Nice girls= pubs/nightclubs?

Laguna · 19-03-2004 3:27pm #1

I dunno if i'm going off at a tangent here but i've been thinking recently that nightclubs/pubs are ****e for meeting nice girls. it's not that i don't like the places, matter of fact i love the atmosphere, but i tend to find the girls you'd meet in the nightclub aren't exactly the relationship material type. now i know this isn't the case for all the girls before i start get abuse,i'm just posting this to see what the guys think, like if they met their girlfriend in a club/somewhere else or whatever

Töpher · 19-03-2004 3:29pm

Bruxelles, lol

(Thats a pub btw!

)

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 3:36pm

eh i'm 21 and i've had 4 girlfriends and met them all through mates when in clubs

I find if you have a mutual friend to introduce u etc its way more likely to turn into a 2nd date if you hit it off with the girl

If u just walk up and say "hey" to a stranger and score then its more likely to be a one nighter! But if this is the way u usually do things why dont u just ask the next girl u score and have a gud time with for her number at the end?? text her a few days later?

skipn_easy · 19-03-2004 3:39pm

Something I've been thinking about lately too. Its the same with meeting nice guys. I've come to the conclusion that if you want to meet somebody for relationship purposes its better to meet them under different circumstances... at clubs or societies, coffee, cinema etc. Its not impossible to meet nice people in clubs/pubs but I'd say the chances are much higher that you'll just meet people who are judging you on your looks and only looking for one night stands (nothing wrong with this if thats what you're into).

Laguna · 19-03-2004 3:40pm

naw man, i'm sayin that the majority of girls in the clubs aren't the girls i want to go out with. ah i dunno, thanks for posting back though. **** it anyway!

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 3:43pm

Originally posted by skipn_easy
Something I've been thinking about lately too. Its the same with meeting nice guys. I've come to the conclusion that if you want to meet somebody for relationship purposes its better to meet them under different circumstances... at clubs or societies, coffee, cinema etc. Its not impossible to meet nice people in clubs/pubs but I'd say the chances are much higher that you'll just meet people who are judging you on your looks and only looking for one night stands (nothing wrong with this if thats what you're into).

Good point

Id say put yourself in as many situations as you can where you'll be interacting with new people in a non "IM HERE TO SCORE" situation! Like Clubs and Socs in college.

Laguna · 19-03-2004 3:45pm

i'm not interested in one night stands, where's the (forgive the cheese) love?

skipn_easy · 19-03-2004 3:47pm

Getting to know peopel through friends is good as well. If you meet someone out in a club you never know what they're really like. They might be putting it all on, and have probably had a few drinks too. When you meet someone in a relaxed enviroment with their own friends you get much more of an impression of what they're really like. They're probably not going to be trying to impress you and you can get to konw the 'real' them.

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 3:49pm

well this is a relaxed environment

and you two are lookin for the same thing and seem to be seeing eye to eye

why dont yis chat online for a while and meet for a drink if u get on??

skipn_easy · 19-03-2004 3:51pm

nice thought and all shrieking but i'm kind've seeing someone...

its refreshing to know that there are guys out there that aren't after one night stands though... i was arguing this point with a friend the other day, that most guys are just looking for scores. nice to prove me wrong

Laguna · 19-03-2004 3:56pm

ah yeah i guess, but most of my mates already have girls and they're sort of homebirds.. lovey dovey, and they're not into match making. it's a bit of a dodgy predicament really

Laguna · 19-03-2004 3:57pm

yeah nice idea but i didn't come online to hook up, i was just pondering this... ponder?

Typedef · 19-03-2004 4:18pm

Originally posted by ShriekingSheet
eh i'm 21 and i've had 4 girlfriends and met them all through mates when in clubs

Must have ****, put this in his sig.

[edit] Beths, please don't use real names without the persons permission
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ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 4:19pm

Originally posted by Typedef
Must have ****, put this in his sig.

why?

and who's ****?

Typedef · 19-03-2004 4:36pm

Four 'girlfriends' in the one month... doesn't count youngfella.

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 4:38pm

Originally posted by Typedef
Four 'girlfriends' in the one month... doesn't count youngfella.

WTF?

where did u get the "one month" part from??

Typedef · 19-03-2004 4:45pm

You're missing the latent irony of claiming that four of your girlfriends in the last three years you've met in clubs... and that doesn't make club-going-type chicks the non-relationship kind, then?

seamus · 19-03-2004 4:49pm

Originally posted by Typedef
You're missing the latent irony of claiming that four of your girlfriends in the last three years you've met in clubs... and that doesn't make club-going-type chicks the non-relationship kind, then?

Where are you getting 3 years from Beths?

I can vouch for the guy......

Atreides · 19-03-2004 4:54pm

Typedef is making perfect sense to me. If yourman can't find a girl interested in a relationship, then his four last girlfriends must have only lasted a month. Thats where the month coems from. However the three years coem from the fact that he is 21, said he met them in clubs which would mean he met them all in the last three years (21 - 3 = 18 the legal age to get into these clubs) .

