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boardsonic · 24-09-2003 5:58pm #1

I'd be interested in poeple's opinions on this (a bit long)

several weeks ago i met this girl through a good work mate in a niteclub, as it was one of my mates birthdays I went the whole hog & bought a bottle of champers... now myself & this girls who we'll call sarah got on like a house on fire, I got very drunk as you do on champers & various shots but I could tell she liked me, she even hung around after her mates had gone home but nothing really happened....
the next day my mates were telling me I was stupid i didn't "go for it" i felt a tad stupid myself so the next day in work I asked her mate for her phone number....well we startedtexting & I asked her out for a few drinks, we got on like a hous on fire once again but nothing exactly happened....the next day I texted her to say I had a great night etc & we texted on & off for a couple of days... i then asked her did she fancy going to the cinema & got no reply back...now I thought fair enough she wasn't interested in me & to leave it until about 2 weeks agao i got a text from her to say she was in the same nightclub & would really like to see me we again texted for a couple of days but once again I asked her to the cinema & got no reply...I thought F**k it I'll leave it but today her friend (my work mate) told me that sarah was sorry for not talkin to me but she had been sick & had been busy but said Hi???

now the question is what do I do...is she taking me for a ride or do you think she is genuine???

Lemming · 24-09-2003 6:11pm

DAH .. dah nah nah .. dah nah nah nah nah nah nah .. etc

I think I hear the music to the "Lone Ranger" in the background.

Twice you've asked her to go the cinema and twice you've had the exact same thing happen. A little too co-incidental me thinks.

Then again I could be wrong. Ask her. What' sthe worst that can happen?

Beruthiel · 24-09-2003 6:18pm

what's happened to actually speaking to a person face to face
or at least on the phone?
things are always clearer that way

AL][EN · 24-09-2003 7:32pm

I'd agree with Beruthiel totally, txt messaging can be so tedious and drawn out, signals can get crossed and txt's sometimes arent delivered for hours or even days!

/me shakes fist at sky "damn you vodaphone" (yes its happened to me too)

next time agree to go out with her again to the niteclub and ask her out to the movies when your there that way you'll deff get an answer for sure one way or another!!

Kell · 25-09-2003 9:23am

Mebbe she thinks yer a boring twat for inviting her to the cinema?? Ring her and say- "I am off to [insert county of choice] for the weekend. Fancy joining me?". At least that shows you're at least interesting.

K-

logic1 · 25-09-2003 9:35am

Gimme her number. I'll sort her out.

.logic.

alienhead · 25-09-2003 9:47am

ye, fcuk the cinema dude, take her bowling, good way to check out the package!

DapperGent · 25-09-2003 10:22am

Originally posted by Kell
Mebbe she thinks yer a boring twat for inviting her to the cinema?? Ring her and say- "I am off to [insert county of choice] for the weekend. Fancy joining me?". At least that shows you're at least interesting.

Damn straight. Cinema is so fecking boring. Maybe she's grown out of horsing into fellas in the back row.

Ask her out for a drink, get sloshed and let drunken nature take it's course.

Kali · 25-09-2003 10:29am

It's quite simple. Due to your pussying around and not making a move she gave up on you. Either do something soon or forget about ever being with her.

Oh and yeah, cinemas are god awful... just go out for a drink to a comedy club, very little conversation required and a good night guaranteed either way.

Sleipnir · 25-09-2003 10:33am

yeah going to the cinema is a dead-end. You're just sitting in the dark with a girl for two hours saying nothing. Go somewhere different as Kali suggested.

catspring · 25-09-2003 10:45am

yeh, what everyone else said!!!

no, but really, be a man and phone her.
what's the worst that could happen?
at least you'll get some closure one way or the other.

good luck,
hope you don't get her message minder....

Kell · 25-09-2003 10:47am

Oooh, and while I am at it, texting to arrange dates is so lame. Call her and let the power of the human voice work its little wonders, unless you say somethin stupid like-

"Hello? Hello Kate? Its me from the bar......"

K-

TightCornerBack · 25-09-2003 11:31am

ring her!!!!!

Funky · 25-09-2003 10:41pm

Ring is good

Text is bad

that should probably be added to the charter as those 6 words would solve 90% of the problems on this forum

K2 · 26-09-2003 9:19am

going to the flicks for a 1st date is too much like a teenagers gig. Sorry, you may be 17 but why not impress her by ringing her, bring her out to dinner and then go somewhere like a comedy club, nite club or whatever. An expenise nite out but it should do the trick. Leave the movies until the relationship is settled, its got to be hot and heavy for the first few weeks;)

elexes · 26-09-2003 10:09am

what kali said

gollem_1975 · 26-09-2003 4:49pm

again its hard to call these PI issues as I suppose you have to know the personalities involved but in any case

IMO ... from what you say this girl likes you or should I say ..liked you...

if its been a while since you last 'txted' she has probably hooked up with someone else ( if she goes to niteclubs , most girls I know will say its sooo easy for women to pull in clubs .. maybe with the person they want , maybe not ) and perhaps her idea of fun is to meet a guy on a friday or saturday night for a bit of fun and is not particularly interested in a serious relationship .

when she txted you from the club she probably had a bit of dutch courage and was either too shy to commit to a date when u txted her about goin to a movie or simply does not want a serious BF.

why don't u go to the same niteclub again .. does she go there a lot ? chances are you'll bump into her again. if shes not there do exactly as she did i.e. txt her saying that you are in the club ,don't be all ' would love to see you ' keep it more casual.

if you end up in the club together and you sense any chemistry between yourselves just kiss her as soon as you can.. if you don't you'll soon be in the 'friend zone' ...

oh yeah I should mention I am a bloke so I have no major insights into the workings of the female mind.. they're bloody hard to figure out at times I tell thee ... bo selecta:)

azezil · 26-09-2003 5:31pm

Bring her out for a drink, if its going well just say “excuse me while I’m rude and presumptuous” and just kiss her! works every time

... she may just be shy, a bit of cheeky humour always sorts that out

Typedef · 26-09-2003 5:39pm

Yeah "want to come for a drink".

I've used a permutation of that like

"@ 3am after many drinks"

"Hey do you wanna crash at my place....
No funny stuff... I have lots of space.
A spare couch
A spare room...

or we can share my bed".

mwa haha.

"Share my bed... as friends..."
After 8 beers...

Like YAH

They play along.

I suppose it'd be a bit more honest to say

"Hey... wanna come back to my place for full on sex".

But... hrrmm... you'd have to time it right..
Say with the tounge halfway down the throat..
or some such.

Gordon · 26-09-2003 6:45pm

My limited experience tells me that you didn't make a move on her.

Now you know for next time.

(Oh yeah, she's gone, you'd be lucky if you get another chance with her. If you do however - make a move on her in the physical stylee)

Peace · 26-09-2003 6:50pm

Originally posted by elexes
what kali said

Yes, what elexes said.

Typedef · 26-09-2003 7:19pm

Originally posted by Gordon
My limited experience tells me that you didn't make a move on her.

Good one.

make a move on her in the physical stylee

Aka "Drunken monkey sex".

Get her to call you daddy... or perhaps "Mr Barry White" in bed.

yeah...
mmmmm

messin around

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