Bleeding after sex

LegacyUser

Hi.

I'm a regular boards user and reader, but to save embaressment for myself and my girlfriend I'm posting incognito.

My girlfriend and I have had sex 3 times so far. She's 21 and before me was a virgin. The first time it hurt her a little, but didn't bleed. The second time she did bleed and it hurt a little. We recently had sex for the third time, and she bled again. I believe its not something to be worried about as its normal, but would like some feedback from others.

Thanks

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the_obsolete

It is possible that you're stretching her vaginal walls a bit too much...has she complained of pains when ye're having sex now?
If it keeps on happening with no sign of stopping, I'd recommend taking her to a gyno if she doesn't already have one and explain the situation.

uberwolf

TBH I'd a thought its a little early for mad reactions like 'gyno' visits. I'm fairly sure tis v.normal in the short term and only if this reaction persists should you be concerned. The females here please correct me...

meantime, make sure she's relaxed (in so far as is possible), aroused, and be patient with her, you as a male have the better end of this sex thingy (till she learns to multiple orgasm)

littlemiss

From a girls perspective I wouldn't worry too much, the key is learning to relax, the more comfortable she is the less it will hurt. Relaxing and be comfortable is the key issue, just take your time.

Paladin

Perhaps umm, "over-vigorousness" (©Paladin 2004) has a part to play? Hey we all young once and had to learn to relax

eth0_

Hi. GO SEE A DOCTOR. PI is not the place for medical q&a's!
It could be something simple like it being one of her first times, or polps or it could be cancer. If it keeps happening, she should go see her GP

Draupnir

jesus, cancer is a bit of an over reaction, the poor lad will be cracking up worried now.

id say its just cos shes only starting out mate, give it a few more test runs before you start trying to give her any sort of serious mileage. ease her in so to speak.

eth0_

Originally posted by Draupnir
jesus, cancer is a bit of an over reaction, the poor lad will be cracking up worried now.

It wasn't meant to be an over reaction. I was pointing out that it could be nothing, or it could be something simple like polyps or it could be cancer. Whatever the reason, boards is not the place to be discussing whatever possible condition we think she has, only a doctor can do that.

Gordon

Agreed.

Goto gynae.

The reason that this is the course of action is the fact that you have queries about whether or not it is a good or bad thing that has happened/happening.

The reason that this is not to be discussed here is because we cannot be held in any way responsible for allowing a piece of advice to cause bodily harm.

Surely I don't have to lock this thread to make sure no-one posts medical advice...

Johnny Versace

_not_medical_advice_from_me:

An ex of mine was a virgin and bled for about the first 10 times we had sex. Virgins pretty much always bleed, and not just the first time.

I'm not giving medical advice, just stating a fact.

...

Something worth considering:

If your girlfriend, who until very recently was a virgin, goes to the doctor to ger her vagina examined (after having sex just three times), she could be quite traumatised and put off sex.

I'm not just saying this is bad for you, but it's also very bad for her, and could ruin something which should be a wonderful part of her life.

So you and her should have a proper talk about this and do a lot of research before you take that step. Extreme caution/paranoia in this case may not be worth it.

If she is only bleeding after the sex, I think you already know what the reason is.

Etain

Try using lubricated condoms.

LegacyUser

First of all take your time. Don't rush it. Take as long as you like and enjoy it. If either of you get uncomfortable - take a step back - if the two of you love and understand each other this shouldn't be a problem.

But if the soreness and bleeding continues, try using a lubricant. I recommend KY Jelly. It's totally safe and it will help your sex life big time.

_CreeD_

Begone Jelly, Astro-Glide be thy master.

And with that I'd echo the advice on using a good lube and taking things easy. Allow the body time to adjust.