What to say when asking a friend out?

soundout

I need advice on a matter that has being driving me insane over the past few days.

O.k here goes

Theres a girl in my class that i like but i dont know if she likes me.Were fairly good friends and ive been going to college with her now for about 8 months.At first i didnt think of her as the sort of person who i would date but over the past few weeks ive realy fallin for her and whenever i see her i just want to ask her out but i cant.I m afraid that she will turn me down.We have loads in common,we both have the same taste in music ,food, comedy,t.v.Im not the best of looking guys and shes a bit out of my league but i think she is a person who takes feelings before looks.Theres only a few more weeks left before we get out summer holidays and times running out.

What should i do?Should i ask her out?Wait for her to ask me out?Tell her i like her but not asking her out?Forget about it?

Is there anyway of letting her know i like her without just shouting it out?

Please help me somebody?

feylya

You already asked.
You've been answered.
Follow the advice that was given.
Or don't.
It's up to you.

KlodaX

was this not posted in AH?

Emboss

new concept!

flirt...

Sleepy

Get into position and kiss her. That simple really. You might get a slap in the face, you might not.:)

Klaus

methinks you're making to much out of this. Just ask her/him out whenever you're alone with them next. Think about it too much and you make it more difficult for yourself. If they say no, well at least you've asked. It's also quite incredible the way the mind stops dwelling on the subject if you're turned down.

Good luck.

SuprSi

As the old saying goes, advice is what we look for when we already knew the answer but wish that we didn't. You know what you want to do, so just do it. If you don't, you may have the whole summer to regret not doing it.

Victor

Up the ante, see if there is a response.

Victor

Common lines:

"Hey, do you want to go for a coffee / drink later?"

"Such-and-such a movie is on on thursday, would you like to go?"

"Do you want to come over for dinner tomorrow?"

Work from there.

Wacker

A bit of Dutch-courage always helps, if you ask me.

ShriekingSheet

ok, my two cents - the lads above aren't being realistic as regards working with the confidence you have (not millions obv)

it's a chicken sh1t way -not impressive or confident but it gives you a good chance of her saying 'yes'

text her

Get two tickets to a gig in whelans you'll both like - or somethin like that - fun and not stenching of 'date' stigma!

If she says yes then 'we might as well meet for a drink before hand' and aim to repeat same after the gig or whatever you choose to go to - no need to try kiss her.

Basically you're tryin to show her a good time - all evening with just you and a load of laughs!

If she's had a good time with you, and a few drinks for you both to make things way less awkward as regards possible romance. Sit near her, leave a little silence...

AND LOB THE GOB!!!

best of luck my friend!

Red Alert

i just said it to her when we were waiting for her bus. she seemed pleasantly surprised but said she knew i liked her all along.

Sleepy

And? Don't leave us hanging! How'd it go?

Wacker

I am quite a confident person. Anyone who knows me will tell you that. I used to have very little confidence, however.
So, I know a trick on how to get tons of confidence: Fake it. Pretend to be confident. Act completely self-assured even if you are absolutely terrified.
People will react to you totally differently t what you are used to, and you will find soon that you don't even have to fake it anymore. It worked for me, it might work for you Soundout.

ven0m

Originally posted by ShriekingSheet
ok, my two cents - the lads above aren't being realistic as regards working with the confidence you have (not millions obv)

it's a chicken sh1t way -not impressive or confident but it gives you a good chance of her saying 'yes'

text her

Get two tickets to a gig in whelans you'll both like - or somethin like that - fun and not stenching of 'date' stigma!

If she says yes then 'we might as well meet for a drink before hand' and aim to repeat same after the gig or whatever you choose to go to - no need to try kiss her.

Basically you're tryin to show her a good time - all evening with just you and a load of laughs!

If she's had a good time with you, and a few drinks for you both to make things way less awkward as regards possible romance. Sit near her, leave a little silence...

AND LOB THE GOB!!!

best of luck my friend!

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