Stuck in a rut - not meeting anyone

LegacyUser

Hello

A problem I'm hoping some of you will be able to suggest advice with

I'm a good looking lad, 24 yrs old and my problem is I've been single for a few months and and I'd really like to meet a cool girl however my problem is that I hate the whole meeting a girl in a pub/club thing. I've had a few girlfriends and they were all great looking but I met them all by being introduced by a mutual friend.

The problem is at the moment all my friends are in situations where I'm not being introduced to anyone - so am therefore single

If you put me in a situation whereby I'm introduced to a few girls I'll have no problem getting a date with one of them - my problem is that my social circle doesn't allow me to meet anyone at the moment.

I know this has come up before and the advice is join a club or something but I need something more specific ie which clubs, how do you join, are there any websites that may help

Basically I'm looking few a couple of new groups of friends whereby I can go out and be introduced to new girls

Please help as I found myself browsing maybefriends.com today! (which looks like a complete rip-off btw)

Flashling

Maybe the fact that your not meeting girls has to do with the fact that you are a bit hung up on looks. You mentioned the fact your exs were great looking, what does that have to do with anything, and you also said you were good looking, and that if you were in a group you would have no problem getting a date. Maybe, you need to work on your personality. Maybe. Also, you should stop blaming your circumstaces, and do something about it. Go out, talk to new people that you havent talked to, and remember that you can be happy without relying on someone else.

Red Alert

Maybe you already know someone who you'd like to go out with. If you asked me about a year ago when i met my present g/f for the first time if i ever saw myself going out with her, i'd probably have said no. Funny how you find out you fancy someone you already know and don't think you could go out with. Maybe go out for a few drinks with one of your single female mates.

Xcom2

Originally posted by Flashling
Maybe the fact that your not meeting girls has to do with the fact that you are a bit hung up on looks. You mentioned the fact your exs were great looking, what does that have to do with anything, and you also said you were good looking, and that if you were in a group you would have no problem getting a date. Maybe, you need to work on your personality.

Sound's bout right.

skipn_easy

Sheesh, for once someone thinks good things about themselves and you tell them to work on their personality. Tis a bit harsh tbh.

I need something more specific ie which clubs, how do you join, are there any websites that may help

How about the Single Males club?

Seriously, we can't tell you what clubs to join, there isn't a magical club where all the single good-looking cool girls hang out. Join clubs that you would be interested in joining, wherever you live I'm sure there's something you would be interested in. Martial arts so you can impress her with how high you can kick your leg or an Irish Dancing club so you can do your Michael Flatley impression. Who knows?
Or you could just enjoy your single life, your friends and your job and don't worry about actively finding a girlfriend.

Sleepy

To quote a pretty wise book "Life is difficult". It won't always be what you expect. If you're having such difficulty meeting people why weren't you at the Boards Beers? That was a great chance to meet a few new people and I know that I for one grabbed it.

Take the chances you're offered, it's all you can do...

Ellesmere

Originally posted by Unhappy camper
I've been single for a few months

Yeah, when your going out with someone, living life to the full, and then it all ends. Then what?


Get someone else? :dunno:


Ever hear of reaquainting yourself with a person called 'You'. Or are you the type who rebounds from one relationship to another. Always needing to be with someone (for massaging your ego or aesthetics).

Play it cool. Go on a spiritual journey, become artistic, work out in the gym, learn a musical instrument, read more books. Now that your not having to account for your every movement to someone else you have time self improvement. Become an intresting person. :cool:

ravenhead

When you say that you always get introduced through mutual friends, where does this happen???

kerryangel

hi i think the only way you will meet someone is if you stop thinkin about it. just go out and enjoy life as a sinlge guy. the one for you is only around the corner. plus speaking as a single girl, you will be alot more attactive to girls if you dont make it obvious that you are looking for a girlfriend. if you play it cool and act like you love being single the girls will come running. thats just my experience anyway

Johnny Versace

Some of the responses here are very harsh and to be honest, quite pathetic. Just because someone is good looking and knows they are, what does this have to do with his personality? For all we know he could be the funniest, most charming guy in the world.

There is no need to be so bitter.

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OK back on topic.

I think you have to just accept the pub/club scene if you really want to meet someone - otherwise you could be waiting a while which is obviously something you don't want to do.

I agree that meeting people through other people is always the best, but that takes a lot of time and effort.

So my advice to you is to keep thinking of other ways/opportunities to meet people, but in the meantime go to some decent bars (not of the copper face jacks variety) and see what happens.

Good luck