Men!!!

Ronika

Just decided to do a little rant about men- After finally getting over a broken relationship I Went out last week and meet a nice enough guy, bout of us were bit drunk. He asked for my number which I never normally give out but hey you only live once. He kissed me goodbye and that was it. After forgetting bout it he texted me last thur nite and asked how I was and stuff. decided to text him back the next morning and said I was good, what was he up to. Well I never heard from him. I just have one question Why bother texting me in the first place if your not interested. Does this happen often??-end of rant

scojones

maybe he has no credit? phone was stolen? is dead... or he met someone that put out on the spot. The last is what happend you know!

koneko

:rolleyes:

Ring him. Don't just sit around and wait if you like the guy. For all you know he has a genuine reason or didn't get your text.

seamus

Ring him you wuss.

One of many things probably happened. Chances are he ran out of credit and forgot to text you back. He may also have been busy when you texted, deleted your text, and forgot all about you.

Seeing as you waited till the next day to return, I'm guessing that he got the wrong vibe, and probably thought exactly as you did - "Why the hell isn't she texting me back? She musn't like me." He's thinking that you only texted him back the next day to be nice.

Let's face it. Men aren't complex. We don't play games. We either like you or we don't. Playing hard to get, or making the other party sweat, isn't going to get us laid, so we don't do it. The very fact that he texted you means he's interested. There's nothing else to it. Ring him.

The Devil

Originally posted by Ronika
Just decided to do a little rant about men- After finally getting over a broken relationship I Went out last week and meet a nice enough guy, bout of us were bit drunk. He asked for my number which I never normally give out but hey you only live once. He kissed me goodbye and that was it. After forgetting bout it he texted me last thur nite and asked how I was and stuff. decided to text him back the next morning and said I was good, what was he up to. Well I never heard from him. I just have one question Why bother texting me in the first place if your not interested. Does this happen often??-end of rant

i lost my mobile and therefore lost all my numbers and messages etc
p.m. your number to me and i will get in touch again

Kali

what seamus said... you delaying and playing it cool just made things worse.

Slaanesh

"The Devil": For real? :eek: Or are you just taking advantage of the situation? :dunno:

Spot on Seamus.. There is a whole etiquette around texting that makes these "games" even more annoying than ever!

Dr Pepper

Doh! :eek: Sorry Slaanesh, I was logged in as you there! Previous post actually from me..

Typedef

If I were you... I'd find his pet rabbit... stick it into some boiling water... and serve it for dinner.

xx

Originally posted by Ronika
Just decided to do a little rant about men...

How droll

Beruthiel

Originally posted by Typedef
If I were you... I'd find his pet rabbit... stick it into some boiling water... and serve it for dinner.

but
but
that would make her a bunny boiler then



honestly though Ronika, you only met him for one night while you were out, not sure what exactly you expect from that?!

Ronika

I dont expect anything from him, I just though he was a nice guy & am just abit confusesd over why he text me in the first place, also forgot to mention I did text him again just to ask did he get my first msg & got delivery report so i don't know.Ahh well plenty more fish in the sea and all that

seamus

Originally posted by Ronika
Ahh well plenty more fish in the sea and all that

You give up way too easily. No-one's going to think any less of you if you take the initiative. In fact, he'll more than likely enjoy it. But wait till this weekend. To ring him now will make you look crazy.

ToxicPaddy

Originally posted by Ronika
I dont expect anything from him, I just though he was a nice guy & am just abit confusesd over why he text me in the first place, also forgot to mention I did text him again just to ask did he get my first msg & got delivery report so i don't know.Ahh well plenty more fish in the sea and all that

To be honest, like you said there are plenty more fish in the sea. I would go thinkin too much into things like that, otherwise ur head will be wrecked and u will end up turning into the proverbial bunny boiler..

Tox

Walls

Ah sure boiling bunnys is fun. They're fierce tasty and good for all the family.

Seriously, don't worry about it. Women have a very bad habit of viewing men's actions towards them as a signal of their (womens's) self worth. It isn't. He just didn't call, you didn't slide down any ladder of esteem or anything. Let it go.

If that doesn't work, might I refer you to my sig....

