What does one do?

LegacyUser

Just want someones opinion, recently i met this girl in dublin and we started going out, things are going great and all.But i have the same old problem, poor skin, due to bad acne have posted on this a few times about my skin but i still have the same problem.Its stopping me from having a full relationship with the girl as im always doubting myself, she has been great through all this, she says she doesnt notice a thing but i know shes only been nice.at least i know shes genuine bout me.Dont try and say go on roaccutane as already been on that twice and it didnt work as made things worse as now when im in a pub at night my skin goes very red cause of the heat and therefore only makes my spots more noticable, just want to get over this and start enjoying life again.Im even wondering why my girlfriend is crazy bout me as have met quiet a few shallow women in my life.So if anyone has gone through the same thing please advise.

Duckjob

Don't sweat it. I know thats easier said than done. You don't say your age but I'm guessing you're in late teens/very early twenties, so this could still be something that'll pass naturally in the next year or two.

In the meantime, it sounds like you've got a nice gal there and if she says it's not a problem for her I'd be inclined to take as a truth. Try not to let previous bad experiences with shallow women cloud your judgement - everyone's different.

Good luck!

Rock Climber

Well would it help to know that some of the guys I have fancied most over the years have had mild to strong acne.

I found it very distinguishing actually and not something that turned me off at all, it was more of the opposite .

I'd imagine most girls are neutral enough on it and your GF definitely sounds like it doesnt matter.

So don't worry about it,you are very attractive to the girl you are going out with and want to be with and thats what matters

Also have a look around and I'll bet others fancy you too, it happens when you are with someone.

So dont bother worrying about the acne or doing anything about it , its very, very trivial, and carry on enjoying yourself

Banjo013

In my experience ...

Women don't always see acne as being a turn off. Believe it or not (and I'm probably the last one to believe it - with my track record !) some of them do look beyond appearances at what's inside.

If you're insecure about it, later it may affect the development of the relationship, so my advice to you is to clip it in the bud now. Speak to her frankly and openly, find out what she really thinks and why she's with you. She sounds lovely from what you've said, so I'd say it'd be well worth the effort.

You'll probably find that once you've had a talk about it, you'll leave smiling and will continue to smile, cause you're head will be clearer.

soma

I hope I don't come across as a salesman here! :-)

OK speaking as someone who has suffered with acne since I was 17 till present (I'm 27) - I have only ever come across one product that has genuinely impressed me. (I did the whole anti-biotic and medical applicator thing when I was younger).

The stuff is 'proactiv solution' and .. eh hang on web search time..

http://www.proactiv.com/

Now you've said you've posted before so maybe someone else pointed you towards this or you've tried it already and it didn't work. But if not, I strongly recomend you give it a go - my skin is in the best nick its been since I was 16. I still get some occasional bad days but overall I'm extremely happy with it.

Only down side is costs a fair bit cos the delivery charges to ireland are damn pricey.

Lastly though!! If ANYONE has a decent solution for back acne I would love to hear it! If I go on a sun holiday the combination of sea water and sun clears my back up great, but when back in ireland (regardless of bathing/showering patterns) my skin on my back is *bad*.

I've heard a sun-bed touted as a solution but I dont know if I trust those things! ;-) hmm.. in danger of needing my own thread at this point!

loismustdie

Originally posted by geminiguyie
Just want someones opinion, recently i met this girl in dublin and we started going out, things are going great and all.But i have the same old problem, poor skin, due to bad acne have posted on this a few times about my skin but i still have the same problem.Its stopping me from having a full relationship with the girl as im always doubting myself, she has been great through all this, she says she doesnt notice a thing but i know shes only been nice.at least i know shes genuine bout me.Dont try and say go on roaccutane as already been on that twice and it didnt work as made things worse as now when im in a pub at night my skin goes very red cause of the heat and therefore only makes my spots more noticable, just want to get over this and start enjoying life again.Im even wondering why my girlfriend is crazy bout me as have met quiet a few shallow women in my life.So if anyone has gone through the same thing please advise.

what age are you?

yellum

Obviously your girlfriend is grounded, mature and deep. Shes looking at you as a whole not as the spotty kid. Keep on to her.

Surprisingly maybe for you but there are people out there that like you for a person and don't have a spot quota on people they'll date. Yes you'll get the vapid, insecure shallow ones that are like "He has more than 3 spots so I'm not going to date him" but do you want to be with people like that ?

Brad Pitt was a spotty kid, he still has spots now and then. I wouldn't worry, in fact stop worrying as thats a cause for it to flare up. Sleep and water help a lot too. And small gains will turn into bigger gains as you become more confident and less stressed.

I do find that shitty food makes it worse for me. But you'll only notice a difference after a few weeks of staying off it. Sun helps too. A sun holiday helps clear the face and back up. Topping up with a sunbed after the hol too can be good. Get a proper soap that cleanses properly too.

I don't think theres any one solution, but a combination of various things could be the best option for skin quality.

My last boyfriend had poor skin and it really didn't matter to me. He's still a beautiful guy and acne goes away. Its temporary. I liked him cos he has a lovely heart, he has great spirit and he is very caring. The fact that he didn't have clear skin was never an issue.

galwaydude

im 25 by the way and the reason why i posted this was due to in the last few months i have met a few women who were put off by it, maybe it was due to my own self confidence, i have had acne since i was 14 , and thanx for the posts, nice to know there are genuine ppl out there.