first time

LegacyUser

hi,

i'm 20, nearly 21 (a girl) and still haven't slept with anyone even though i'm so old! iv just met someone i really like and want to, but am worried that they will laugh at me when they find out i'm still a virgin. any easy solutions, and am i like the oldest virgin in the world ever?

Sarky

An easy solution would be to lie. But that would be silly. Just be honest.

And you're not old. I was older. Don't worry about it. Most folks are very don't consider it a big issue. If they do, you're probably better off not sleeping with them.

Keep two things in mind, though- It may well hurt, for one. Also, you've "just met" him. Make sure there's no doubt in your mind about where he's been and whether he's clean or not.

Have fun, and don't forget the condoms...

Zombrex

Sarky wrote:

An easy solution would be to lie.

I wouldn't lie, if this is someone you trust and want to sleep with then you yourself should be honest with him. Also he should be a bit more gentle with you if it is your first time, which I am sure he won't mind doing.

I wouldn't worry, it is not that big an issue. A lot of men like the idea that a girl isn't as experienced as they are, men can feel threated if a girl has been with more people than they have. It would be more of an issue if you had sleep with 100 men :-)

Sarky

The lying bit was intended as a joke. I despise dishonesty in a relationship.

elvis2002

ah i wouldn't worry about being old and that nonsense. Sex is a special thing I feel and you shouldnt just give ur first time to anybody. I dont think any man would laugh at u if he thought he was in luck to sleep with u. Men feel quite a sense of power when they have a chance to deflower a woman so to speak. I would recommend to you that you are 100% sure the time is right for you to have sex and nobody else. Dont feel presured into anything. If your going to make love, just whisper in his ear this if my first time, he might smile, not because its funny, but because he's exited !!...

seamus

"Men don't take criticism well, that's why they like to marry virgins"

Seriously though, there is no chance that he'd laugh if he found out you were a virgin. Men like virgins. Dunno why, probably some Angel/Devil complex we have.

Besides, if you think he's going to laugh, is he really the kind of guy you want to sleep with? Losing your virginity is no big deal. You spend years dying to lose it, and then when its gone, you spend the rest of your life lamenting that you didn't do more research on the subject.

cormie

Relationship wise I'd prefer the girl I'm with to have slept with as few guys as possible. 21 aint too old at all. You're just caught up in media and what not.

You're sure to have fun anyway. Enjoy it:)

yossarin

21 is no age.
I know girls of 28 who are virgins. They just aren't interested in the whole thing.

...oh my god, i've stepped into a pun black spot. back away everyone, nothing to see...

Doodee

Tbh, as most people say, guys dont worry about the sexual experience of someone they wish to date.

Its much the same as that Kevin Smith quote, Guys wanna goto bed with a Whore but wake up with a Virgin. Its not really a big issue, and is only really nothing to worry about. Everyone has to start at some point. Dont lie about it though, you'll only end up lying for the whole relationship, and that aint good.

Best of Luck.

Sleepy

A couple of years ago, I was with a girl the same age as yourself, who was a virgin. I was her first and am still thrilled that I was. When you know that someone hasn't just jumped into bed with the first person they've gone out with it feels very special to be chosen to be the first.

dudara

I never slept with anyone until I was nearly 21. Not that I didn't want to in principle, but in practise, it took that long for the right guy to come along. As far as I'm concerned, it all happened at the right pace and time for me, so I wouldn't be worried about it at all, as long as you're happy with the man in question.

Poisonwood

Chill out about this. Being a virgin is not a disease. You're not in a competition with the rest of the world. You'll have sex when you feel right about it, if you have it before you feel right about it you'll only regret it.

Zulu

Scoring virgins rocks. Guys love it. In fact there's a few of my mates who's only regret is not having done it!