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Unprotected Sex: Risks + Rewards

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  • 30-09-2004 10:09pm
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    LegacyUser
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    So myself and my boyfriend have been having unprotected sex for a while now. Before people start freaking out we have not had unprotected sex with anyone else in previous relationships. If other people were in the same situation would they have unprotected sex ? Or if both were tested would they then have unprotected sex ? or keep using condoms ?

    I don't know about what others think but sex without a condom is so much better. There is definitely a lot more sensation for both of us. Are there condoms out there that are the best for being ultra sensitive. Even the durex sensitive ones we found were crap.

    Another thing, I've heard that it's mostly the "bottom" partner in sex and not the "top" that is the one at much higher risk of infection. Is there any studies to prove this ?


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    Stark
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    I don't have links to studies, but yes the "bottom" partner is at a much higher risk of infection (It's actually as high as 99% I believe). Lubricant is very important, so that any abrasion is minimized.

    I believe it is okay to have unprotected sex with each other after being tested, though to be ulra-safe you should probably wait a certain period to give any latent viruses a chance to incubate and show up on tests.


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    bopper
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    if i were u id make sure you both got tested b4 continuing to have unprotected sex, just to be safe. Then if the test results came back ok i defo think its alrite to have unprotected sex when you're in a long term relationship


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    FX Meister
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    Still slightly on topic here but anyway, you guys have me worried as I have unprotected sex with my gf. Can you recommend somewhere I can get tested here in Ireland? Just to be on the safe side.


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    moridin
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    As far as I know there's a sexual health clinic in St. James?


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    FX Meister
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    I don't want to have that umbrella scraping thing done though, sounds horrible


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    Annasopra
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    Haven't been tested in St James but the GMHP clinic is good

    FX Meister/Original poster the thread below should give you info on STI clinics

    http://www.boards.ie/vbulletin/showthread.php?t=152605


    Just a point to the original poster, you may trust your partner but what happens if on a drunken one night stand he sleeps with someone, personally I would never have unprotected sex

    also if you get teted now and all the results come back negative you should be aware that the HIV virus has a 3 month incubation period so you should get tested again 3 months later

    also here's some advice

    http://www.gayhealthnetwork.ie/folder/web/html/safersexadvice1.asp

    It was so much easier to blame it on Them. It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone's fault. If it was us, what did that make Me? After all, I'm one of Us. I must be. I've certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them. We're always one of Us. It's Them that do the bad things.

    Terry Pratchet



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