Can't move on

LegacyUser

Right this isn't my sort of thing, I usually keep everything as close as I can. Earlier this year a girl whom I was going out with for over 2 years ended our relationship. I completely fell for this girl I can't say everything was perfect we had our fights all that typical boyfriend girlfriend stuff and we got over it and moved on. Anyway to avoid a complete break down of those times. I can't get over her I think about her every day and I can't shake this bottomless feeling sometimes it gets so bad it phsyically hurts. I haven't been the same person since I've become moody and depressive. I've been with other people, not looking for another girlfriend because I'm a bit of a train wreck and I haven't meet anyone who I find interesting.
I broke off all contact with this girl before the summer but we ended up talking and it was good, that was four months ago now, haven't heard from her, I still see her around. I don't want to talk to her really, I know she has her problems and whenever I see her see looks happy and I don't want to spoil that, she has my number. I just want to move on.

Havelock

Its a hard thing to do. It takes time. (Unfortunatly a non-spefic amount)
Seeing other people is a good step, you may meet someone who will make it easier, someone you could like as much or even more than this previous girl.
What i will say as advice is try to wait till your feelings are truely resloved before trying to make friends again. Because it leads to oodles of problems otherwise.
Good luck.

gimmick

When my ex finished with me, it was the end of the world. The was the bottomless feeling as you say. It physically hurt. It took so long to get over it. I had ben with others, but i even made the msitake of saying her name with a new girl.

Its a matter of how long do YOU want to 'mourn'? When u can honestly tell yourself that the mourning is over, thats when u will move on. And dont be so naive as to think that you can forget about her altogether. You wont. You will probably always have something for her, but not enough to go running back. I still dread bumping into my ex 2.5 yrs after the split.

But now I have met a girl, who ive been with for almost a year now, who is so much better than the last one, i often wonder why i was so hung up about sarah.

Time heals all, but attitude heals faster.

Shad0r

ladeda wrote:

I can't get over her I think about her every day and I can't shake this bottomless feeling sometimes it gets so bad it phsyically hurts. I haven't been the same person since I've become moody and depressive.

Yeah break-ups from long term relationships suck the big one. There is always one party who is more broken up than the other, as well which only makes it more difficult. If you still feel as you say you do for this girl you should stay ten miles away from her at all times. You're deluded if you think you can be friends with her right now. Maybe someday, but not now. Hope (on your part) will prove itself the worst of enemies.

When I broke up with the first girl I ever loved, it took me probably six months to get over her. Anything more than a one night stand was academic, as I just wasnt interested in anyone else. Then I met someone amazing, when least I expected it. Actually nothing long term relationship-wise came of it but I regained a balanced more positive outlook on things because I realised that there are other fish in the sea, and believe it or not (I'm sure you wont right now...but in time you will) you will find someone better.

If it had been 'meant to be', it would have been.