Engagement Rings

SouthO

Just wondering if you can use an eternity ring as an engagement ring??
Not a big fan of regular engagement rings!!

Aurther Hugh

You can use an onion-ring for an engagement ring if you like...its all about the looovvveee man !

Sleipnir

it's not really though.
It's about whether or not the girl gets a gigantic rock she can make all other girl's jealous with.

Aurther Hugh

I guess that depends on the girl, or the guy on one knee ( I'd prefer my mates to be jealous of the bloke giving the ring than the ring itself )

Nuttzz

my orders were "Small, discreet and very very expensive "

Beruthiel

Originally posted by SouthO
Just wondering if you can use an eternity ring as an engagement ring??
Not a big fan of regular engagement rings!!

if thats what you/she wants, why not?

b3t4

I'm a tad confused here.

A ring is a ring is a ring, no?? appart from the onion ring comment earlier

Whats the huge difference between an engagement ring and an eternity ring?

The girl has to wear the ring so asking her would be your best bet.

Can't see a problem having an eternity ring as an engagement ring.

A.

Beruthiel

Originally posted by b3t4
I'm a tad confused here.

A ring is a ring is a ring, no?? appart from the onion ring comment earlier

the man in the shop said there was a difference

also, eng. rings are more expensive and the man in the shop said that if you are getting married you must have a real, proper eng. ring otherwise the whole marriage is null and void.

Aurther Hugh

That sounds like rubish to me, who's to tell you what kinda ring you gotta have !! That chap must be on commission mate ! Who or how could they legally define an engagement ring anyway ? To clear it up, technically an eternity ring is worn between the engagement ring and a wedding ring and is often given to a woman by her husband after the birth of their first baby or on a significant anniversary.

rs

She has to wear the ring, not you. Any kind of ring will do the job as long as she loves it.

You just have to remember, for at least 6 months after you get engaged, every girl that she meets will ask to see the ring. It will be her pride and joy for that six months, and hopefully much longer.

If she wanted an engagement ring, and gets an eternity ring, you could have a nasty situation on your hands. She will wear this ring forever.

If at all possible, get her feeling as to what she wants. If she doesn't know then make her try some on.

This can be hard to do if she has no idea you are going to propose. I don't know what you do here other than ask your own sisters or mum. None of her friends or family could be trusted to keep a secret of that size, so you don't dare go to them for advice.

If you are going to get engaged, you are doomed already (believe me, I know). Get her what she wants, as that may minimise your pain.

dudara

Just take her to the jewellers, close your eyes and hand over the credit card. She'll be wearing it, so she gets to choose what she likes.

][cEMAN**

Get a piece of string and use that. Tell her it's romantic because that's what they used in the count of monte cristo and their love lasted forever....even when she thought he was dead. She never took it off her finger.

kaimera

Originally posted by dudara
Just take her to the jewellers, close your eyes and hand over the credit card. She'll be wearing it, so she gets to choose what she likes.

right...but how do you surprise her then?

I mean, how the **** is one to know she wont take one look at the ring and go "Oh.....*silence*..."

and then exchange it later?

damn women...

yellum

Myself and my fiancé agreed to get engaged first and then we got the rings designed to our tastes.

No matter how well you know someone you should allow them to have an input on a band that signifies your love and commitment for each other.

I always like the idea of a band with your true loves name tattooed on to the ring finger, but not everyone is into that.

EKRIUQ

The way I did it was, I'd be flicking T.V channels and flick through the shoping channels untill I came to rings and I'd make a commet as if I didn't care "do you like that ring" and I would get the reply No and I did it over a couple of months untill I had a good idea of what ring she wanted and off I went to Jewler and got my ring

remoteboy

I proposed on the spur of the moment - used a hair clip bent into the shape of a ring. Its the gesture not the jewels that matter. Mind you when we got home (we were on holidays at the time) I did take her shopping until we found the ring she wanted. Best of both worlds if you ask me.

Gillie

"I always like the idea of a band with your true loves name tattooed on to the ring finger, but not everyone is into that."

Always liked that idea yellum.
Probably get that done after the wedding!

Agent Smith

thats a pretty cool idea....








cant see it catching on tho

ToxicPaddy

Speaking of which, a couple i know got engaged recently and I know they spent a
small fortune on the ring, but whats the norm..

I know in the past it was the equivalent of a months salary or something crazy like
that.. or maybe it was 2 months salary...

Ive no intentions of getting hitched or even engaged for a good few years yet, but
if this is the case, I better get saving... :dunno:

Anyone ever heard of this????

Gillie

I spent €1500 on a ring for my woman.
18 kt gold with a nice big solitare and white gold mixed in.
Bought it in Malta tho.

Capt'n Midnight

I've heard it said that he should spend a months wages on the engagement ring..

However, also heard it said that since it is given in exchange for a promise to marry it is his property until the wedding (contract thingy).

