dont know what to do

someonenew

I was seeing this girl over the summer and we got on really well and i fell in love with her almost right away but then suddenly she says to me she doesnt think we should see each other anymore and this was totally out of the blue, like the day before she told me she loved me not the first time but surly thats not the kinda thing you just say to someone and not mean it, right, but anyway, we're just friends now but i still love her and cant stop thinkin bout her, so two weeks later i meet up with her at a niteclub and we're talking and next thing i know shes kissin me, and i was like whats goin on here, but not 10 mins later shes all over this other guy right in front of me and i was crushed, and then she brings him back to hers and i went back to her best friends place and slept with her, i shouldnt have done that im really regretting it, now i dont know what to do, i really want to be with her but i dont know what she wants and i dont want to force the issue on her cos i really value our friendship, and if it comes out bout me and her best friend im screwed anyways

Beruthiel

You’re only torturing yourself
forget about her and move along

woodyg

Your scrued any way now. Best friends tell everything an she probably all ready nows.
Best thing to do now is to try explain to her what your feelings are, She seems to hold some feelings for you ( could be love or just deep friendship) so u got to ask what she wants. Leaving it can only result in you getin hurt in the long run.

Best of luck.

tbh

Heres the thing: She's shaftin ya. She wants to eat her cake (i.e shag you when she feels lonely or unloved) and have it too (i.e. she is waiting for the BBD* to come along and she doesn't want to be stuck with you when it comes).
Sorry to be harsh, she's probably a nice girl and all, but she has her own best interests at heart. If you want my advice, you have to physically stop thinking about her - don't let yourself daydream because you are not basing those dreams on reality. If you don't allow yourself the (false and temporary) highs, you won't suffer the lows. i.e. if you don't shift her when she comes on to you, you won't feel bad when she won't shift you. If you don't spend all day thinking about how great it would be if she changed her mind, you won't be pissed off when she changes her mind. Try it, it really works.
There are plenty more fish in the sea, and you don't want to get stuck on the first hook you see.

Hope that helps,
Caimin
*BBD=Bigger Better Deal.

tbh

Correction:
If you don't spend all day thinking about how great it would be if she changed her mind, you won't be pissed off when she *DOESN'T* change her mind.

sry,
caimin

Havelock

Ok, stop. Take a breath. Breath in, breath out. Relax

1) why would you be screwed about sleeping with her best friend? She was sleeping with soemone else.

2) She obviously doesn't have deep feelings for you of the same sort, so try to move on.

3) The words "I love you" are pandedered about way to much these days. Be careful of believeing people that aren't sure or don't.

4) If your friends and thats all she wants, I'm afraid you'll have to settle for that.

patch

If I were you, I'd get back into the mindset you had while you were shagging her best friend.
ie. your ex ain't worth your time. There's plenty more fish in the sea who won't play games and mess with your head.

ferdi

Originally posted by Beruthiel
You’re only torturing yourself
forget about her and move along

yup

Selik

Does the said mentioned female have a sister by any chance? If so give her one - that should cheers ya up no end!

Billy Turdhed

listen Horse... Its not yr paramour,yr hearts delight ,the girl of yr dreams you shud be worrying about ..its yr frea****n Bell End!

If that floosie hopped into the cot with ya my guess is(and its only a guess) is that she has a dose of the flakies..Check out the
the old Bofors gun and if any sign of anything funny ...get yrsell to a doctor kinda rapid like.

Forget about steeping her in hot dettol.... no good at all

Check it out... take it from Bill....been there..took the tablets

A concerned W O Turdhed

someonenew

turdhed your a ****ing muppet, everyone else cheers

jesus_thats_gre

Originally posted by Billy Turdhed
listen Horse... Its not yr paramour,yr hearts delight ,the girl of yr dreams you shud be worrying about ..its yr frea****n Bell End!

If that floosie hopped into the cot with ya my guess is(and its only a guess) is that she has a dose of the flakies..Check out the
the old Bofors gun and if any sign of anything funny ...get yrsell to a doctor kinda rapid like.

Forget about steeping her in hot dettol.... no good at all

Check it out... take it from Bill....been there..took the tablets

A concerned W O Turdhed

Ah man, the funniest thing I have ever read. I am guessing your from Cava or something?


As for you one, I went through the same crap for nearly a year. Ya gotta do either of the following:

1) Just stop getting with her, kissing or shagging and you will be grand after a few weeks.

2) Do to her as she does to you. Treat her like crap and use her to get your jollys now and again. You will eventually start to see her as just a bit of fluff, loose any respect you have for her and move on within a few weeks


I personally would only ever choose option 1, and did!

b3t4

someonenew,

As Beruthiel said you are only torturing yourself.

I know you love her but is she really worth it. Keep remembering how she made you feel when she was with that other guy in front of you. How many times do you want to have to experience that feeling?? It hurt like hell right. It felt like your insides were being ripped out. So you went and slept with her friend. You were angry, hurt and desparte to be wanted by her or anyone else that was willing.

Take my word for it. I put myself through hell because of a guy who acted in the same manner your girl has. I too loved him. I wasted allot of years for nothing, don't be the same as me. Remove all and every contact you have with her. It's hard to do I know but it is the only way to be able to move on. As long as she has contact with you she can and will fu*k with your mind and heart. Love's not ment to hurt.

Best of luck,
A.

Typedef

Originally posted by Beruthiel
You’re only torturing yourself
forget about her and move along

Yes.

And the more you sleep with her best friend.. the better you'll feel about it...

Also, if you can get a dig in at her sister, I highly advise philandering throughout the family in as many ways as possible.

That'll teach her not to go back with you and her best friend huh?

Evil Phil

Get with somebody new and forget about her.

Peace

LEDGEND - shag the best mate......BIG UP DUDE.

The folks are right, forget about her....you'll find bigger and better.