Dating -vs- going out

Theboinkmaster

Heya guys

First of all thanks a mil for all the replies to my prevous post - much appreciated - to follow up the girl txt'd me at weekend and we're goin out this wk

Problem is I met another really cool girl fri nite who im going out with this wk also so now my Q is what is the exact difference between 'dating/seeing' someone or 'going out' with someone (ie boyfriend-girlfriend)

U see the 1st girl likes me but is standoffish and maybe playin games so I think it's fine to date another girl until it gets serious with one of them however problem is we all know what a small world it is and so how will they react if they find out/I tell them? Every girl is different but I think I'm ok to do this for a wee bit..

I think dating ur allowed see other ppl but with the other one ur in a committed relationship - any thoughts?

D!ve^Bomb!

IMHO,, i think if ur only startin to date them then go ahead, but i would only do it untill you realise which one u like most, then just stick with her,, how would u feel if u dated a girl for a month or so, really liked her and then found out she'd been datin all these other guys too.. u'd probably be confused bout how she felt, ''does she like me, or am i somethin to pass the time??''

ya dig??

Kali

go ahead until things get serious... but just be aware of how you'd feel if she done the same to you.. either way it should usually be an easy choice which one you want to spend more time with.

Typedef

Totally play it out with both of them....

T'is the poor rabbit who depends on the one hole.... (farmers are fond of chatting up sheep like this down here)...

Where was I... oh yes... most girls would certainly keep their options open, until the last moment so she can find the best-looking, richest & funniest [1] man she can.

[1] Listed in this order in Cosmo this month on page (number escapes me), about how to make your 'ex' envious... ie, find a man with the three qualities listed in 'that' order.

Fight the powa my downtrodden gold-digging sisters...
Fight the powa!

The Corinthian

Dating is really the period where two people first really get to know each other and will tentatively discover whether they are compatible (i.e. personalities, attitudes, sexually, etc.) before making any kind of real commitment. If compatible the two people will effectively become a couple - certain rights or duties are expected; such as monogamy, a certain amount of time to be set aside to be together, special occasions to be observed (anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, etc.) and, in most cases in Western Society between adults, sex becomes an expected mutually expressed behaviour. None of these are expected of two people dating.

A good rule of thumb is if you would introduce someone as your girl/boyfriend, then you’re going out and no longer simply dating.

Originally posted by Theboinkmaster
I think dating ur allowed see other ppl but with the other one ur in a committed relationship - any thoughts?

Strictly speaking if you’re just dating someone you have no right or claim of exclusivity and vica versa. Having said this, especially the longer a pair are dating and the closer they are getting to going out, the less acceptable it would be to date others.

So in your case it really depends on how far the original relationship, if you would even call it that, has progressed. Would either of you refer to the other as their girl/boyfriend? If not then there’s probably nothing wrong with you dating others at present.

Kell

Typie, can you clarify exactly why you are reading Cosmo? Not hoping to glean some information about the womens wiley ways now are you?

Hands up those who thinks Types is cheating.

K-

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Kell
Hands up those who thinks Types is cheating.

it's times like this I wish I had more hands

anyway, what TC said, I see no problem with seeing both of them, but don't continue that line for too long as you have a bigger chance of being caught or saying the wrong name to the wrong person!

KlodaX

I'd call that dangerous ground... what if you end up liking both of them?

Typedef

I reading cosmo so I can pretend I'm one of these sensitive girly-boy types the chicks lust after in these mags.....

Mostly they lust after gay men.... in fact there is one poor girlie in this month's cosmo who whinges on for a whole page about some gay guys shes besotted with...

It's pretty sad really, this poor girlie is going through all these ... contortions.

"Maybe he isn't really gay".
"Maybe if I learned to put my leg behind my head he'd turn straight".

etc, etc.

Anyway define cheating....

The Corinthian

Originally posted by KlodaX
I'd call that dangerous ground... what if you end up liking both of them?

You choose. You're the adventurous type, I take it..? :rolleyes:

Typedef

Originally posted by The Corinthian
You choose. You're the adventurous type, I take it..? :rolleyes:

OMG : The sarcas-o-meter just blew up...

Dr Pepper

Been there.. Like buses, they are.. Always comin in groups! "The Corintian" speaks wisely on these matters.. Just remember, a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush Pick as soon as you can!

Agent Smith

first into bed?


toss a coin?



jesus many men would like to be in your shoe's....




/me goes off to find theboinkmaster's shoes....


hee hee hee

sceptre

Originally posted by Kell
Hands up those who thinks Types is cheating.

I used to read Cosmo whenever someone I was seeing left it lying around. Know how the enemy thinks.

Current belle reckons Cosmo is a bunch of arse. From my own experience with the periodical, I reckon she's right.

DUX

Try to sleep with the one you like the less as soon as you can and then focus your energies on the other for a loooong, lastinnnnng and loooving relationship :-)

Typedef

Originally posted by sceptre
I used to read Cosmo whenever someone I was seeing left it lying around. Know how the enemy thinks.

Absolutely. There is wisened advice in studying thy foe.

Movies such as "Conan" and books such as "The Art of War", say so, so ... it must be true.

The Corinthian

Originally posted by DUX
Try to sleep with the one you like the less as soon as you can and then focus your energies on the other for a loooong, lastinnnnng and loooving relationship :-)

Haha, che stronzo

Complimeti.

][cEMAN**

What? Such infidelity should not be tolerated! Once you kiss someone you're devoted to them until marriage and onwards till death do you part! The only thing that negates this is if they dump you! Kissing is such a big step that anyone who takes part in it is giving their total and undying symbol of love and devotion to that person....or at least that's what my 5 mothers and 3 fathers told me!

Kell

Originally posted by Typedef
Movies such as "Conan"

Would that be Conan the Barbarian? Explains why you're spending time in the gym. Hoping those rippling biceps will give you pulling power then?

Pfft.

K-

Typedef

Well since I'm so well endowed.... I need the musle .... n'est pas?

Beruthiel

reste sur le topic Typie
dacord??

Gordon

ahem

KlodaX

Originally posted by The Corinthian
You choose. You're the adventurous type, I take it..? :rolleyes:

not when it comes to considering someone elses feelings... no