Internet girl lives in America and I am falling in love with her!!!

huggybear

I am falling in love with this girl on the internet and I want to meet her in real life. The problem is she lives in America. Has anybody ever met an internet girl from America in real life and was it easy? Please tell me if I am mad!

Dr. Dre

Klodax ? Is that you ?

silverside

have you talked to her on the phone? how long have you been in contact? sure why not go for it if she sounds ok on the phone - dont think i could ever fall for someone without seeing them face to face though.

if its going well, invite her to ireland, or yourself to her house, worst case you find out she is a psycho and have wasted a few hundred quid on a flight, but at least you get a holiday out of it.

Joeface

ah shes probably 12 ........dont be an idiot

huggybear

Oh i never knew it was possible either for me to fall for someone over the internet but there is something about this girl. I don't know. I am not Klodax. She is coming to Ireland in the summer. She comes every year. I haven't talked to her yet on the phone. But I have had webcam chat with her. I'm 17 and she is 15. Do you think it could work. I'm going to be moving to America anyway in the future but that could be a good few years way. Oh well, thats why I hate these internet relationship thingys!

arkles

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/forumdisplay.php?s=&daysprune=365&forumid=36

Civilian_Target

http://www.intellectualwhores.com/masterladder.html

Its an illusion.

Davey Devil

Have you seen a picture of her yet....ya gotta see the picture.

Winters

Originally posted by huggybear
I'm 17 and she is 15.

http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm

If she comes to Ireland every summer then why not meet her while she is over during the summer? Find out if you actually like her and what not. Its not that hard, and will save you loads of money.

And your young, there will be others too btw.

KlodaX

Originally posted by Dr. Dre
Klodax ? Is that you ?

eh hello .. and no.

:dunno: * me is puzzled *

although huggybear .. I must warn you, people are not what they seem.

as a human you have the tendancoies to fill in the blanks. The blanks suddenly become what you want them to.

meet this person. Meet them as a stranger and hope the blanks fill in themselves.

Do not meet this person thinking you know them.

I wish you the best of luck!

meet him/her... fill in the blanks for real!

but try to do it with an open mind... remember .. this person is a STRANGER

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Dr. Dre
Klodax ? Is that you ?

Dr. Dre

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huggybear

you are young, your hormones are all over the camp, you are in love with the idea which you have built up in your head of this girl, these feelings you have are made all the more intense because of the distance between you. The reality of this in the cold light of day is, have fun talking on the internet if you wish, but realise that for a healthy and fun relationship, you should be concentrating on someone who lives in the same place as you do for now. No need melting your head for something that will never happen. Tis a passing phase

begbie

I've known a girl on the net from america for over 2 years now. We exchange gifts on birthdays and christmas and we've talked on the phone many times. We've both seen pics of each other. I'm 19, shes 18 and we're both single. She wanted to come to visit me here last year, but it didn't happen. She's planning getting here this year, in august. I don't know if she'll get here, but if she does should be fun.

Nala

Huggy bear

1-Go out and meet some real people.
2-A long-distance relationship, the distance being the Atlantic Ocean, is taking it a bit too far. It won't work.

Just my €0.02.

Dolan84

Tazzle?

I say go for it man, you only live once.. at very least you'll get a ride out of it. Hormones or not, you could be kicking yourself in ten years time!

Got a picture?!

Chinafoot

i'm with beruthiel on this one. i think 17 is too young to be falling in love with anyone. are you sure u havent just built it up in your head to be something more than it is?

best of luck anyway

Wacker

I was in an internet relationshop type thing once. There was amazing chemistry when we spoke online, but when we were together in person.... nothing.

That could have just been me, but I don't think so.

Seriously, I don't think it is worth the hassle, especially with them being from the States. But good luck anyway.

Sleepy

While it was never a "relationship". There was a girl I spent a lot of time chatting to one summer from another part of Ireland who went to the same university as me. Same story as Wacker's: amazing chemistry when we were chatting on-line but when it came to meeting IRL, nada. We becanme friends alright but both admitted that we were dissapointed that the chemistry didn't translate from the virtual world to the real one...

