pressure or stress.
if youre worried, go see your gp.

i also recommend adding in some punctuation to your posts. it wont make you gain weight, but people will understand what ou are saying at least...

Victor

Commisserations on the death of your brother. How old was he? What happened?

Sounds like the stress is getting to you. How well are you sleeping, exercising and working?

Are you currently under / over / normal weight?

Do you have anyone that you can talk over your brothers death with? In times like these sometimes we take the burden upon ourselves and support others to our own detriment.

Sleepy

From the sounds of it, you don't have any of the major eating disorders because most of them are based on someone just thinking that no matter what weight they are, it's too heavy. It would seem like you've lost your appetite due to stress as WhiteWashMan suggested.

If you're just pushing your food around on your plate and eating very little try to start on a course of multi-vitamins to ensure you're getting the right amount of the main vitamins and minerals your body needs.

It might help to talk to a doctor about this. If they think your eating habits are dangerous they'll certainly recommend a good therapist to help you get through what must be a very difficult time for you.

It may be an old saying, but time does heal all wounds (and sometimes there's a reason sayings last so long).

Beruthiel

juliesanangel wrote:

i am going to try and be brief i think i could have an eating disorder and do need some help over the last few months ive had to deal with an awful lot including the death of my brother who i miss so so much i have some serious health problem in which thebody needs weight in order to stay healthy howver i havelost almost a stone in about a month

I would put it down to stress for now. I went through something simular 8 years back, I was going through a very depressed and stressed time - I could hardly eat, it just seemed to get caught in my throat and I had no real hunger. I lost over a stone. It didn't last too long (a few months) and I just seemed to get to the other side and started eating again.
It's not hard to see that after the loss of your brother that you would feel like this. I would give yourself some time, try to push yourself to eat if this continues, perhaps see a doctor as you do not want to add to your difficulties by further complicating your situation.
I hope you feel better soon
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Evil Phil

I'm sorry for your loss juliesanangel, and I'm not suprised you've lost weight. Sounds like you're having a bad time of it alright. I agree with stress and grief causing the weight loss. You certainly don't seem to be in denial about it which is a healthy sign. Keep trying to eat and if that fails go see you doctor and talk it through with him.

You could also try asking in a health food store about herbal appetite stimulants like teas or something. They've helped me in the past. But above all take your time and be gentle with youself.

PH01

It looks like you are experiencing the loss physically as well has the loss emotionally in the death of your brother. This happens a lot and you wouldn't be alone in this regard.

Try and put your anxiety about food to the back of you mind for the moment. You may need to get help to help yourself deal with the loss of your brother. I'm not saying that you haven't dealt with the grief, just that you may need to go further for you. Try talking to someone in your family, or someone you trust, or professional help even, but focus in on how you are dealing with your brothers death.

evie

My condolences for your loss.
Things will get better though. As other posters have said, it definitely doesn't sound like you have an eating disorder per se. For one thing you want to eat and that in itself is a sure sign that you are happy with the subject of eating. Again, as the other posters have said, stress and anxiety would seem to be the root of the problem. You have just been througha horrendous couple of months and it's truly amazing how the state of your emotions can affect your physical well being.
As the others have written, get yourself to your GP and have a chat with him. Maybe getting things emotionally off your chest could aid in getting your appetite back. Have you thought about talking to some, a friend, a family member even a counsellor?
In any case, my thoughts (and I'm sure everyone's thoughts) are with you.
Get well soon.

Coconut

You poor thing, sounds like you're going through a really rough time.

I know most of the people here have put your lack of eating down to stress, but when you say that you are hungry all the time, but "don't want to give in to it", it sounds like a little more.

"For the person with an eating disorder, food is turned to as a means of relieving distress and achieving some degree of control over life."
If this sounds even a little bit familiar, please check out the excellent information at www.bodywhys.ie.

I'm not trying to be alarmist. Of course it may not be an eating disorder and hopefully this information may just put your mind at ease when you read it.
Good luck.