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LegacyUser

No, I'm not mr. floppy, but forgive my anonymity. If many people I know didn't use Boards I would have logged in.

I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 months now and we're both madly in love. Recently we decided to go the whole way and we were all set. Eventually we got into bed together, and, to my horror, I had a soggy carrot between my legs. The bloody thing was as soft as jelly. So, naturally, we couldn't go ahead.

It's strange, because usually I have no problem with erections. Many times I could just be sitting normally and all of a sudden I'd end up with a lamp-post in my pants (ok, that's a huge exaggeration, I know...) Usually whenever I even kiss her for a while it starts to grow.

This only happens around my girlfriend. I used to be nervous about sex when she suggested it first, but not anymore. I'm not sure what to do. It could be that we take so long to get to get naked or that I don't really see much of her body, only the damn duvet.

Any suggestions (that don't involve viagra or money)? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

(BTW.. if you want to know which I'm sure you don't.. Durex Extra Safe :rolleyes:)

Sleepy

Have you tried foreplay? From the way you're posting it sounds like you just got undressed and jumped between the sheets. Now that's not a bad start. From here, you've got to kiss, caress and generally turn each other on before moving straight into sex. Your problem seems to be purely nerves. Just relax.

I'm assuming that you and your girlfriend still live with your parents so maybe what could help is making sure you choose a day when either your or her parents will be gone for the whole day and ye'll have the house to yourselves for a few hours. Don't fix this day as "THE DAY", just use it to have fun with each other and explore each other's bodies and see where that takes you!

LegacyUser

Happened to me my first time too mate. Don't worry about it - even though I didn't think I was nervous I must have been. It happens to a lot of guys before their first time (have this on fairly good authority from a number of girls).

Don't worry about it - soon enough you'll be going at it like rabbits. Just be careful.

Incidentally - was it just after you'd put on the condom that it happened - everything's fine right up until it gets really 'REAL' and then - say hello to mr. no show.

alienhead

just sounds like performance anxiety. why not put on some porn in the background? or have a drink, dont get floored, just a few so you're a little merry, you'll be less self conscious.

Evil_Bilbo

Try fooling around for a while (hand shandys / blow jobs are a sure fire cure for a floppy).

Its quite annoying though. As soon as you realise yer on the flop it gets worse and you panic, then there's no hope. Just relax and fool around for a while.

that should get rid of the feeling that you're trying to put a marshmallow into a coin slot or trying to push a car with a rope!

Good luck!

LegacyUser

"I'm assuming that you and your girlfriend still live with your parents so maybe what could help is making sure you choose a day when either your or her parents will be gone for the whole day and ye'll have the house to yourselves for a few hours. Don't fix this day as "THE DAY", just use it to have fun with each other and explore each other's bodies and see where that takes you!"

You're right, we do still live with our parents. Actually, we've tried twice (house to ourselves) but both times were to no avail.

"Incidentally - was it just after you'd put on the condom that it happened - everything's fine right up until it gets really 'REAL' and then - say hello to mr. no show."

Twas actually before.. it seems that when I'm clothed I have no problems but as soon as we're naked Mr. No Show arrives fashionably late.

"just sounds like performance anxiety. why not put on some porn in the background? or have a drink, dont get floored, just a few so you're a little merry, you'll be less self conscious."

Porn? :rolleyes: I doubt it..
I wouldn't drink. I never touch the stuff.

"As soon as you realise yer on the flop it gets worse and you panic, then there's no hope."

That's very true.

"that should get rid of the feeling that you're trying to put a marshmallow into a coin slot or trying to push a car with a rope!"

That's also very true...

Anyway, thanks for the replies!! They might just help.