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Ex's- should you fan the old flame??

  • 12-03-2004 2:42pm
    #1
    Closed Accounts Posts: 355 ✭✭


    Is getting back with your ex EVER a good idea ??:confused:


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,155 ✭✭✭ykt0di9url7bc3


    depends on a lot of factors


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 355 ✭✭Aurther Hugh


    Such as .....?


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 5,513 ✭✭✭Sleipnir


    Did she ever decapitate a puppy and nail it's head to your front door?

    Dat sorta ting!

    (btw, if the above did happen to you, I would strongly recommend you do not get back together with her)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,155 ✭✭✭ykt0di9url7bc3


    where to begin..

    Why did ye break up?
    Is it still an issue?
    Are they still interested?
    Are you still interested?
    Is it just sex?
    Is it just lonliness?
    ............. where does it end


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 355 ✭✭Aurther Hugh


    as Kashmiri once said to me
    'Giving advice to a stupid
    man is like giving salt to a squirrel'


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 355 ✭✭Aurther Hugh


    3yrs ago
    No
    ??
    Yes
    Could be
    Doubtful, I'm an exceedingly popular chap


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 2,155 ✭✭✭ykt0di9url7bc3


    Originally posted by Aurther High
    as Kashmiri once said to me
    'Giving advice to a stupid
    man is like giving salt to a squirrel'

    okies


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,441 ✭✭✭The_Goose


    it can be a good idea but it can also be a bad one!!!
    if you really them the go for it but because ye have broken up before there will be this tension like "will they do it again"
    But first find out if they like you first!!


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,476 ✭✭✭ShriekingSheet


    Down the road

    if both of you are still well acquainted

    and have treated eachother with respecet since the break up

    like not scoring infront of eachother purely for spiteful purposes etc

    and in time you still feel connected, and the time is right

    then YEAH - go for it man!


    personally i would only get back with someone who i planned to get back with for good. at the moment Im 21 and am a bit young 4 that but in the future who knows! And dont worry bout people you've been involved with or she has since you broke up. Thats irrelevant in the long term.

    Hope Ive helped

    -Conor


  • Moderators, Social & Fun Moderators Posts: 42,361 Mod ✭✭✭✭Beruthiel


    Originally posted by Aurther Hugh
    Is getting back with your ex EVER a good idea ??:confused:

    Aurther Hugh
    if you are looking for advice on a particular personal issue, could you please give a little more info
    B


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  • Closed Accounts Posts: 355 ✭✭Aurther Hugh


    Thanks Conor man,
    Im a similar age myself and that's pretty reassuring !


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 5,563 ✭✭✭Typedef


    Ex's- should you fan the old flame??

    Talking to your ex is a bad idea.

    Still if she's up for the sex, without actual conversation/interpersonal interaction.... Sinn e.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,476 ✭✭✭ShriekingSheet


    Originally posted by Aurther Hugh
    Thanks Conor man,
    Im a similar age myself and that's pretty reassuring !

    no bother mate


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,163 ✭✭✭Emboss


    if you have to ask should you get back with your EX the answer is probably no....


    follow your heart/penis which ever comes first......


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 658 ✭✭✭xx


    Originally posted by Aurther Hugh
    Is getting back with your ex EVER a good idea ??:confused:

    Depends on how it ended really. I tried to get back with one of my (sort of) ex's last year. After about a month I realised just why I broke things up.....so I ended communicado permenantly. Thats one that'll never ever be saved.
    So again, depends on how it ended. I don't think its a good idea though. Better to extinguish the old flame than rekindle it.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 19,777 ✭✭✭✭The Corinthian


    Originally posted by Sleipnir
    Did she ever decapitate a puppy and nail it's head to your front door?
    I would have saved myself a lot of trouble in the past if I had considered that point...


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 2,403 ✭✭✭passive


    if theres a chance, you want to and it seems interesting then just go for it. don't let technicalitys like the forboding idea of "the ex" prevent you from taking stupid chances.

    at the very worst the past will make things more messy in the end, and if it ends badly you have the chance of killing her before you leave the second time around...thus erasing the ex as an option in future threads


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,208 ✭✭✭loismustdie


    if you broke up over stupid fight that doesn't matter and you're sure u were just pissed off or hurt but no stronger negative feelins spawned between you but personally i think in most cases the relationship wouldn't have ended unless there was a good relationship and often people feel lonely and mistake it for missing their x or loving them wen really it's just because they're just used to being with them and feel secure


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 51 ✭✭spectacleinrock


    If the reason why you broke up is gone then it's not a bad idea.

    Generally it is though.....


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 545 ✭✭✭alienhead


    has she been with anyone since your break up? if not, how would you feel if she was?


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  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 1,258 ✭✭✭Walls


    No.

    No no and no. Much better in this matter to have a sense of bittersweet 'what if' than to actually get to roll in the pathetic dregs of what was never good from the get go....

    Now, getting back at your ex...well, I just refer you to my sig.

    :)


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 1,450 ✭✭✭AngelofFire


    I was with a girl for a year and a half. we still talk to each other a lot, both of us have gone our seperate ways. we`ve both had flings with other people,however after we were broken up there were more than 2 occassions where we ended up snogging strangly enough


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 3,476 ✭✭✭ShriekingSheet


    Originally posted by AngelofFire
    strangly

    adverb?

    :D


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 801 ✭✭✭dod


    Originally posted by Aurther Hugh
    Is getting back with your ex EVER a good idea ??:confused:

    It is never a good idea to get back with your ex.

    Full Stop.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,473 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    It is if you end up marrying them.


  • Closed Accounts Posts: 545 ✭✭✭alienhead


    has this happened to you dude?
    Originally posted by Sleepy
    It is if you end up marrying them.


  • Registered Users, Registered Users 2 Posts: 24,473 ✭✭✭✭Sleepy


    **** no, I'm 23.... but it has happened a cousin of mine and I know few better couples than herself and her husband.


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