Sarky

Not more people who insist on there being rules?

It's sickeningly neurotic. You are NOT on Sex And The City.

Call him. Find out. The worst that can happen is that you'll know why he didn't reply.

I'm beginning to wonder if there is a single female on the planet who would actually see the sense in what I just said...

Typedef

You are NOT on Sex And The City[1]
What?

Wait a second who cares... he's just some guy in a pub... big deal, he didn't text back.

You know what though, if you're .... thinking about it enough to start a thread about it... just call the man up, believe me, there is nothing more attractive then an assertive female who knows what she wants, is straight to the point and doesn't play games.

You might do that and he might blank you... it's the chance you take... it's better then looking for validation from lonley/strange/slightly psychotic interweb dwellers.


Yeah it's a case of find out for sure... or cut whatever losses you think are there (or not) as the case may be.

Most men would find it refreshing to have a woman ask them out for a change.... as opposed to attempting to create 'situations' where it all seems like the man's idea.

That said... if you ask him out and he gives the (I can't, I'd love to some time)... that's a code for (stop stalking me).

It's a subtle line.


////no really\\\\

In any case rabbit is absolutely 'filled' with protien, so worst case.. you can call him 85 times... wait outside his house... kill his pet rabbit and stalk his girlfriend..... it's pretty much the same as calling him again (and asking him out) I'd say.... you can probably see the conjunction for yourself.... clearly.

*boggle*

[1] I happen to enjoy Sex and the City.... find something else to undermine the lesbian/feminists with ... if you please.

Tusky

Dont get offended but he may have been drunk and horny , txted you and then when morning came regreted it , either way ring him !

Typedef

Jesus christ.... just ask.

It's pretty demented to get the hump because the fella didn't return one poxy text.

Now blanking two texts... would be a sign from the highest levels of sinage that he fears for his life and the lives of his pet rabbits when you text.

No, but really.

Agent Smith

call him.... pick up the phone and dial those 10 majic number's. whats the worse that could happen....
{start of evil plan}

and if he is a total dick....


and your on o2.....


set up a group with him 250 times in you address book and txt bomb the motherfucker....




hey



i also hate men and i am one....





{end of evil plan}

bizmark

jesus crist some off you people are fu*ked up :rolleyes:

Ronika

Oh my god, Im not a weirdo. I was just bored in work and decided to see if men normally do weird things like that cos I've been out of the playing field for a while- I didnt mean people to think Im a bunny boiler etc. Im not that bothered by what happened with this guy, I was just curious.
PS. Im not going to stalk him!!!!!!!!!

DUX

Next time you don't want the day after before texting a guy back....right punishment for you :-)

Evil Phil

You know what, stop using text messages. Use the phone, you've already got it in your hand. TBH text would put me off until we're established as a couple.

fozzle

Why on earth did you wait until the next morning to reply to his text if you like him?
He could be out of credit, he could have deleted your text by mistake and forgotten about it, he could have deleted your number by mistake (yes, I've done all these things).

Don't bother with texting, it's too impersonal if you're trying to show an interest in someone, just ring him! I'ts not really all that expensive, it's a lot more personal, and you'll know where you stand straight away.

And stop analysing so much, it gives the rest of us women a bad name!;)

Deadwing

*gasps in amazement* Wait...i was that man!! What happened was..an er..eagle..swooped down and stole my mobile, so pm me your number again and ill get back to you!!

*Mr. Burns voice* Excellent..its all coming to plan

loismustdie

get over yourself!and get on with your life too. don't phone him and ask him why he didn't text back and don't start a spice girl movement over some lad who just hasn't bothered texting some lad back

Sleepy

Originally posted by Sarky
Not more people who insist on there being rules?

It's sickeningly neurotic. You are NOT on Sex And The City.

Call him. Find out. The worst that can happen is that you'll know why he didn't reply.

I'm beginning to wonder if there is a single female on the planet who would actually see the sense in what I just said...

If it's any consolation I agree with every word of that text. Maybe we should write a book and call it the "new rules"?? If we can just get on Oprah with it we'll be multimillionaires!

