Is being beautiful a burden?

Hagar

Obviously I can't answer this, that's not an avatar it's a photo, but I would be interested to know how being better than average looking effects the life of a person.

mike65

Well I know its been hell for me.....roffle!

Mike.

Tyrrial

Man... i just wish i could somehow uglify myself.... damn my perfect body*





*very sorry, had to post a sarcy comment, i'd expect more of them

Flukey

Well it has its uses. Did you ever see a really ugly woman, with a face like the back of a bus, driving a BMW or a sports car? Good looking people often do well. Large organisations will always have a good looking set of women at the reception, being the public face of the company. Whether it is fair or not, just being good looking can be an extra career progression tool and can be an advantage in a lot of areas of life.

On the negative side, it may result in a lot of unwanted attention. You can have some very arrogant good looking people: there are people who are good looking and there are people who know they are good looking, if you know what I mean. A lot of them will try and milk it. So good looks does not always make for good personality. That is why you will often see more moderate looking people bagging some of the good looking ones as the good looking ones don't like any of the other good looking people in terms of personality.

CathyMoran

Flukey wrote:

Well it has its uses. Did you ever see a really ugly woman, with a face like the back of a bus, driving a BMW or a sports car? Good looking people often do well. Large organisations will always have a good looking set of women at the reception, being the public face of the company. Whether it is fair or not, just being good looking can be an extra career progression tool and can be an advantage in a lot of areas of life.

On the negative side, it may result in a lot of unwanted attention. You can have some very arrogant good looking people: there are people who are good looking and there are people who know they are good looking, if you know what I mean. A lot of them will try and milk it. So good looks does not always make for good personality. That is why you will often see more moderate looking people bagging some of the good looking ones as the good looking ones don't like any of the other good looking people in terms of personality.

I think that good looking people can seem less approachable. There are perceptions about beauty - such as the blonde etc. People can assume that you are less intelligent if you are good looking and it may be harder to get dates as people will not ask you out as they assume that you are out of their league.

Personally I believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way and that inner beauty is far more attractive.

weemcd

"you're fit but my gosh... dont you just know it"

couldnt resist

best kind of girls are the ones who are really good looking but dont go on about it, or dont even know

Flukey

CathyMoran wrote:

I think that good looking people can seem less approachable. There are perceptions about beauty - such as the blonde etc. People can assume that you are less intelligent if you are good looking and it may be harder to get dates as people will not ask you out as they assume that you are out of their league.

Personally I believe that everyone is beautiful in their own way and that inner beauty is far more attractive.

That is most certainly true. Good looking people can be sort of intimidating to others because of their looks. Personality is what we usually end up deciding our special people on. We all have our inner beauties but they cannot be easily seen, like outer beauty can. A very ugly or very good looking person can easily frighten people off someone and their personalities lie undiscovered. Many beautiful people have awful personalities, sometimes with arrogance due to their looks.

CathyMoran

Flukey wrote:

That is most certainly true. Good looking people can be sort of intimidating to others because of their looks. Personality is what we usually end up deciding our special people on. We all have our inner beauties but they cannot be easily seen, like outer beauty can. A very ugly or very good looking person can easily frighten people off someone and their personalities lie undiscovered. Many beautiful people have awful personalities, sometimes with arrogance due to their looks.

That is why I have always dated friends where I saw their inner beauty, and why I can not tell if my ex's were good looking or not...they were all beautiful to me. I have found that the so called ugly people can be more arrogant, maybe as they have built up thicker skins and the good looking people think that the world loves them so you can't win!

Flukey

The problem is when you first see someone you don't know what they might be like. It is not always possible to get to know them like if they were among your circle of friends. Often you see someone and a decision to go and talk to them has to be made there and then. The only thing you have to go on at that point is their looks. Situations where you can get a chance to know people over time are better, but they are not always what happens.

Sarky

Flukey wrote:

The problem is when you first see someone you don't know what they might be like. It is not always possible to get to know them like if they were among your circle of friends.

How can you not get to know your friends?

Flukey

Read what I said again. I said it is harder to get know to what people are like if they are not among your circle of friends. Among your friends you get a chance to know what people are really like and then you might be come attracted to them. If you have spotted someone for the first time ever you don't know what they might be like. In those situations, it is often a there and then moment, when the only thing you can go on is looks. Unless you make your move there and then you may never even see them again. You don't have much time to assess what they are like and discover what they are really like. That takes time, which you may not have. You can take the chance and it may work out, but you can't be sure what you might be taking on. It is nice if you have the chance to get to know someone over a long period of time, which you can do with your friends.

Bunnyefey

I find it difficult to believe that anyone is out and out ugly but in previous experience, any of the better looking people I used to hang around with, always got a lot more attention than myself, were more popular etcetc, so I guess in that respect they had one up on me. The only difference now is that my great ass personality has won me any popularity I've needed and in turn made me a lot more attractive to others than I used to be( so I know kick all those pretty girls ass) I think its got something to do with age. When you're younger you usually judge purely on looks straight off but as you get older, it doesn't matter as much and its the silly things like the way someone smiles or looks at you that makes you like them on a physical level. Well thats my opinion anyways.