Your guidance please?

LegacyUser

i have been here before and i posted before and not followed the advice.so this time i am going to see what you have to say.

lets do a quick review of me. I am 23 very shy and immature for my age.

i met this girl over christmas and shifted her once.she was only around for the night.she was my neighbour girlfriend sisters.

anyway i forgot mostly about it, as i live a good bit a way from her.

but last weekend she came down with her sister again.But i was out saturday night on my own and my friends were out with my neighbour, his gf and the girl in her home town.anyway she rang me at 4 in the morning and i spent a good half an hour talking to her(according to my mate who was sober) but i cant remenber one word i said to her.

they all came down to my home town sunday night,but i was out all day sunday on the beer and i cant remeneber much of sunday. i met her and her friends in the niteclub but decided not to talk to her as i was too drunk and didnt want to make a fool of myself.so just avoided her. i didnt know i had spent as much time on the phone to her saturday night. until the following day.i called my friend monday who was out in her town saturday night with her and he told me she thought i was nice and what she said about me.she was being wound up about how she would meet me on the sunday night.so by not talking to her i made a fool of myself than by talking to her.

the thing is i cant get her out of my head. i never felt like this before. she is nice girl and was looking good. that sunday night.

the problem is i dont have her number as she was talking to me on my friends phone.i could get her number from a 3rd party.but is this wise?.my thinking is if she wants me to get the number she will give it to me.

not sure when i will see her again as well. i could go out in her town its not that far away?

could you give your advice please?

rs

Get her number and drop her a text.

What's the worst that could happen?

She doesn't reply, ah well. At least you'l know and can move on.

Sleepy

Get the number, grab your balls and call her. Ask her out for a drink/coffee some time. At best, you'll get yourself a new girlfriend. At worst, she'll be flattered but uninterested. Life is there for the taking if you can take the first step.

Kobie

And don't drink so much - there's way too many "and I can't remember"'s in there to be healthy. She probably wouldn't be too impressed if she knew you hadn't a clue what you two were talking about for so long.

Zulu

Get her number and CALL, any idot can text - besides, she mightn't know who the text is from.
She likes you - we know that already. You get on well, we know that all ready. Make the call - she'll love it. Make sure and apologise for avoiding her - but be honest - "you were drunk and was afraid you'd do somthing/say somthing stupid" and then say " man I don't know what I was thinking - I should have just come over to you, but I'm a bit shy..... blah blah"
Well done man, you're in there.
Good luck.

BUT CALL, DON'T TEXT

Dr. Loon

Originally posted by Kobie
And don't drink so much - there's way too many "and I can't remember"'s in there to be healthy. She probably wouldn't be too impressed if she knew you hadn't a clue what you two were talking about for so long.

Exactly what I was gonna say. Relax on the booze.

HarryD

Sounds like the ball's in yer court buddy..
She has made an effort, and you should return it.
I'd get her number and drop her a text..
Even if you don't see her again at least things won't be
left hanging between you two..

Battlesnake

I def agree with the rest that you're drinking way too much. Life must be a bit of a blur huh?!
The girl likes you, you like her. Get her number *call her* and explain what an eejit you were with the drink, say your sorry for ignoring her and start over.
As said before - 'you're in there'

Unpossible

get the number and call, apologize for being so drunk and explain that you didn't talk to her sunday because you knew you were drunk and didn't want to make a fool out of yourself/didn't want to make a bad impression

LegacyUser

thanks for the advice.

its good advice and i am going to take the fall and go for it.ill try and leave the ball in her court but there is a few hurdles.

firstly the the too much drink. i know things got out of hand saturday night as for sunday it was a celebration and i hadnt planned to get so drunk.

the second hurdle is to get her number. This is slighty difficult as i cant ask my neighbour or his gf for it and the 3rd party i mentioned above is a woman who i work with and she told me could get me the number.thats my best hope.

what's worrying me is how she will react as she gave out to her sister boyfriend (my neighbour) who told me before he was texting her saying it was me, and the girl gave out to him for giving out her number to what she thought was me.I have no idea what was said in these text messages.Hence the reason i have to ring in case she thinks it is not me just another wind up.i hate ringing people. i usually run out of things to say.the last girl i rang i hung on with nerves.

me beening so drunk on sunday night,she could have got lucky with someone else.

Going to a wedding sunday night and my neighbour and his gf will be there with all the friends who were out the last night.going to ask the women at work for the number and sit on it over the weekend and she what is said at the wedding and maybe make a call next week if what i hear at the wedding is positive.

i know my neighbour is going to hear about the call soon after its made and whether positive or negative the piss taking is going to be huge.if the call is made ill just try to aplogise for not talking to her sunday night and and talk about the weekend.

hoping to leave it on the talk to you the next time i see you basis.


anyway got to get back to work. ill update this when i ask the women at work for the number.

P.S she was pretty drunk saturday night herself so i am told.i have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

Sleepy

Best of luck mate. Remember: fair heart never won fair lady. From the sounds of things, you'll be in her good books instantly for having the balls to call knowing full well you're in for a slagging.

LegacyUser

ask for the number but it didnt go according to plan.if i dont have the number by monday i am going to text her sister and ask the sister for the number.

anyway if i get the number and the courage ill hopefully let you know how i went by later in the week as i know she works nights so may be hard to a hold off.

Sleepy

If she's the sort of person that doesn't like her friends to give out her number you could always ask them to give her yours.