So she can't keep the ring if you split.
(yeah try and see how far you get with that argument)

Another thought - over 80% of the worlds diamonds go through one company De Beers who have a cartel with the other big companies. Then there is the ethical problem of Blood Diamonds from places like Angola - where the civil war was funded by such things. - Stick with Emeralds / Saphires - make up a line about eye colours etc.

secret_squirrel

afaik the first people to say spend a months salary on an engagement ring was the de beers advert that had the line - "how else can a months salary last a lifetime"
Or words to that effect.

Personally I'd get a temporary ring - or something silly like that bent hair clip, and promise to take her shopping for the real thing.

loismustdie

it depends on your gf? is she accustomed to diamonds and will she expect it. if you are really in love and just want commitment unless you are settled and can afford a standard engagement ring but that type of ring might be just seen as commercial and showy and a simple piece of jewellry which means alot to both of you (eternity rings are a perfect example) would be a lot more romantic

Capt'n Midnight

Originally posted by secret_squirrel
Personally I'd get a temporary ring - or something silly like that bent hair clip, and promise to take her shopping for the real thing.

Do it properly - down to B&Q and get one of those brass rings they use in pipe fittings - polish it up and in bad light and a few drinks it'll look like gold ....

trilo

Originally posted by Beruthiel
the man in the shop said there was a difference

also, eng. rings are more expensive and the man in the shop said that if you are getting married you must have a real, proper eng. ring otherwise the whole marriage is null and void.

null and void.. well thats hairylarious

Quatre Mains

I hope you mean after tax when you say a month's salary

While I wouldn't bother putting up a fight about it if I were in the situation, I do think it's a bit of a waste, and comments like the one made by the jeweller that the marriage is null and void without a 'proper' ring show that like xmas, engagements are becoming more and more money-orientated. Back in the 60's and early 70's when our parents generation were 'courting', they were usually still living at home, and a nice rock was like a statement of intent to the girl and her family, that the man would spoil (just as well I spellchecked, I had said soil)and look after the woman. These days engagements are much less formal, and couples are already either saving for a deposit or paying off a huge mortgage. Add a $2k ring and a 15-20k wedding on top of this and IMO thats going to put more strain on a relationship than anything else. Still, its the way of the world I suppose. One things for sure, I'd take no lip about how expensive Sky Sports was after all that:D

Neil

b3t4

With this talk of engagement rings and prices and all that.

What are peoples thoughts on if a couple went halves on an engagement ring?

Being female, if I ever do get engaged I want to pay half for the ring.

A.

yellum

Originally posted by b3t4


Being female, if I ever do get engaged I want to pay half for the ring.

I would have thought that if you are getting married to share the rest of your life (or part thereof) with each other both incomes would be shared too.

What's yours is his and what's his is yours. Does it matter who pays for it then ?

shopaholic

If I ever get engaged i'd like to buy him something back - like a really nice watch or something!
As for those big huge expensive rings...I'd lose the stone! come on what wins the argument a sofa/new kitchen etc+ reasonably priced ring - V - big huge expensive ring? A lovely white gold/platnum or even silver ring with a small stone will do me just fine!
Thats my two cent!

RicardoSmith

We went out and spent a day shopping for our rings. Really enjoyed the whole thing. Was a lot of fun. I put a deposit on the ring. Collected it and surprised her with it a couple of months later.

If its expensive make sure to get it valued and insured. Most house content policies need expensive items like rings, valued and listed seperately.

strawberry

Just remember you're still going to have a wedding to pay for

WhiteWashMan

i used a wedding band to propose with and let her pick her own engagement ring.


anyway, all the things you have heard about with months salary and all that stuff is complete tosh.
you should spend as much as you want to, if its a 60 quid special at H Samual (you cheap bastárd!) or a 25k ring from Tiffenys. it is after all only a symbol. but make sure its pretty one that makes both of you happy.

Sleepy

Originally posted by b3t4
With this talk of engagement rings and prices and all that.

What are peoples thoughts on if a couple went halves on an engagement ring?

Being female, if I ever do get engaged I want to pay half for the ring.

A.

Good woman! I know a cousin of mine felt guilty about her fianceé spending so much on the ring so she went out and bought him a pool table for their house!

Humphrey

Got 'Ring' in Barmakian Brothers store in Boston. Girlfriend was delighted with it.

The ring was very expensive but if I was to buy the same ring (Based on 4 C's) here in Ireland it would cost almost double.

Highly recommended Barmakian Brothers and getting the Engagement ring in the USA.

Got engaged Valentines day 2004 but its also my girlfriend birthday (25th) that day so I am not that sad :-)

Humphrey.

Capt'n Midnight

Originally posted by Humphrey
Got engaged Valentines day 2004 but its also my girlfriend birthday (25th) that day so I am not that sad :-)

Humphrey.

Now if you get married on the same day, you'll save yourself a lot of trouble trying to remember anniversaries later on..

Humphrey

Good thinking Capt'n.

Anniversary\Valentines\Birthday all in one handy Bunch of flowers hehehe :-)

Hummphrey