about a girl...

LegacyUser

Ok Im a regular boards user - an 'insane poster' at this stage i think and I'd like some views on this...

Have been seeing a girl for about 4 months who I've totally fallen for and has, by her own admision, the same feelings for me! I won't sicken you folk with my lov'd-up-ness but I'll leave it as saying it's pretty amazing!

Im 23, have experience of longer term relationships so don't dismiss me as a love sick puppy it's early days but it seems there's a real connection there

The problem? She's going away for the summer in a few weeks

She's no definite plan - when we talk about it she says she wants to come home the odd time and Im invited over to see her (but can't leave for any great length due to circumstances)

The question>

Do I be true to her and do the long distance thing just til she comes home for good in Sept?

Do I aim for freedom and hope to get back together when she comes home? -Risk chewing my clenched fists with the missing of her all summer!!?

Do I just attempt to cut my losses and do the "sensible" thing and totally call it off?

Thanks guys!

BuffyBot

I won't sicken you folk with my lov'd-up-ness but I'll leave it as saying it's pretty amazing!

If it's that good why would you even be thinking of calling it off? I find it odd that you say that in the early part of your post, and then ask if you should break it off a few lines later.

Kazu

stay with her and then ride anything on legs during the summer

senordingdong

Originally posted by hold/me/down

The question>

Do I be true to her and do the long distance thing just til she comes home for good in Sept?

Do I aim for freedom and hope to get back together when she comes home? -Risk chewing my clenched fists with the missing of her all summer!!?

Do I just attempt to cut my losses and do the "sensible" thing and totally call it off?

Thanks guys! [/B]

Maybe you should wait and see how you feel at the time (when shes away that is) and try to pay attention to how hes feeling aswell.

Chinafoot

Originally posted by Doodee
ok, without trying to fan any fire.
Peachy, sometimes people need to make their own decisons, tis part of life and learning.
Advice is grand, but like mord says (and i agree with him) we have no idea what either of them is like.

Yes, i know he is entitled to ask for advice. But mord is right, we dont know either of them, and it is quite possible that the way it is told aint teh way it is.

im in no way suggesting that people CANT make their own decisions. i dont base all my decisions on advice from other people. what im saying is that sometimes some people feel they need to ask for it.

im not saying that we know everything about the situation, obviously we dont. all im saying is that people are entitled to ask for advice without getting abuse.

this has gone way off topic so can we not just move on.:rolleyes:

dmd

You know she's gonna **** somebody else, don't you?

tinkerbell

*Ignoring all the bickering going on in this poor thread*

Dude, do what your heart tells you - tiz pretty obvious how you feel. If you feel that strongly about her, a few months apart ain't that big a deal, t'will prolly make you appreciate each other a lot more anyway.

Kold

I don't see what's wrong with just cheating. I always think calling it off is just one less girl you can have sex with...

lordsippa

DON'T GET ME INVOLVED IN THE BICKERING, but I kinda agree with mords point on us not knowing anything bout the situation per sé beyond what you left sitting there for us to ponder. Basically it's a test of the relationship, and personally if I felt I'd cheat on her I'd do the break up - maybe make up when get back thing... That's about the best advice I can give.

(and those of you complaining about why we reply... damn man i'm bored and dling on a 56k modem! what else do i have to do?)

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Gordon
You know, I'm being pretty lenient here but if anyone posts off-topic after me I think Bru will brush you off PI with her broom.

you are too nice Gordie
are we the good cop/bad cop?


peachypants

I would appreciate if you would kindly leave the moderating to the moderators and stick to commenting on the topic of this thread - Mordie may have been harsh in his comments, but they were all fair points. There is no way we can advise the thread starter on this, only he can know what exactly he wants to do

Sleepy

I faced this problem a long time ago. I broke up with the girl in question. I've regretted it ever since (3 years on and I still know it was a mistake).

If you love her, bite the bullet and go for the long distance thing for the summer. If not, it's probably time to call it a day.

So, by that logic, Mordeth is right. Only you can answer the question: do you love her?

Nala

Mord had some good points. It is YOU and HER in that relationship, not you, her, and half of PI...

Typedef

You know.

If you really felt all that emotional mumbo-jumbo for the chick you'd not have to ask whether or not it would be ok to sleep with other people.

Maybe I'll try that one at the wedding if I ever do that.

"Oh yah sure I love the chick revrund, but, you know, if we're apart for 2 months or so, I'm going to sleep with other people".

Hugh Grant pay someone to eat your...

I mean.

Hugh Grant in four weddings at the altar - eat your heart out!

smiles

Wayyyy too offtopic.
Split Mord's "feedback" to the Feedback/Suggestions forum.

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Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

ah, it was fairly relevant to the thread at hand though.

he asked for advice and I gave some in a roundabout manner.. just because it wasn't the two opposite ends of what he wanted to hear.....

*shrug*

ravenhead

I really think you should give it a go - been there & even though I'm not with the guy now ... we did stay together for quite a while after the long distance thing & it actually made us stronger in the long run...

oq4v3ht0u76kf2

Jaysus, even if she left yesterday she'd be back in 4 months man... it's really not that long and besides... it means you have a whole summer to do whatever you want. I love being with my girlfriend and we have the best time together but being with my mates we have a different time and this means you have a whole summer to mess about and do whatever you want with your mates... you can walk around the house in the nip and put on as much weight as you want! (Provided you lose it by the time she gets back that is.)

I'm assuming you went 15 or 16 years of your life without sex so 4 months won't kill you in that regard and I'm sure you can phone her once every fortnight or so. I know it'll be tough and in a perfect world she'd be sticking around for the summer but she obviously really wants to do this and why ask her to choose between you and travelling for the sake of 4 months and a sore wrist?

She'll be back before you know it and as long as you treat it the right way you can have a blast this summer - in conclusion, stay with her, do everything you can to make sure she has a brilliant time while away and just have a great summer. (And if you can meet up sometime in the middle of the summer then all the better!)

Johnny Versace

Originally posted by Kazu
stay with her and then ride anything on legs during the summer

What he said--^

She'll prob be doing the same! ww)

LanceStorm

I was in the exact same situation as you last summer.
My long term gf was going to japan for 3 months.

I wasnt happy to lose her for that long but it worked out much better than I ever could have expected!!
I partied all summer long with the guys, hit on chicks then pulled out the i have a gf card at the last minute 'brilliant fun+great sense of power', and I finally got in shape cuz she wasnt around.

We kept in contact through email, and the occassional phone-call, and when she came back things were better than ever. In retro-spect, the break did our relationship the world of good. Not that you could have persuaded me that at the time!!