Feeling like a right sh1thead !

Wolf

Today I had to tell one of our house mates to move the hell out and im feeling so dam guilty over it. Heres the story...............

Atm Im over in Ozy land and I was sharing a house with 1 other guy and 2 girls. One of the girls has some pretty bad issuses and tends to make lots of snide remarks thats really sting. She has left me alone for a while now. Thing is she pushed me a bit far and I basically confronted her and backed her into a corner untill she told the truth (well 1/2) and hasnt taken me on again. She hasnt payed her rent and we got served a termination notice. On top of this she is continually hard to live with. Everyone else in the house was thinking of moving out because of her. So we came together and agreed that we would ask her to leave. The rest of the house mates are a bit nice and unfortunatly I asked her to go, with them present of course.

My only big worry is that this girl is a bit fooked up and might well take it as a very personal thing and m a bit worried by what might happen to her now that she has been told this.

I should point out that everyone in the house has reached out to her on MANY occasions and she haas always thrown it staight back in their face.

But at the same time I feel that may be you should always give another chance :dunno:

I feel a little bit like I should be able to take more abuse if just to help her out :dunno:

Well im not sure I still feel like im going straight to hell for this one

aidan_walsh

You gave her her chance, now was the time to draw the line...

IMHO, she was making things unbearable for both you and your other roomies... You did the right thing.

Nuttzz

you cant be a counsellor for her, she has issues, she needs to sort them. Why bother putting yourself thru sh1te for someone who wont bother to help themselves?

Stark

Don't worry about it, you've already reached out to her, and you've put up with a lot. Most people put up with a lot lot less.

koneko

There's only so much you can do. You reached out, she's making things difficult.

You and your housemates can't be made feel uncomfortable in your own home. If she isn't willing to adapt and live with others then why should you put up with it? Don't feel bad about what you did, sounds like you didn't have much of a choice.

Wolf

Thanks a million all. I already new this stuff tbh I just need to hear other well maladjusted internet types to tell me that. Thanks, still feeling a bit guilty but it'll pass.

No doubt someone like DBC will come alond now that im going staight to hell, that i did wrong and go on to explain how :rolleyes:

Ta all

Mercury_Tilt

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Wolf

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
where are you in Aussie land?

Why?

Your not here to are ya?

You scare me a touch tbh merc not sure I should discolse my location on the interweb.






Nah im in Perth

Mercury_Tilt

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SantaHoe

Originally posted by Wolf
One of the girls has some pretty bad issuses and tends to make lots of snide remarks thats really sting.

Oh screw that, it doesn't take a lot of mental self-control to bite your tounge once in a while and be reasonable with people. (unless of course she suffers from tourette syndrome)
Don't feel guilty, from the sounds of it - she was being a complete arse... you did what your house mates couldn't handle.
Start refering to yourself as 'the man of the house' from now on

Wolf

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
Nah I'm stuck in dublin...for now.....

I'm sure Perth has some nice beaches... I was going to suggest heading down to one and drinking some beer as a soloution to your issue.

Hmm your ideas interest me greatly, only thing is all the offies are closed now, and............................... (sniff) I have no friends

Sangre

Having issues doesn't give you a right to be a bitch and treat others like ****.
Kick her out like there is no tomorrow, that might teach her some manners.

Jim

Originally posted by Wolf
(sniff) I have no friends

Maybe Merc will fly down and be your friend!

Mercury_Tilt

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hedgetrimmer

Wolf, you are in now way responsible for her life, her past and her emotional state. I don't wish to sound callous, but everyone has skeletons in their closets about numerous things, and ok, a lot of them are difficult nigh on impossible to deal with. But if yourway of dealing with it is to vent out at people, then those people have the right and freedom to react and to act to preserve their own happiness. Quite often, it is when those people who lash out find themselves alone that they start to unravel their own issues.

You made the right choice, IMO, and it is up to her to rise to the occassion and realise that she was her own and only enemy in this case

Kone

Originally posted by Mercury_Tilt
I was going to suggest heading down to one and drinking some beer as a soloution to your issue.

But beer is a drug, drugs are bad, mmmkay.

Mercury_Tilt

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Stark

... and vodka

Wolf

Ta for all rhe replys i feel better now. In know it was the right thing to do but im a bit soft sometimes......

As to Merc I tell ya what if you pay for the tickets I'll pay for the watery weetabix mmmkay