Inspired by Clarebears thread...

BEAT

Ok here goes...2 years ago I met this guy through some friends and we hit it off instantly! There wasnt anything we didnt have in common and the feelings were totally mutual.
Then comes the whammy, he has a girlfriend..blah blah blah
They are not engaged dont live together and see each other once a week but still the fact remains that he has a girlfriend.

So anyway this guy, we will call him John. He and I continue to hang out and did nothing more than kiss a few times. We basically stayed up all hours of the night writing together and reading poetry, quoting songs and all that kind of stuff. It was great we listend to record albums and just talked.
So this went on for about 4 months and then I called it quits cause he said he couldnt find a way to break up with the girlfiend cause they have been through so much together blah blah.

So here we are 2 years later and I run into him at our mutual friends place and he wants to hang out all night right away like we used to, I agreed on a totally friendly basis and he tells me he always thinks of me, reads the stuff we wrote togther all the time and it was indeed all over his bedroom floor scattered about.
I left and hadnt seen him since, then I go to my friends last weekend and they tell me that his girl "beth" found all the stuff we wrote together and the stuff I wrote for him and they had a fight. So he is still reading this stuff after 2 years and now his girl knows and from what I gather he still has feelings for me?

I dont know what to think, I mean at the time I thought I was falling for him but I wouldnt let myself until he was sorted out with Beth....I really dont know what to think...
what is your take on it?

ClareBear

Don't ask me....obviously....:dunno:


Do you still have feelings for him?

simu

I'd avoid starting a romantic/sexual thing with him unless he has definitely broken it off with the other girl.

BEAT

I avoid him at all costs because he has a girlfreind but he always seems to pop up where ever I am...I also avoid him so my feeling dont get stirred up again because I am sure I could fall for him again.

I guess I just dont understand why guys cant make up thier mind, why they cant just choose one and be done with it, it is easy for a girl to be loyal and loving..why is it so hard for men>? This I fear is an age old question and I imagine I will get all sorts of answers, but the question is still there. I guess its sort of like that Men are from mars and women from venus syndrome huh?

oh well, I wont lose any sleep over it just something that was on my mind.

The Corinthian

Originally posted by BEAT
We basically stayed up all hours of the night writing together and reading poetry, quoting songs and all that kind of stuff. It was great we listend to record albums and just talked.

Are you sure he doesn't have a boyfriend?

smiles

Originally posted by The Corinthian
Are you sure he doesn't have a boyfriend?

Play nice....

but yes, be careful, gay boyfriends aren't a good thing!

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BEAT

Originally posted by The Corinthian
Are you sure he doesn't have a boyfriend?

lol, the thought had crossed my mind actually
anyway, think I will be staying away from said mutual friends so I dont have any more accidental "run in's" with him anymore...besides I am happy being single for now...seems like you rlife just gets turned upside down when you are involved with someone :dunno:

KlodaX

I found that having an interest in someone who shows an interest in you, yet has a partner ... leads to trouble.

one way or another you'll end up with Beth looking to kick your ass .. or the fellow continuing with his games. If you where with somone, and someone you respected show'd an interest in you ... would you encourage it?

I think he wants both of you... and will if you let him.

tony 2 tone

Originally posted by BEAT
I guess I just dont understand why guys cant make up thier mind, why they cant just choose one and be done with it, it is easy for a girl to be loyal and loving..why is it so hard for men?

it goes the other way too, i have found that out in the past. Best thing to do is just cut him out of your life.