MaceFace

A guy I used to work with has an internet relationship and she came over here.
It was so funny. She was a black 20 stone bowyler. God she was horrible. Anyways. this guy had pictures of her up on the web sayng how much in love he was and how he gorgeous she was.

Getting back to the subject in question, that is not love you feel, it is happiness. You are happy a girl likes you and I seriously think if a good looking girl asked you out, you would forget about this girl.

Seriously, you need to get out more.

Saying all this, I know someone who married a person they met over the internet - but they were not teenagers when they met.

too_much

Originally posted by Winters
http://www.ageofconsent.com/ageofconsent.htm

"I am falling in love with this girl" is not the same as "I wish and intend to have sexual intercourse with this girl at the first available opportunity."

some of you really need to stop judging others based on your own values... Just a thought.

huggybear

Ok. Maybe your right. I am probably just happy that she likes me. But maybe not. She is ONE HELL OF A RIDE aswell!!! I got a few pics of her. When I seen her pics I thought she looked a lot older then 15 - maybe 19 or 20. I have only been talking to her for about 2 weeks. The truth is, I thought I was really ugly because I wasn't getting any girls. I have only ever kissed two girls! So, I put a few pics up onto this Rate My Pics site and I was shocked to find a lot of girls rate me 10/10. This is how I started IM'ing her (she was one who rated me). By the way, I go out every weekend. I am so confused about my feelings. I just can't stop thinking about her and she said that about me. I will definitely be meeting her in the summer. But like that will probably only be for a day or two. Thanx lads for giving me your own personal experiences of this nature, even though they weren't too optimistic. I am not going to show you her pic because that would be lousy, but just trust me, she looks like a model. I have even asked her why she would be wasting her time on the internet chatting to me when she could be out getting local lads. She told me that they are all players. I really can't believe that this girl would waste her time on the internet. She is really gorgeous.

too_much

One hell of a ride?

where I come from, that has rather more serious implications

BuffyBot

I am not going to show you her pic because that would be lousy, but just trust me, she looks like a model.

I don't know why this sentence gives me the willies, but it does.

Still, to be honest - shes 15, your 17 - you live on different continents. You admit yourself that you've not had much look with girls yet (which despite what others might have you beleive isn't that uncommon at your age). I think your filling that percieved gap in your life with this person though. I don't doubt that you do feel that you love her, but love isn't always realistic which you might need to be.

Doodee

If this is Pathenon then im sorry to tell you that bubbles is actually a bloke. It was a big piss take on irc.

if not...heh. your 17 dude.

Wacker

I wouldn't make a big deal out of the age-gap myself.
Remember the two year rule and all that (which I myself am currently guilty of violating).
And having only kissed two is girls is two more than I had kissed at your age, so I wouldn't worry about that.
But remember the earlier posts by myself and others. On the net, all is well. But when you meet up, your conversations may be like "So...... I hear we're great friends...... eh? Hows that working out for you?"

Superman

chances are she's got a willy!

Miguel_Sanchez

Chances are it's not a real picture of her at all. She's trying to keep you real interested in her by showing you a picture that she's ripped off a rating site somewhere.
Do the pics of her look like regular snapshots or are they very well lit etc. etc.

Sorry to burst your bubble mate - but if she seems too good to be true then she probably is.

huggybear

They are pics from web cam. The quality isn't professional quality or anything. No I don't think the pics are from someone else. i'll see what happens in the summer. I hope my internet experience will be a positive one. Thanx for your oppinions.

CivilServant

Can we at least see the pictures so give our opinion of whether or not it would work?

SirLemonhead

Originally posted by huggybear
They are pics from web cam. The quality isn't professional quality or anything. No I don't think the pics are from someone else. i'll see what happens in the summer. I hope my internet experience will be a positive one. Thanx for your oppinions.

Do you see these images realtime, or does she take them and show you later?

Emboss

Originally posted by huggybear
I am falling in love with this girl on the internet and I want to meet her in real life. The problem is she lives in America. Has anybody ever met an internet girl from America in real life and was it easy? Please tell me if I am mad!

dude, that's like so 1997....