Mutz

I have to agree that text messages have screwed up the fun in asking someone out. There's the whole excitment of getting all nervous calling someone up and then making an ass of yourself! Texts make it so impersonal its not funny. :dunno:

I've also found myself in your position Ronika, where i asked someone out for a drink by text who seemed really keen in the pub a few nights before. She texted back, so of course I txt her again and then no response! WTF!? Stick to "I'll giva ya a call". I couldn't be arsed txting her asking her whats up :rolleyes:

deimos

Relationships are too complex, might damage your brain.... stay away from them

STaN

Ring, it shows confidence

YouAndWhoseArmy

this type of situation happens all the time.... similar situation happened upon me this weekend as well... chatting to a girl in the bar.. getting on great... moments of passion.... swap numbers... i call her...rings out a couple of times (not a good sign)... goes to voicemail... leave message... send text... no answer....

im over it already... move on......

Zulu

Originally posted by Ronika
decided to text him back the next morning

only one thing springs to mind,
live by the sword, die by the sword.
If there's one thing that will put me off a girl - it's "the rules" crap. If I sence it's going on I'm gone. I'm not some puppet. It's a respect thing. If you play games, you have no respect, so why bother.

Lump

Why do men always have to do the leg work? The pressure you put us under!


John

Seraphina

what are these 'rules'?
are you actually telling me some women DO these things?!?

bdiddy

why all the questions? why? why?

As for the young one who wants to boil a bunny or something like that. Rip that mofo's head off. how dare he? B**tard!!!

Zulu

Originally posted by Seraphina
what are these 'rules'?
are you actually telling me some women DO these things?!?

Its a book written by a sex in the city type person for women to "catch" their man.

ie: for poor sad women desperate to find someone quickly; to get that ever elusive ring; to finally "get one up/sick it to" their good looking friend who has always faired better and gotten all the male attention when they go out.

You don't put out,
you dont ring him,
you act aloof,
etc..

...you get dumped 3 weeks down the line when you finally do put out.

Atreides

Originally posted by Lump
Why do men always have to do the leg work? The pressure you put us under!


John

Speak four yourself... god I'm lonely

xx

Originally posted by Zulu

You don't put out,
you dont ring him,
you act aloof,
etc..

...you get dumped 3 weeks down the line......

3 fukkin' minutes down the line more like...and proper order.

Virus_Inc

Just as an asside here's a quote that fell from the mouth of a friend of mine last night..

'Men are stupid, but they are strong'

Bicky

Originally posted by Ronika
Why bother texting me in the first place if your not interested. Does this happen often??-end of rant

Yes i do it all the time in the hope that the girl i met the night before while drunk is one of those neurotic, self obsessed bitches who says something like "Men" to fob off the fact they are really boring ****s who dont deserve a reply.

Owenw

Originally posted by Virus_Inc
Just as an asside here's a quote that fell from the mouth of a friend of mine last night..

'Men are stupid, but they are strong'

The point being... what exactly?

loismustdie

Originally posted by Typedef
You are NOT on Sex And The City[1]
What?

[1] I happen to enjoy Sex and the City.... find something else to undermine the lesbian/feminists with ... if you please.

home and away?

Catsmokinpot

Originally posted by Ronika
Just decided to do a little rant about men- After finally getting over a broken relationship I Went out last week and meet a nice enough guy, bout of us were bit drunk. He asked for my number which I never normally give out but hey you only live once. He kissed me goodbye and that was it. After forgetting bout it he texted me last thur nite and asked how I was and stuff. decided to text him back the next morning and said I was good, what was he up to. Well I never heard from him. I just have one question Why bother texting me in the first place if your not interested. Does this happen often??-end of rant

everyone is different male or female

both can be nasty, both can be nice, both can blow you off, both can blow you. tbh id say he just forgot or maybe he just hates using txt i kno pleanty of ppl who unless it was a life threatening situation wouldnt bother txtin anyone or maybe worst case he really isnt interested

you cant blame "MEN!!" for one mans actions, the same as i cant blame women!! for one woman doin something that doesnt go down easy with me.

if you want to know what happened ask him. their is no way for any one of us to know whats going on in his head

alienhead

works both ways luv