think i miscarried

Silent Grape

the last time i had sex was over a month ago. in between my two last periods i had really bad cramps for no apparent reason.

then i had what seemed like a really painful heavy period, which lasted a day; couldnt walk for a couple of hours, and had to sit at obtuse angles. . woke up the next day, all was well. couple of weeks later, had a bit of bleeding, presumed it had something to do with coming off the pill.

now that ive been thinking about it, could i have miscarried? i miscarried before, four years ago when i was 17. it just seems like a very odd pattern to have.

i might just ring life or cura or whatever and ask them about it, because i cant afford a visit to the docs just now.

in a way i dont want to know, because i dont want to know i lost a second child. what should i do, should i find out now what happened or just let it be and get on with things? im VERY alone in this situation, it was my ex who i have had sex with, and we're not on speaking terms at all.

Dizz

i might just ring life or cura

Good idea - I've a feeling that things like this naw away in your thoughts and that those guys could tell ya what happened and hopefully put your mind to rest. Also if you feel alone talking to someone (family are the best) might negate that somewhat.

Dizz

Beruthiel

Silent Grape wrote:

now that ive been thinking about it, could i have miscarried? i miscarried before, four years ago when i was 17. it just seems like a very odd pattern to have

this can happen to a lot of women
as it could have happened to you more than once however, I would suggest seeing a doctor and having yourself checked out.
Don't worry about it though, both my grandmother and mother miscarried and went on to have loads of kids.
For your peace of mind I would get checked out though, no point having all sorts of silly things going round in your head if there's no reason for it.
Also, if you are feeling bad about it, they may point you in the direction of someone who can talk you through it.
good luck
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Nuttzz

Go see a doctor, there is lttle point saying I cant afford it when your health could be at stake, also for god sake use some protection when having sex if you are not looking to have a child.

Silent Grape

i was on the pill at the time.
also the last time i misscarried was after id been raped, which had also been my first time having sex, so please dont start that on me, nutzz, but thanks for your comment.

booked in to see a cura counseller on friday anyway, which she said would be free. do you think i should tell myex about it, does he have a right to know??

Lainey

Silent Grape wrote:

i was on the pill at the time.
also the last time i misscarried was after id been raped, which had also been my first time having sex, so please dont start that on me, nutzz, but thanks for your comment.

booked in to see a cura counseller on friday anyway, which she said would be free. do you think i should tell myex about it, does he have a right to know??

no, i think your first priority right now is to make sure you are ok... you are not really sure whether you have had a miscarraige or not and as you are not on speaking terms it might not help you at all.. i'd find out first.. also you should see a doctor as well as the cura person (are they doc or counsellor??) as you might need more immediate attention such as a d & c.. good luck on friday..

Chucky the tree

Nuttzz wrote:

also for god sake use some protection when having sex if you are not looking to have a child.

yes, because that always works... :rolleyes:

Silent Grape

i didnt miscarry. all is well. wierd situation though.

advise to anyone else: if you're worried about something like this, get it checked out, i spent nearly two weeks going insane before dragging myself to the clinic.