Falkorre

I was in an internet relationship for a year with an american, after we sorted all the paperwork, he then moved here and we have been together nearly five years now, so it can work.

*However*, another close friend of mine, had an internet relationship and when the guy came here, he turned out to be a complete psychopath, one night, she awoke to find him (they were in seperate rooms), sitting on a chair, at the end of her bed, just staring at her, this is in the dark at 430am in her sisters house!

So, it can go either way, be clever, but be carefull, no matter how it goes, its NEVER what u think it will be.

B

Emboss

Originally posted by Falkorre
I was in an internet relationship for a year with an american, after we sorted all the paperwork, he then moved here and we have been together nearly five years now, so it can work.

*However*, another close friend of mine, had an internet relationship and when the guy came here, he turned out to be a complete psychopath, one night, she awoke to find him (they were in seperate rooms), sitting on a chair, at the end of her bed, just staring at her, this is in the dark at 430am in her sisters house!

So, it can go either way, be clever, but be carefull, no matter how it goes, its NEVER what u think it will be.

B

sounds like a very romantic guy

maybe listens to alot of garth brooks

Aquos76

Just a little reminder guys and gals

This is cool

Emmo

This is from a thread that we had a while ago here -- entitled meeting on the net

This is my reply --

I met a girl online, got talking to her quite a bit. She was from the States and we chatted via yahoo for a bit.

Then we moved to email, swapped phone numbers etc etc.

I paid for her to visit me and she came over, was completely hot. We hit it off like a house on fire untill her last two days here.

She told me she had a fiance in the States and that she loved me but had to go back to him.

It all got to much for me when she freaked out one night and pinned me down on the ground in my appartment and rang my best mate in the middle of the night and told him that I was trying to kill myself.

I wasnt, nothing of the kind but I think that she might have been a complete mentalist.

Emmo

Kain

I'm in the middle of an internet relationship now, with some girl from Australia. WE just talk a lot and share experiences of whats happened in our lives. I think that people are right when they say that you feel fufiled cause theres a girl out there that likes you. Hell i do.
But i don't let myself get obsesed about her and i try not to fall in love with her cause let's face it she's on the other side of the world and the chances of us actually meeting one day are pretty slim, even though we'd really like to meet up. I don't let this stop me from going out. I have a lot of female friends here, i just don't have a girlfriend.

BEAT

so let me get this right, she is 15 and she is American....am I the only one who can see no good coming of this?

for one, her parents will have no part of it, not until she is 18 and out of highschool
second, she is just a kid...15 year old girls here in america have a lot of growing still to do and can be rolling on pure hormones at this stage...as you are too I am sure.

It is a farfetched dream but if you feel you must pursue it then go ahead hun, goodluck

David-[RLD]-

Originally posted by peachypants
i think 17 is too young to be falling in love with

I would disagree. Age doesn't really have a say in whether you're in love with someone or not. My girlfriend and I are madly in love and we're both only 16.

Just my opinion..

too_much

In my opinion, humble as it may be, it all depends on your definition of "love". I thought I "loved" my first proper gf at age 15 - 16, and I was wrong.

Then my next gf showed me that I didn't love the first one, but I knew I didn't love the second one either, we just had fun.

I've been with my current one for just over a year and I would swear that I'm in love with her. I could sit and list a million reasons why, which would just bore you all to ****e... I think you just know. Then again, this could all go belly up and then my next relationship show me what love REALLY is...

I just don't think there is a definition of it really, love is defined by how you feel yourself, and not a dictionary. I'd say it's feasible to be in love at a very young age, but again, I'm only 18 with what most would consider to be limited experience, so my naievity could be showing through here.

