The Ex got engaged.

LegacyUser

I found out today that my ex has been engaged for three months and for some reason it really bothered me! i'm well and truly over him and its been a long time sonce we were together (about two years now) but he was my first love and it was an incredibly messy breakup. the last time we spoke was last christmas when he was texting me saying how he still thinks about me sometimes and misses me and would love for us to have "one more night together." anyway, suffice to say that kinda messed with my head and we ended up rowing and havent spoken since.

i guess its like one final kick in the face because this is the girl he went on a dirty weekend with right after we split (we were together for two years) and after that he kept telling me that he was still in love with me but didnt want to hurt her by getting back with me, which was what i wanted at the time.
i know this shouldnt bother me and i do wish him all the best.
has anyone else ever felt like this or am i just being stupid?

cerbeus

You're not being stupid, just human. Don't know if people that we truly love ever leave our system.

Do you still see him around much? If so try to avoid him for a while, well until you get used to the idea that he's engaged.

Am in a similar situatuion myself and am coming to terms with it slowly but surely. My ex and I spilt four or five years ago and I used to hold out a small glimmer of hope that we'd get back together but now she's engaged it's highly unlikely so I'm just getting on with life and trying not to dwell on what might/should have been.

Try not to think about it too much and try to get on with your life with out him.

Quigs Snr

This guy seems like a complete smeghead. "One more night together ...." more like I've got an itch in my loins baby and you are the cure.

I almost pity the poor fool who will marry him. If he is with her sending you those texts then he is (potentially) a cheating toerag and you are better off rid of. A leopard never changes their spots. If it's any consolation to you, your rival will eventually cotton on to him, probably too late, and it won't last.

I feel quite similar to you at times, my ex (of 7 years), is buggering off around the world on a trip that we had planned for years with the ****head that she cheated on me with. Even when you are over it, as I am now, it does bother you from time to time, it's only human.

Zulu

Sorry to hear. That's the kinda news everyone can live without.
If it's any consolation, dosen't sound like it the dream relationship form the outset - so in 15 years, with a few kids - they shoud be having a whole barrel of fun.

Slutmonkey57b

Maybe he'll invite you to the wedding - if he does, view it as a growth opportunity, and when you turn up at the church, kick him square in the nuts and leave.

MrVestek

lol, kinky. But yes i do agree, if you're still reading this that is, that yeah i dont think we every truely get someone we've loved out of our system, or at least, we never stop caring for them, deep down. I know you're feeling this way but ya gotta try and move on. I know it's hard to do, you said you've gotten over him but look at it this way, as quigs said, he's probably a cheating toerag with the potention to go out and do the same to her so at least take some consolation in the fact that at least it's not you that he's doing this to now. I dunno what else to say really, that probably didn't help but if it did then i'm glad i could contribute in some small way.