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 4:58pm

Originally posted by Typedef
You're missing the latent irony of claiming that four of your girlfriends in the last three years you've met in clubs... and that doesn't make club-going-type chicks the non-relationship kind, then?

When did I say club-going-type chicks are the non-relationship kind??

You'd have a point IF i said that but I didnt!!

Sure nearly every girl goes to clubs my age regardless of relationship status or intentions!

How can there be "club-going-type chicks" when 99% of girls go to clubs??

So dont get involved just to piss on my post when i was tryin to help the guy out!
:mad:

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 5:01pm

Originally posted by seamus
Where are you getting 3 years from Beths?

I can vouch for the guy......

I presume he means cos im 21 and over 18s in clubs

Even though Its over 5 years cos im tall, look old and got in places when i was 16 thats not really anythin to do with the argument so i let it go!

The "month" thing he said was just annoying!

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 5:03pm

Originally posted by Skanger
Typedef is making perfect sense to me. If yourman can't find a girl interested in a relationship, then his four last girlfriends must have only lasted a month. Thats where the month coems from. However the three years coem from the fact that he is 21, said he met them in clubs which would mean he met them all in the last three years (21 - 3 = 18 the legal age to get into these clubs) .

OH MY GOD!!!

It isnt ME who cant find a girl for a relationship!!

FFS read the thread!

ShriekingSheet · 19-03-2004 5:04pm

I post to offer my experience and small piece of help and the dam thread turns into a debate about my track record!

uberwolf · 19-03-2004 5:07pm

Originally posted by ShriekingSheet
I post to offer my experience and small piece of help and the dam thread turns into a debate about my track record!

But I heard you were gay.
lol.

There may be plenty of nice women in clubs but they may not be the kind of girl who you're likely to get chatting to in there?

skipn_easy · 19-03-2004 5:11pm

Originally posted by Skanger
Typedef is making perfect sense to me. If yourman can't find a girl interested in a relationship, then his four last girlfriends must have only lasted a month. Thats where the month coems from. However the three years coem from the fact that he is 21, said he met them in clubs which would mean he met them all in the last three years (21 - 3 = 18 the legal age to get into these clubs) .

I love the way people don't bother reading the posts properly and then make argumentative comments about them....

seamus · 19-03-2004 5:12pm

Originally posted by uberwolf
There may be plenty of nice women in clubs but they may not be the kind of girl who you're likely to get chatting to in there?

That would be my opinion on it. Unless you're introduced to a girl in club by mates (like ShriekingSheet), then the type of girl who will be receptive to a random guy trying out his best lines, is not the type of girl looking for a long term thing....

That said, I got randomly chatted up by my gf...but the rules change for men

ravenhead · 19-03-2004 5:16pm

Originally posted by seamus
That would be my opinion on it. Unless you're introduced to a girl in club by mates (like ShriekingSheet), then the type of girl who will be receptive to a random guy trying out his best lines, is not the type of girl looking for a long term thing....

That said, I got randomly chatted up by my gf...but the rules change for men

Why do the rules change for men??????

Typedef · 19-03-2004 5:17pm

Originally posted by uberwolf
But I heard you were gay.
lol.

Apparently seamus will vouch for him.

nads · 19-03-2004 5:21pm

Originally posted by ravenhead
Why do the rules change for men??????

Because men adapt to the girl, quite well in fact.

Atreides · 19-03-2004 6:13pm

Originally posted by ShriekingSheet
OH MY GOD!!!

It isnt ME who cant find a girl for a relationship!!

FFS read the thread!

Couple of Things, you didn't read my post as I explained where typedef got 3 years from, then you explained it again afew post later, secondly, I was just explaining typedefs logic, I wasn't the one making the comments

seamus · 19-03-2004 6:39pm

Originally posted by Typedef
Apparently seamus will vouch for him.

Well as we know, shortly after my demise my posts will be compiled into a volumous compendium, to be known universally as The New New Testament. Remember kiddies, this is the Word of The Lord.

Why do the rules change for men??????

Most women will know when a random guy comes up talking to you that he's only after one thing. Men don't assume the same of women at all.
[personal opinion]
A woman doesn't get enough information from meeting a man for a few minutes to determine if he's relationship material. A man checks the tits, ass, face and makes sure she hasn't an annoying voice. Criteria fulfilled.

After that, the man will usually just fall into a relationship, while the woman has it all planned out two hours in. While the woman will refer to the man as her "new boyfriend" after 3 dates, the man will only realise 6 weeks later (usually via a 3rd party) that he's officially in possession of a girlfriend thingy.

(I'm getting cynical in me old age

)

Atreides · 19-03-2004 6:45pm

Originally posted by seamus
Well as we know, shortly after my demise my posts will be compiled into a volumous compendium, to be known universally as The New New Testament. Remember kiddies, this is the Word of The Lord.
Most women will know when a random guy comes up talking to you that he's only after one thing. Men don't assume the same of women at all.
[personal opinion]
A woman doesn't get enough information from meeting a man for a few minutes to determine if he's relationship material. A man checks the tits, ass, face and makes sure she hasn't an annoying voice. Criteria fulfilled.