Anyway yeah, I don't think a relationship of this ilk could work out, unless restricted to a very close friendship... Unless you both have webcams and enjoy touching yourself to pixelated jerky pictures, then go for it

regards,
too_much

kelle

Hi, Huggybear. My husband's cousin met a girl across the internet in Chicago. Well, he lives in Chicago too. They were coming to Ireland on holiday back in May 2000, and we laughed when we heard how they met. We assumed she'd be a weirdo, computer geek type. But when we met her, we loved her to pieces and we ended up talking to her more than My husband's cousin! She's such a lovely chatty girl, completely the opposite to whatwe expected. They got married last year - aah! There's no harm in meeting this girl if you feel by your internet conversations that you gel together and have a lot in common! Anyway, it's mostly ordinary people genuinely looking for love that use internet chatrooms.
Actually, I've just taken note of your ages! There could be a problem there, but it'll all be fine if you wait a couple of years.

damnyanks

Hrm... well here's my story.

I used to make a lot of web pages and usually did them with people I met with from web dev forums.

Anyways... this one guy got well smitten with some chick from the net. The 3 of us talked a lot. She seemed ok... but something seemed a bit off. They were talking about meeting etc. He lived in England, She lived in America. He was the same age as me at the time (18) She was hitting 30 supposidley.

Anyways as time went on I talked with her more and somethings just didnt seem right. Little things, things that bug me I guess.

Anyways...

Goto hotmail.com type in her email address. Type in 1 password and hey presto I'm in her account (Was luck or whatever, I cant do the l33t hacking). Anyways, in her mail was about 6 other people professing there love. All seemed to be given different information about her (Age, job, current situation etc.). Thought what the hell. Log into her Messenger account and I find out a lot more screwed up ****.

Was tricky to tell the friend, we'd talked for years but not really real friends (Net n all). Also I was in the wrong for going into the account.

Told him all worked out in the end.

Yeah... so pyscho's arent just limited to boards.ie

eth0_

Originally posted by Kain
I'm in the middle of an internet relationship now, with some girl from Australia. WE just talk a lot and share experiences of whats happened in our lives..

Does this mean i'm in a relationship with everyone on irc? HOLY CRAP!

Tusky

Originally posted by eth0_
Does this mean i'm in a relationship with everyone on irc? HOLY CRAP!

Slag.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

Originally posted by eth0_
Does this mean i'm in a relationship with everyone on irc? HOLY CRAP!

yeah what tusky said.

Beruthiel

keep on topic ladies
B

kelle

Goto hotmail.com type in her email address. Type in 1 password and hey presto I'm in her account (Was luck or whatever, I cant do the l33t hacking).

Wow, Damnyanks, how did you manage to guess her password? I've always been afraid of someone being able to hack into mine!

damnyanks

I had talked to her a good while. Just thought "Hrmmm what does she like" I typed it in. Not expecting it to work I looked around on my other browsers. Went to close it and saw I was in her mailbox.

Was fairly mad. Like I'm serious when I say I made only the 1 attempte and it worked!

Just dont use a PW that people would guess you'd use. Her name in this case

peeps

if the age thing wasent such an issue, with her already coming over here id say go for it.
a friend of mine's brother is currently happily married with a baby to a woman he met off the internet, another friend is engaged to a guy she met on maybefriends.com, she went on it for a laugh and ended up seeing this guy for two years before they got engaged.
but i do agree with the others your both very young, who knows if your still in contact in a few years, after youve both had some non online relationships, you could give it a real go.

razorfeather

Originally posted by Doodee
If this is Pathenon then im sorry to tell you that bubbles is actually a bloke. It was a big piss take on irc.

if not...heh. your 17 dude.

ROFLMFAO

Flashling

My uncle met a girl on the internet, they started going out and they are getting married in february, and theres a 10 year age gap, so it can work out...(hes not a perve, shes 29, and she proposed)

Concorde

My uncle met a girl on the internet, they started going out and they are getting married in february, and theres a 10 year age gap, so it can work out...(hes not a perve, shes 29, and she proposed)

That's such a sweet story! I wish them all the best. My father is 12 years older than my mother, and she was 22 when they married. They just celebrated their 35th anniversay. Mind you, the internet was unheard of when they met!

CathyMoran

Met a wonderful guy via the net, eventually met him and dated him for quite a while - was in love with him before I met him and when I did meet him there was chemistry too - call me an old romantic but I think that you should give it a chance.