cure for the broken hearted???

LegacyUser

ok, long story short i went out with this girl a long long time ago and we broke up for reasons i dont care to explain! we are now both in very different places she has a beautiful boyfriend and i am seeing a very lovely girl! things were going great with this girl until in all my stupidity i realised i still have feelings for my ex now i know its pathetic and i know i have to get over it i just dont know how! we are still in eachothers lives although to a much lesser extent but we get on great and hang out quite a bit! ive found myself staying up all night getting drunk on my own and if that wasnt bad enough it just happens to be a very important time for me what with having to begin deciding what i want to do with the rest of my life and all having to get up early to work etc! the problem is i really love her! and really want her to be happy which is why i cant say anything as, as far as i know she really adores her boyfriend and i can see why ive spoken to him and he is really lovely! i do really like the girl im seeing but my ex.... id be lying if i said my feeelings for her weren't holding me back! how do i get over her????

Teddi

bad enough as it might sound mate..

you might just need to let this one slide...unless she feels the same way totally.... (u'd have to find out someway).... i wouldnt persue it unless you were 100% certain she felt the same..

if you approach her with this...and she doesnt feel the same?...

you could end up loosing her permanently...

just something to think about...

hope things work out for ya...

Naos

maybe u like her boyfriend......

ahem: But I agree with Teddi. Those feelings are just jealousy and will fade with time. Concentrate on ur new gf, could possibly be a better model ..

gluck man

snoopish

ya, I was thinking you might have a thing for the bf too. look ye broke up , it didn't work out...whatever you do don't hurt your current gf over this. Either brake up with her and pine on your own or move on and cherish what you have in your new relationship because you never know when that might be gone too!

MrNuked

I reckon you tell her how you feel. You won't be able to move on from her while you maintain a close relationship anyway.

Fwaggle

wrappedincold wrote:

she has a beautiful boyfriend

sure its not him you're after? bit strange for a guy to call another guy beautiful

LegacyUser

nah dont have a thing for the guy just being honest about him letting you know i have a reason to be jealous! anyway yeah i think i should talk to my ex tell her how i feel and maybe suggest we keep our distance for a while she is a really great girl! smart funny amazing sweet and talented so i want her in my life one way or another! the girl helped me through some really tough times and put up with me for over a year despite my all the tough times we had together! thinking maybe i could then focus on my new relationship hopefully it will help me get over my ex but i think it may like im using her or something what do you guys think???

Victor

Sounds like you need to talk it out with someone, but I wouldn't do it with the two women or the beau.

Possibly a passing phase.

Fwaggle

Fwaggle wrote:

sure its not him you're after? bit strange for a guy to call another guy beautiful

For the person who gave me bad feedback for my "joke", and told me to learn to read...

Maybe you should learn to read yourself coz it wasn't a joke. Retard

Gordon

Fwaggle, if you have a problem with what someone told you on reputation then please take it up with admin.

And most definately do not call someone a retard on Personal Issues again.

ShiverinEskimo

From what you say you've already made your mind up.
If you tell her how you feel your already betraying your current girlfriend. Innocent Bystander.

Its a bad idea. and pretty selfish, best case scenario for you is your going to hurt two people. your gf and her bf.
Worst case scenario if you tell her is she says no and you have to get over her all over again.
Nothing that anyone here can say sounds like its going to stop you though so godspeed good citizen.

LegacyUser

i just said i was gonna suggest the two of us keep our distance for a while not gonna ask her to get back with me because she does seem happy with the new boyfriend at this point i guess all i want to do is keep the friendship buti want to give myself time to get over her! i really dont want to hurt her as the breakup hurt her quitea bit it hurt both of us immensely! thanks for your concern though! was just wondering if i should continue things with my new girlfriend i do like her i mean there is reasons i went out with her in the first place just dont want it to seem like im using her!

DapperGent

I'd say you should dump your current girlfriend it's probably a bit unfair on her with the whole you fancying your ex thing.

Then what'll happen is that your ex will be all concerned and whatnot because your relationship has just ended and you'll be alone together and she'll ask you why you broke up with her.

Then you can turn to her with big sad eyes and say "Becuase I'm still in love with you."

She'll be all over you like warm jam. Chicks dig that shít.

The perfect crime.