Lost my closest Friend

logic

I've known this girl a while and I was her closest friend. Lately I
had been feely differently towards her, wasn't sure what exactly
it was. Maybe it was because she was slightly different from her
usual self (or that just could have been me, the way I was feeling).

I was getting the impression that she fancied me and made a move.
Making a move is not something that you can do casually and try
and get away with it. It blew up in my face. She doesn't want to
see me now. At all.

I'm still not sure how I feel about her though. Any ideas on how
I can rectify the situation? Or is it just fooked altogether?

Silent Grape

oh dear.

i suppose all u can do now is apologise, maintain that u still want to be friends, and have patience.

if u did have a very strong friendship, time should heal this. ive been through it myself, and we both came out the other end friends.

gud luck

x

Placebo

txt her saying, u thought she fancied u and thats why u made a move and friend ship means everything to you and that u`ll buy her an xobox if she forgives u.

LadyPenelope

All is not lost. But you do need to sort out your feelings for her first. Then decide that even if you have strong feelings for her that you can go back to being just friends. This can be very difficult, especially if she has a boyfriend further down the line.

Other thought is that she backed off because she was unsure of her feelings towards you, just a thought, maybe not the case at all.

In my experience girls are better at doing the "friendship" thing with blokes than the other way around, so if she realy valued your friendship you should be able to talk to her about what happened and she should listen and understand.

I also have told someone my feelings towards them but it was not how he felt, we have since gone on to be great friends, so it can be done.

Talk to her .. take her out for a drink and sort it out.

Good luck!

Emboss

explain to her that your finished thinking with your penis...

and your brain has kicked in again...

DUX

txt her saying, u thought she fancied u and thats why u made a move and friend ship means everything to you and that u`ll buy her an xobox if she forgives u.

Placebo got it right....

Catsmokinpot

yeah i was in the same situation. good friend, good times, started feeling stuff for her, thought it would be the same result cause i didnt feel the friendship was that strong, ended up not telling her how i felt, regretted it cause shes gone round the world now for 10 months.

dude at least you made a move, you got a result now just pick up the pieces tell her that your friendship means more to you than anything and that you dont want it ruined by something stupid

id say their will be awkwardness but it will soon pass if the friendship is strong enough

logic

Gonna do what Placebo said, it was what i was thinking of saying already but
I cannot get her out. I havent seen her since, shes been making excuses
as not to come out with me and that. Looks like I will have to email her.

Zulu

Originally posted by logic
Gonna do what Placebo said, it was what i was thinking of saying already but
I cannot get her out. I havent seen her since, shes been making excuses
as not to come out with me and that. Looks like I will have to email her.

Real friends forgive each other.

Kell

Originally posted by LadyPenelope
I also have told someone my feelings towards them but it was not how he felt, we have since gone on to be great friends, so it can be done.

The success of such a move is dependant largely on the maturity level of both parties and can be age dependant as well. Logic, what age are you and yer mate?

K-

logic

Im 27 and shes 24. I still haven't really talked to her since it happened, as
she is keeping a massive distance between us. It seems kind of immature on her part.

Silent Grape

ahhh. i though u guys wud be late teens/20 ish. that soes seema bit immature. i spose all u can do is make sure she understands howmuch u value ur friendship.

or maybe she likes u back and is freaking out.

who knows. girls are strange.

aine

txt her saying, u thought she fancied u and thats why u made a move and friend ship means everything to you and that u`ll buy her an xobox if she forgives u.

that would probably work for me but then again all girls are different! My impression is that shes pretty confused about how she feels about you too...otherwise she would NEVER have reacted so badly!

Zombrex

girls have this thing that if you fancy them then you don't respect them, or you just want a shag, as if the time you spend together you were faking being nice because you just wanted the goods.

Tell her to get over herself, you went to kiss her, big deal. Tell her you don't fancy her that much you just wondered what it would be like. She will probably freak out saying "why whats wrong with me!!"

WOMEN!!!!

DriftingRain

Heheheh What Emboss said. I am sure the humor will break the ice and lead you onto the right track!

/me huggles emboss.


Good Luck
~DR~