After that, the man will usually just fall into a relationship, while the woman has it all planned out two hours in. While the woman will refer to the man as her "new boyfriend" after 3 dates, the man will only realise 6 weeks later (usually via a 3rd party) that he's officially in possession of a girlfriend thingy.

(I'm getting cynical in me old age )

omg thats so accurate its scary. Seen it to many times. Then the poor sap realises he's in a relaionship but by that stage its to late. Mate of mine was going out with a girl for two months 6 weeks of which was spent trying to split up with her,.

Typedef · 19-03-2004 6:53pm

Well I'm going to stop stirring the shit here....

My work is done for the weekend.

Crash · 19-03-2004 8:01pm

Originally posted by Skanger
omg thats so accurate its scary. Seen it to many times. Then the poor sap realises he's in a relaionship but by that stage its to late. Mate of mine was going out with a girl for two months 6 weeks of which was spent trying to split up with her,.

By that stage its too late. he's part of the collective.....resistance is futile.

pigeonbutler · 19-03-2004 8:08pm

Maybe I'm not being too helpful here but to add my woes to the thread, (as I tend to do a bit too much actually) be thankful you're scoring at all!! Maybe it's because I'm doing the LC in a boys school and only meet girls when I go for pints/clubbin at the weekend but I haven't been scoring at all lately, and I am generally more the type that looks for a relationship than a one night stand (A rare breed) but with the lack of anything lately any tips on scoring the one-nighters in the pubs and clubs would be very much appreciated????

Emboss · 19-03-2004 8:13pm

Originally posted by Laguna
i'm not interested in one night stands, where's the (forgive the cheese) love?

in your pants?

DUX · 20-03-2004 9:31am

I continuosly see people complaining that girls and guys they meet in a night club are not "Relationship material", however I don't really get it. I mean, those guys/girls do not spend 24h a day locked in a night club drinking and dancing, they have got a life outside those four walls!
I think there are still a lot of prejudices regarding people who can be met in a night club, and many do not even try to put some effort to see the person they met for a second date, taking for granted that he/she is not "relationship material".

Slaanesh · 20-03-2004 10:25am

Originally posted by DUX
they have got a life outside those four walls!

You must go to some crap night clubs :P

Doodee · 20-03-2004 12:29pm

Originally posted by seamus
Well as we know, shortly after my demise my posts will be compiled into a volumous compendium, to be known universally as The New New Testament. Remember kiddies, this is the Word of The Lord.
Most women will know when a random guy comes up talking to you that he's only after one thing. Men don't assume the same of women at all.
[personal opinion]
A woman doesn't get enough information from meeting a man for a few minutes to determine if he's relationship material. A man checks the tits, ass, face and makes sure she hasn't an annoying voice. Criteria fulfilled.

After that, the man will usually just fall into a relationship, while the woman has it all planned out two hours in. While the woman will refer to the man as her "new boyfriend" after 3 dates, the man will only realise 6 weeks later (usually via a 3rd party) that he's officially in possession of a girlfriend thingy.

(I'm getting cynical in me old age )

Hehehehehe. Kin dof.

I think the arguement is valid. women go out to clubs to either have a good time with mates or else to get laid. and tbh, they are both the same thing.
I could blow on about being oot last night and what i saw / thought but im too hungover to care. reading is hard enough.
But yes, i agree, women in clubs aint relationship material, they are just looking for a quickie or else digging for compliments off guys.

TinCool · 20-03-2004 2:35pm

Originally posted by Doodee
But yes, i agree, women in clubs aint relationship material, they are just looking for a quickie or else digging for compliments off guys.

Then you get the pr1ck teasers.... Personally I couldn't care less about who or what people think in clubs. I go out nearly every weekend, the reason being is to go out and have a good time with my mates. Some times we go to the clubby places and dance around like fools, other times it's a few drinks in a quiet pub and have a bit of a barney.

Kind of getting off the point here... Don't go out with the intent to score (one night stand/potential relationship whatever) cos more than likely you won't. Go out and have a good time. Sometimes you'll meet someone nice, other times you won't and the reminder you won't meet anyone at all.

DUX · 20-03-2004 4:11pm

Originally posted by Slaanesh
You must go to some crap night clubs :P

Laguna · 21-03-2004 1:29am

yeah, uh thanks for your help guys. ah well i've made a new resolution. when i go into clubs from now on i'll simply transform into the [Disco King]!. yeah! watch ma feet! no time for lovin' baby.. ahem seriously, i was only making a passing statement when i started this thread. if some girl is bored enough to give it a go with me, then Nice one, but if no, bollocks to it, i'll just watch some dvd's or something?

Nice girls= pubs/nightclubs?

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