weird feeling

holyman

hello,just signed up to boards so this is my first post.recently broke up with my girlfriend,were together about 8 years,its a bloody weird feeling being single after a long stint.its like being a teenager all over again,i have to learn how to chatup women again cos i forget how.its scary.

CathyMoran

Sorry to hear that - I went through the break up of a six year relationship last year, so I have an idea how you are feeling. All I will say is that there is life after this...it is easier than you think to date again. You need to give yourself time to grieve but there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

yawnstretch

Good luck. Man I hate breakups

Sleepy

Don't bother chatting them up, just chat to 'em the same way you would have for the last 8 years. Remember, there's a reason that women always like men that are taken: it's because they're not hitting on them, they're a challenge and they don't come across as desperate. They manage to get the fact that they're a nice guy across without trying because they're not trying to get them into bed. Then once she show's some interest, just match her pace with the flirting and you'll be grand. Now, all you need to do is figure out how to meet them. If ya figure this one out, let me know!

cc007

Hey mate,

I went out with a girl for over 5 years Holyman (we broke up May 2003) and while i was gutted and pi**ed off for 2 months, life since then has been great. I've been on numerous dates since then and have been having great fun. As far as i'm concerned it's all about "CONFIDENCE" ....

Ciao ....

Zulu

Best of luck dude. I (was) finished up a long term relationship there 2 years ago. Single life isn't that bad really. It's a good time to be a man.

KT1

Hi Holyman...I am also new to these boards and have no idea really how they work. I split up with my boyfriend last weekend after we have lived together for 2 years. It is incredibly tough...I haven't got to the feeling like a teenager again and the thought of chatting anyone up at the moment is a yuk! So I think you must be getting to the good place to be feeling like that...well done!

Pinkchick03

I think KT1 and Holyman should get it on - Only joking!

Sorry to hear about both of your break-ups! Its not an easy time in anyones life!

May you both find true happiness!

KT1

Thanks pinkchick...though I recommend if anyone has had a recent break up DO NOT SHOP at Tesco's in baggot st. Has anyone ever shopped there? I was in the queue (very long) and the first song was "turn around, every now and then I fall apart, I need you now tonight I NEED YOU NOW FOREVER" ...can't remember who it is by I think it is called "turn around bright eyes". Well, that was hard enough to get through....but the next song started..."when I was young, I never needed anyone, now those days are gone.....ALL BY MYSELF, DON'T WANT TO LIVE...." I had to leave the shop immediately.

Seraphina

the music is the same **** in all the tescos, you cant escape it! i hate all the really desperate love songs they play, as if you need someone else you complete your life :rolleyes:

holyman

hello again,thanks for all the encouraging replies,anyway i too hate supermarket music.i never go shopping without my phone,the ones with the radio on them,turn it up and its like being in a music video.but i have a habit of singing along which is a hazard to other shoppers.

CathyMoran

From experience - get a date, make yourself go on the date even if you do not want to...the first attempt may not be great but you need to get out onto the dating scene again...ask a friend to set you up if your heart is really not in it.

Selik

Haha I didn't know anyone really "dated" in Dublin / Ireland... I thought everyone just went out, got bladdered and sorta ended up with someone...

KT1

and you are right giles...though it is a damn shame!!! Bring dating back is what I say. Or make it easier for men and women to chat without being bladderred!!

Zulu

Nope - the dating scene is alive and well. I really hate it though - the whole going out and getting bladdered really is better.

The Clown Man

I broke up with my girlfriend of 5 years about 2 years ago. (Lived with her for 4)

For the first 6 months I was like a babe magnet - unbelievable! The next 6 months I was so crap at chatting up women I wasn't with one. The next 6 months I started getting back into things but started growing bored with one-night-stands. The next 6 months I spend hopping from one girlfriend to the next trying to find someone, anyone who I was compatible with.

Now I am with a girl for 2 months and I really don't believe that I am going to stay with her but she is just too great to leave.

Basically, God only knows what I'm going to be like in another 6 months! Things change and most of all, on the relationship front, you change so often when single that it is impossible to say where you should be and what you should be doing. There is no way to be or not to be. But, guaranteed, you will be somewhere else mentally or physically in 6 months!

Unfortunately all we can do is sit back and see what happens. So give it 6 months and then have another look!

Lisapeep

I dont think there's any rush to get back into the dating scene straight away! Why not spend the time, that you now have to yourself, doing things that YOU want to do! You've catered for someone elses needs for a long time, so why not go out, take up a new hobby or something and enjoy yourself! the dating scene will find you when the time is right!

KT1

Thanks Lisapeep I agree with you. In relationships we all tend to change and compromise and feel a bit responsible for anothers happiness and being whereas now is a time to indulge oneself. It certainly helps the heartache side of a breakup.

TomTom

I'd like to be single for a month, seriously. I'm in a long term relationship and i don't want out of it. but i'm travelling with a big group of single lads and its a killer on a night out

vibe666

the music in the baggot st. tesco's s really bad. the highlight of all the depressing music in there is the fine young cannibals ffs.

"she drive's me crazy" :rolleyes:

so there's single girls in the supermarket then.

I'll meet you by the tesco's finest section.

Zulu

vibe666 wrote:

so there's single girls in the supermarket then.

Thats exactly what I was thinking. I'm in there everyday for lunch - and while I never once noticed the music, the talent in there is superb! Perhaps we should set up a "tesco's of baggot street singles club". Meeting, naturally, would take place by the freezer section

KT1

and would you say you are of tesco's finest standard? You will find me in the blue stripe tesco's best buy. What do you mean are there single women in tesco's? when standing in queue look at how many of their eyes fill up when another sad song comes on. If they aren't single they want to be as they don't look very happy!

CathyMoran

In terms of dating soon afterwards - I should qualify this...firstly, I do not feel that you loose your identity by dating, you can do what you want and find yourself...also, there are circumstances where someone might feel that there is no need to morne, such as if the other person had an affair or if the relationship was dying for a long time. The pain from the break up of a long term relationship is indescribable, a relationship that long is akin to a marriage so the normal break up rules do not apply.

Pinkchick03

TomTom wrote:

I'd like to be single for a month, seriously. I'm in a long term relationship and i don't want out of it. but i'm travelling with a big group of single lads and its a killer on a night out

so Tom tom you being faithful?