How do I relax for my boyfriend

Rock Climber

I have a new boyfriend
It's the most exciting thing thats ever happened to me and I've been out with him just a few times so far and getting on like a house on fire.

The thing is, he's coming over tomorrow tonight (I'm cooking him a meal) and he wants to stay the night.

For the first time in my life, I'm really,really nervous bordering on feeling sick and I don't want to mess up.

He's really sensitive and has already told me that, I'm the first guy that he's been serious about.
He's been very huggy and feely, this last few times we've been out, so I know what he probably has in mind for later on

Has anyone any advice on how to relax, and stop feeling nervous about this.

azezil

Take your time, don't dwell on it, if it happens let it come naturally when you're both ready, if not sharing a bed and just snuggling can be good too

MrPinK

If you're sure that you want to progress things that far, then a bottle of wine would be the obvious thing Be careful with the alcohol though. Make sure you know your limits. You want to be relaxed, but you don't want to be drunk. In the mean time, don't bother trying to relax. It'll all be good, so you've nothing to worry about. Just enjoy the giddiness and those butterflies in your stomach. It's too rare a feeling not to cherish.

Barbie_666

Originally posted by MrPinK
If you're sure that you want to progress things that far, then a bottle of wine would be the obvious thing Just enjoy the giddiness and those butterflies in your stomach. It's too rare a feeling not to cherish.

Im with Mr.Pink on this one!
Good luck with dinner, and enjoy yourself!

yellum

Unless he's a right cocky bastard he is going to be nervous too. Its your domain, your flat, you are cooking the dinner, your bed. You are more in control of the situation than him.

Knowing the fact that you are in control more and the fact that he's bound to be as nervous should maybe help you releax. But whats wrong with being nervous ? Its a sign of something good in a way. Means you care for him and want to make sure you both have a good time.

When I'm really nervous I slow everything down. I take deep slow relaxing breaths and they help a lot. Anyway by the time the meal ends you'll find you won't be nervous at all.

Enjoy it.

Rock Climber

Thanks Guys.
Yellum I will try to take it slowly, hopefully it will go well as the night goes on.

And azezil, thats very sweet what you said and true

Zulu

Sounds like this is a first for you, sorry you'll need a lady to help you on that one.

Other than that - if your getting on deadly, don't worry about it. You'll be relaxed by the time dinner is over, and then just go with the flow. You can't really mess up if he really likes you, he'll be happy with whatever he gets

Beruthiel

I have nothing to add to what the rest of the lads suggested, just take your time and no more than one bottle of wine!

don't forget the candles and maybe a little insence (not too strong), it makes for a romantic atmosphere and can be quite relaxing

good luck, it's always wonderful when the butterflies get going, enjoy it

Calibos

I was going to go on about vaginismus, something I read in FHM or summat..........but I see I misread the thread title :D

Miguel_Sanchez

Originally posted by Rock Climber
I have a new boyfriend

He's really sensitive and has already told me that, I'm the first guy that he's been serious about.

I think you'll find that Rock Climber is a guy and not a girl. Although since we're just giving general advice on feeling relaxed about the evening I think everything applies (bar the references to vaginismus)

[CrimsonGhost]

Well from your posting its seems you a both male. In that case some poppers should help with the kind of relaxing you are looking for.

Gordon

I don't think that's what he meant crimson ghost.

Sir Digby Chicken Caesar

still, it couldn't hurt


*heh heh heh*

Sarky

Originally posted by Rock Climber
I've been out with him just a few times so far and getting on like a house on fire.

Screaming, horrible burns, people running for their lives?

Calibos

Originally posted by Jeff_Lebowski
I think you'll find that Rock Climber is a guy and not a girl. Although since we're just giving general advice on feeling relaxed about the evening I think everything applies (bar the references to vaginismus)

I think you'll find that that was the whole point of my post Jeff

[CrimsonGhost]

Originally posted by Mordeth
still, it couldn't hurt
*heh heh heh*

Personally, I think it probably would hurt.

Rock Climber

LoL lads at the last couple of replies


Everything went well anyhow... Relief !!

We are now a regular item

I even cooked clonakilty black puddins LoL

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Rock Climber
I even cooked clonakilty black puddins LoL

that must have been the clincher!
after all, they say the way to a mans heart is through his stomach

Typedef

Of course the ability to suck a golf ball through a hose helps too.

qwertyphobia

Never under estimate the power of clonakilty black pudding

xx

Lafortezza

Originally posted by qwertyphobia
Never under estimate the power of clonakilty black pudding
xx

Is that like prime alabama blacksnake?